31 Days to Reset Your Life: Recap and Reflect

This is the recap post for the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up for the program here.

Thank you to all of you amazing and generous participants, for your heartfelt sharing and authentic connections with the group! Thank you for blogging, tweeting and Facebooking your daily responses to the challenge. Thank YOU for taking part of this personal development journey. Because of you, the 31 Day Reset program has made a difference in the lives of over 800 people to date!

What was your experience?

Now that the challenge is over, it’s time to do a final recap. I’d love to hear your reflections on the experience and what outcomes and results came about for you. Please leave a comment below to answer the following questions.

  1. How has the 31 Day Reset Challenge been for you overall? Were you able to complete all the exercises? If not, why not?
  2. What did you like the most about the 31 Day Reset Challenge?
  3. Which exercise gave you the biggest breakthrough or “aha” moment? What did you learn from it?
  4. Were there any exercisea that you didn’t find useful to your personal growth? If so, why?
  5. Did you meet, interact or connect with anyone new during the challenge? If so, how? (blog readers, commenters, Twitter followers, in-person meetups)

Recap of 31 Days to Reset Your Life Assignments

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21 comments

  1. All lasting company is built on friendship.
    An economist is an expert who’ll know tomorrow why the items he predicted yesterday didn’t happen today.

  2. I fell off after Day 12 :( I’ve been job hunting while auditioning and maintaining my blog … oh yes, and looking for a new apartment. Life got in the way. I will consider starting again once things calm down. In either case, the part of the journey that I was able to make it through was really rewarding. Thank you, again, for making this resource available.

  3. The best thing about the 31 Day Reset Challenge is that it exists – that someone (Rosetta – you are a wonderful wombman!) cares enough about others to create this challenge and the series of exercises, all of which are based on sound psychological principles. All of the exercises are easy to understand and they all have a positive influence on one’s thinking. The cumulative effect is enough to get one moving in at least one (or more) major areas of living. My biggest “aha” moment was the realization that I had, somewhere along the path of life, become a negative thinker (and I had not realized it!) Intellectually, I always knew of course that one’s attitude is a choice; however, these exercises enabled me to see that the negative attitudes I held about “some things” were preventing me from moving forward. The major benefit for me in doing the exercises is that they must be done in the present moment, which gave me the little push that I needed to get back on track. The challenge of the “Reset” is to stop limiting oneself, either with thoughts about unfortunate things that had occurred in the past or dwelling on the fears one might have of the future. Doing the exercises sets a person on an “action” plan, and when one is engaged in action, there is movement. The only way to move is forward. Give thanks!

  4. Nadine, this doesn’t sound arrogant at all! You ARE a huge success story and honestly the Reset only played a small part in the direction you already wanted to take in your own life. I’ve so enjoyed your posts here on the blog, even though many of them made me tear up! It’s amazing to me how the universe (and the internet!) brought us together at just the right time. Please know that your story is absolutely MY story in that your presence has reaffirmed for me my own unique purpose in the world. Thank you.

  5. I would just like to say this project has spanned 2 months of the beginning of the rest of my life and it has really meant a huge deal to me.

    Rosetta, if it were not for you, I would not have known about the meet up website and I would not have had the “fortitude” to set up my own group (after feeling that I didn’t fit into any others).

    As a result of this group (which now has 38 members and counting) I am going out and socialising for the first time ever. I feel like I have a real shot at making some good solid friends with women who understand me because they ARE me. I have not had friends since I left school 16 years ago.

    I went from struggling to include friendship in my top ten values, to it now being the most successful thing in my life right now.

    I know this sounds corny and gushy as hell, but if you knew who I was and what I was like, you would know what a fantastically huge deal this is to an AvPD and social anxiety sufferer like me.

    I have learned that I need to open myself up to be vulnerable and face my fear of judgement and rejection head on. And not just face it, but step into it and embrace it.

    I want to live my life free to be me, without fear of judgement and rejection. I want a close knit network of supportive, loving and loyal girlfriends. Its important to me and it would now definatly have a place in the top 3 of my values list.

    I’m still having to see how my group goes ( http://www.meetup.com/2-Shy-London/ ) but the fact that I even did it and attempted to start up my own business coming from where I was just 5 months ago counts me as a huge success story for you (if that doesn’t sound too arrogant on my part!)

    So thank you Rosetta, you have really made a difference to me.

  6. My theme “phrase” for the coming year (thanks to Tricia the Joyologist!) is

    “Screw it, just do it.”

    My theme word for the coming year (thanks to Jess from the Sincerely Jess blog) is

    “Fortitude”. I read around many definitions of this word and it fit what I am aiming for exactly. I mish mashed all the definitions together to form this one definition:

    “Fortitude: Having the calm and patient strength, emotionally and mentally, to keep moving forward in the face of adversity.”

    Some of the definitions I found from various dictionaries were:

    The ability to confront pain, fear, risk, uncertainty. Calmness and patience in adversity.

    Power to resist attack

    Strength, firmness

    The strength of firmness of mind to encounter danger with coolness and courage

    To bear pain or adversity without depression or despondancey

    Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty or adversity.

    In order for me to go forward with my mindset of “screw it, just do it” I will need great amounts of “Fortitude”. I love the word so much, I was even thinking of tattooing it on the inside of my right wrist as a constant reminder of what I need to do when facing difficult situations. (for now I just write it on!)

    My theme song for the coming year is “Free” by the UK singer Estelle from her album “The 18th Day”. Part of the chorus goes “Don’t think about being less than yourself”. Which is what I need to remember for this coming year.

    Estelle “Free”. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jwWDreDlZRc

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  8. How has the 31 Day Reset Challenge been for you overall? Were you able to complete all the exercises? If not, why not?

    A few years ago, my friend and I started Life Makeovers. It was was similar to this, but the challenges were weekly. I loved it. The biggest challenge was doing it on a daily basis. I would stop doing the challenge until I could catch up and do them.

    What did you like the most about the 31 Day Reset Challenge?

    I liked having to dig deep. This wasn’t just a surface thing, your top 10 values? write a eulogy? SERIOUS TINGS! (lol..that’s the Jamaican in me…)

    Which exercise gave you the biggest breakthrough or “aha” moment? What did you learn from it?

    I never realized how important my values were to me (or what they were), until I had to write them down and define them. My fave challenge was writing my eulogy, as it said everything about my life that I want my friends and family to know (and the world for that matter) about me at the end of my life. Amazing.

    Were there any exercisea that you didn’t find useful to your personal growth? If so, why?

    Eliminate a limiting belief (maybe it was the options) and Find a therapist (I can’t get past the notion of seeing a professional as a want, when for someone else it might be a need).

    Did you meet, interact or connect with anyone new during the challenge? If so, how? (blog readers, commenters, Twitter followers, in-person meetups)
    I didnt meet anyone new, but I did do the challenge with some of my friends!

    Amazing project!!

  9. Thanks so much Rosetta,

    The 31 Day Reset Challenge overall was really enlightening. I fell behind a couple days sometimes but I always caught up and did the remaining exercises. What I liked most about the program is the variety of exercises. I felt that participating in the reset was an all encompassing challenge, I was forced to take an honest look at myself in several areas and I appreciated that. What I liked most about the reset was creating the personal mission statement, I really enjoyed writing and re-writing the statement until it really fit for my life. A few exercises gave me big breakthroughs and “A ha” moments, the life mapping exercise helped me see clearly the areas of my life that I hadn’t given adequate attention to, the 100 things that make me happy exercise reminded me of all the joy in my life that I can reach for at any moment, and the personal mission statement was just the bomb altogether. I didn’t find the turning the tv off exercise useful only because I don’t watch much tv anyway.

  10. Dear Rosetta,

    This was fun! During this process I was able to complete all task; however more importantly I forced myself to go on line and get over the fear of using computers :)

    I liked the way the the 31 day reset made me look honestly at myself, the ‘stop complaining for 24hrs’ was an eye opener. I had no idea how much I complain, so I’m working on that, also as I was thrown a U turn in my life I thought I had lost focus. this was because I was stressing on what I could no longer do. Now I can see that I have focus and I can still achieve the things I want just by being creative in the way I go about it :)

    I plan on reviewing this in 2012 to keep me on track

    thank you

  11. Hi Rosetta,

    Let first take time out to congratulate you on a really great program. I journeyed with you over the 31 day and f ind it very uplifting.I even spread the word and have people benefiting. My only draw back is that I get the feeling that this is geared for black women and by now my name will suggest that I am a male(Black).
    Not withstanding the information cut across all gender line and I am truly grateful that I could be a part of this experience.

    I therefore wish you all the best and keep on inspiring other black people and make the world a better place.
    ONE LOVE
    Yours Enlighten

    WINSTON MORGAN.

  12. Wow, these past 31 days have been great. I’ve learned a lot about myself and finally I am clearly stating what I want for my life (and not being wishy-washy about it). I feel good every time I look at my vision board, really proud of how it came out. I struggled with “Spice up Your Love Life” as I wanted to continue to focus on myself for once and my development before I put myself out there again – but will still complete this task later in the year! Though I didn’t interact with many others, I have been reading and inspired by the many that do share here on the site. You have put together something so great, thank you!

  13. Thank you for creating and sharing. This personal development experience was very refreshing and it definitely helped “revamp” ME. I have three more exercises to complete. I had a week with a sick child, so I fell a little behind, but I have looked over them, and have already jumped back in the saddle. I love my vision board, my personal mission statement, my life map, my bucket list, and my ideal life narrative. I learned more about myself; I was able to monitor habits that were hindrances to me, while capitalizing on my healthy habits. All of the exercises brought out aha moments for me. I interacted with several people during the challenge, and I definitely added new blogs to the list of blogs that I follow. I had a great time. And will definitely be passing the Life Challenge on to other people. I will probably do it again, with several of my friends the next time though.

  14. My Mantra – So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

    Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures.

  15. Although I didn’t complete every exercuse (but I will), I loved how it really made me evaluate my life and my goals. I’m so postitive about 2011. Great things are in store.

  16. Thank you for putting this challenge together. I still have four exercises to complete. I will follow through and complete them this month. The biggest thing I figured out was that I am one that holding myself back. I need to stop doing that. I feel empower now for the future and spend the last few days of 2010 brainstorming and working on myself and my side hustles. I follow a few resetters on twitter and bookmark a few blogs for later reading.

  17. This was a really excellent challenge. Great way to end 2010 and start 2011 feeling refreshed and renewed.

    I was able to complete all the exercises and it was a really great way for me to put into perspective what is important to me, what challenges I face in life, how to overcome them and what I want my life to look like.

    I had many aha moments during this challenge but writing my eulogy really made me stop and pause for a minute. I realized I didn’t want people to read my obituary and there was nothing in it that showed I lived a full life. I knew that I needed to do things that made me happy and line up with my purpose so that my life wasn’t lived in vain.

    I did get a chance to connect with other “resetters” on twitter and through our blogs. This was a great experience and a great way to connect and grow with some fabulous ladies.

  18. I *loved* the 31 Day Reset Challenge and thought it was a wonderful way to prepare for the new year. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to complete all of the exercises, mostly due to vacation plans. The two that I skipped were “Ditch TV for 24 Hours” (I know… I know… I’m addicted, I cannot help it. I’ve just learned to accept it) and “Ask for Help. Offer Help.” Hopefully in 2011 I can work on these two issues.

    What I loved the most about the challenge was the ability for some intense self-reflection, really holding a mirror up to yourself and seeing the positives, but also the flaws and the areas for improvement. I loved reading other participants’ blogs and replies. The exercise that gave me the biggest “aha” moment was scoring my values on the Envision Your Values in Action exercise. It was truly shameful to see some of my scores in some of the areas that I consider to be my highest values. I will be focusing on those things in the new year for certain. The only exercise that I really didn’t get much out of was the Eliminate a Limiting Belief one. I can’t explain why, but it just didn’t resonate with me. As far as connecting with others, I was able to chat with folks on Twitter and via our blogs and I’m excited to add some of these ladies to my blogroll.

    Thanks so much for this wonderful experience and for the opportunity to participate in the challenge! Happy 2011!

  19. The 31 Day Reset Challenge was great and I was able to complete all the exercises. The things that I liked the most about the challenge were that each exercise allowed me to think long and hard about what was important to me and in turn use that to build upon achieving my goals and ideal life. I actually had a few “aha” moments, but the one that meant the most was the Eliminate a Limiting Belief challenge. That challenge made me reach far back into my childhood to pinpoint why I sometimes felt that I wasn’t good enough. Very therapeutic. I didn’t think that there were any exercises that were not useful to my personal growth. They all served a specific purpose that made me think about how the simplest thing can affect my growth –like watching too much television. I met a couple of cool women that I connected with on Twitter and I now even read some of their blogs.

    To sum up the 31 Day Reset Challenge, I’m feeling like a new woman on the very first day of 2011. I have for the past month acknowledged and accepted things in my life that I probably never would have put much thought into otherwise. If it wasn’t for this challenge I probably would not have moved forward with my side hustle so quickly or dealt with a lot of my personal issues. Thanks Rosetta for giving us Happy Black Women a forum to grow!

    • So happy to hear your 31 Day Reset report! Glad you did the limiting belief exercise – that one has completely changed my outlook as well. Powerful stuff. Happy 2011 :)

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