This post is Day 4 of the 2012 edition of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up here.
Yesterday, you wrote a magical love letter to yourself in anticipation of all the good things to come. You may have enjoyed writing it and hopefully you’re feeling pretty optimistic about the future. Another thing you may have realized though, albeit subconsciously, is that you may not be exactly living up to the values you have for your life.
Today’s exercise will force you to address that disconnect by doing the first task in developing a personal mission statement over the next three days: identifying your values. What matters most to you in life? The answer to this question is called your values. Often we find that we’ve forgotten about that which we care about because we allowed ourselves to get stuck doing something else, on someone else’s agenda.
Estimated Time to Complete: 30-60 minutes
Take at least 15 minutes to jot down a free-for-all list of all the things that means a lot to you in your life, all the things you care about. Feel free to take more time if you need it.
Just a few examples of values include:
- Achievement, fame, advancement, leadership
- Money, power, authority, economic security
- Having a family, children, love, community, friendships
- Nature, religion, public service, ecological awareness, healthy living, physical challenge
- Democracy, civic involvement, wisdom, integrity, truth
- Location, privacy, country, adventure, fast-paced living
(Remember, these are just examples. There are many more you can – and should – think of on your own. Most people come up with at least a dozen values once they get going.)
Your Reset 10
Once you identify all of your values – all the things you care about, choose your “Reset 10″ – a list of your TOP 10 values from your list. They don’t have to be in any particular order, though you may certainly rank them if you’d like.
(The worksheet for this exercise in the Reset Workbook may assist you.)
Tomorrow, we will move on to the next step in the process of developing a personal mission statement: envisioning your values in action.
Take Action and Reflect: When you’re done, please share your “Reset 10″ values with us in the comments! How did you feel as you completed this exercise? If you blogged about today’s assignment, please post the link in the comments so we can read it!
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This was hard to narrow down but was good because it allowed me to rationalize what was really important to me. However, I did have to throw in a value or 2 as a bonus. Outside of God, the rest are in no particular order.
God
Being Healthy (Physically and emotionally)
Ability to always see the good in others
Volunteering/Philanthropy
Family
Career Happiness
Love (From Self and Others)
Joy
Close Friendships
Knowledge/Education
Bonus: Growth, Compassion, Loyalty
My top 10 values are:
family
friends
spiritual growth
love
communication
modesty
organization
leadership
adventure
financial independence
Family,
Knowledge,
spirituality,
love,
education,
creative expression,
growth,
optimism,
sexuaity
Friends
Achievement
public health
My Reset 10 =. God, honesty, my marriage, my children, extended family, education/ growth, $$ to have nice things and share, good health, activity, people
My reset 10 in no particular order is
1) being closer to God
being there for others
2) more fun time with hubby and kid
3) expanding our family
4) paying down debt
5) making more money
6) another career path (being my own boss)
7) live healthier
9) blogging
10) vacationing
I’m particularly glad we did this exercise because I needed a good brain dump. I believe everything on my list is attainable, just need to get rid of any excuses and do them.
Read my latest blog post…Quick and Easy Pasta Salad
In No Particular Order:
1. Love
2. Friendship
3. Music
4. Success
5. Fame
6. Money
7. Travel
8. Honesty
9. Great Views
10. Service
I am definately behind but I am determined to complete this. I started a week ago.
My reset 10:
God
Family
Love
Health
Financial Security
Enjoyable moments
Education
Respect
Happiness
Loyalty
Here are my values:
YES value – saying yes to life, yes to adventures and opportunities
HEALTH Maverick – nutrition conscious, exercise, relaxation techniques (yoga, meditation, etc), life balance
RISK Taker – Going after dreams, living life fully
Generous – Share of self and resources, understand that we are all connected and willing to help others
HUMAN Value – Fully enjoying your full messy life. Willingness to accept all of their flaws and strengths
SPIRIT – Inspiring, radiates the divine spirit in everything they do and touch
My RESET TOP TEN! Man this was HARD!
1. LOVE
2. SPIRITUALITY
3. FAMILY
4. ACTING
5. HAPPINESS
6. FINANCIAL SECURITY
7. INTEGRITY
8. TRAVEL
9. HUMANITY
10. FAME
my reset 10 are reflect characteristics and/or beliefs i hold – those to imbue as part of what i do in life and how i serve (in alpha order) – authenticity, community (sense of, e.g., family, friends, neighborhood, etc.), curiosity, equity, foresight, forthright, imagination, love, self-awareness, and service. i found my choosing my reset 10 among the many not to be as simple as i thought it would be to pare down just to 10. nevertheless, i enjoyed the free-for-all time i spent jotting activities, characteristics, and ideas that matter to me (along with my theme song playing in the background!).
Read my latest blog post…#31dayreset: catch-up day 4
just had to update – - – i am eager to share my MAJOR **AHA** moments (as a result of my day 5); i have started to transfer my handwritten journal entries (day 5 values in action) to my blog. AND – i have had continued **AHA** moments as part of day 6 person mission statement, day 7 life map, and day 8 . I **TOTALLY** have revisited my day 3 love letter to my future me/self and am realizing how i have either added or replaced items. i just wanted to share this now, before i forget.
thanks again for doing this!
Great for you!
I had my own *AHA* moment when I look at Rosetta’s tips to getting the most out of ou
(sorry , messed that last one up ) **Great for you! I had my own *AHA* moment when I look at Rosetta’s tips to getting the most out of our reset so I’ve decided to convert my entries to my blog
and showing my face more in the comments! here’s to the journey of a great life , kudos !
Success-Accomplishment
Loyalty (Friendships)
Economic & Financial security
Happiness-Contentment
Travel
Affection-(Love & Caring)
Privacy-Solitude
Having a Family
Personal Growth & Development
*Sexuality & Pleasure- now I know some of you are looking at me with the side eye, but I have a couple issues with the whole concept. And i need to learn to get over them.
Read my latest blog post…31 Days to Reset Your Life: Day 4
1. Put God First
2. Always be there for my family
3. Respect myself
4. Respect others
5. Be something positive
6. Help others
7. Teach others around me
8. Persue my dreams
9. Get educated
10. Don’t be lazy
My top 10:
*God
*Spiritual/physical family
*Wisdom
*Love
*Prosperity/economic security
*Social justice
*Legacy
*Having a family
*Self-discovery
*Achievement
My top 10 are:
-relationship with God/faithfulness
-enjoying the moment and not sweating the small things
-economic stability
-marriage with children
-respect
-motivation
-stick-to-itness (a new vocabulary word that means for determination and perseverance)
-humility
-balance
-positive perspective
My day 4 message: http://hittheresetbutton2012.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/the-reset-10/
sorry i am late but mine can be found on my blog…. and it may not look like 10 but they are in there : )
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset ~ Day 4
My values
Love
Children and husband
Giving back to my communities
Family and friends
Healthy living
Putting God first
Achievement
Adventure
Money
Living in two different environments (fast paced/country)
Top 10
1. Spirituality
2. Family(Children)
3. Financial Security
4. Career
5. Integrity
6. Friendships
7. Healthy Lifestyle (Physical & Emotional)
8. Love
9. Education
10. Giving back/Charity
Here are my top 10:
Relationships
Respect
Financial stability
Self-Love
Exploring/Travel
Physical Health
Baking
Faith
Happiness
Wisdom
Loved this day’s exercise! Although I had mine written before coming here, the other values made it easy for me to bring clarity to my own list. Thank you, ladies! Looking forward to reading the blog posts!
In no particular order:
Independence/freedom, financial stability, education, love/life (loving life? a life filled with love?), helping others, relationships, spirituality, emotional health and wellness, physical health, written and musical expression
I had 45 all together, but these 10 were most important
honesty
openness
aesthetic beauty
music
freedom
relationships
spirituality
connection
healing
expression
i like this exercise because it allowed me to SEE in words the things that I value. i realized that much of what i value is not material. that realization let me know that at worst im changing and at best, evolving.
My List of values:
Financial Stability
Family (loving husband and SEVERAL happy kids)
Being Healthy
Faith
Legacy
Travel
Integrity
De-stressing/Me Time
Happiness (to include as much time with my friends and family as possible)
Laughter
Read my latest blog post…Taking another Break
Here are my top 10:
Spiritual Growth/Development
Quality family time
Self-love
healthy living (mind/body/spirit)
volunteering
economic security
cleanliness
personal presentation
leadership
written experssion
My top 10 in no particular order. I struggled between happiness and patience, but I realized that happiness is with each of these things, so I went with patience.
Independence
Spending time with my family/kids
Relationship with God
Self-Improvement/progression
Me time
Financial stability
Healthy body image (exercise)
Defining my passion/career
Empowering myself and others
Patience
Reset 10
Happiness
Poetry and its purpose
My loved ones
Loving myself
Growth
Truly living (doing what I love)
Love
Caring for my family
My arts
Being true to myself
Im so thankful for this exercise <3
yeah, i’m just now trynna catch up… i almost struggled to think of things this go ’round. academia is taking over my mind! http://tmblr.co/ZFWy-xE-xnth
Read my latest blog post…Shufflin’ Around…
My top 10, also in no particular order.
Spending quality time with my sons
Being creative
Earning, living and giving abundantly
Education
Truly enjoying and experiencing life
Leaving an excellent legacy for my sons and future generations
Ministering to others in the way that God has gifted me
Connecting with my family and friends on a regular basis
Entertaining as much as I can
Raising my sons so that they are dynamic mental, physical, spiritual forces in God’s Kingdom
Read my latest blog post…Team Londa
leaving a legacy is the one thing on your list that stands out to me. It is so important that we do that for our children, but also for our family and friends and the world. What is the legacy that you want to leave?
Read my latest blog post…Day 8
A lot of people say that they want to teach their children how to love God, but you go further. You want them to be mighty men who will impact the kingdom. This is important..and a huge responsibility, but I believe you can. God has equipped you with what you need to make that real.
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Day 4!
http://serendipitousmusings.com/2012/01/08/day-4-identify-your-values-31dayreset/
Read my latest blog post…Day 5: Envision Your Values in Action #31DayReset
Reset 10
relationship with God
husband
children
fitness
health
morality
time management
integrity
cleanliness
financial security
http://soulxposed2u.com/31-days/day-4-challenge/
Read my latest blog post…Day 5 Challenge
Completed. My values can be found on my blog!! This assignment was challenging, but well worth it.
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset: Day 4 & 5
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check out my blog post on values: http://www.loryncwilson.com/?p=1100
coming up with the values wasn’t the hard part…the hard part was narrowing the list down the ten!
Humor was a good one! Forgot all about that.
Whew! This is harder than I thought that it would be. I might need more time or have to revisit this one, but then again I am a simple person.
Check out day 3 and 4 on my blog: http://walkingthroughhoney.blogspot.com/p/31-days-to-reset-your-life-challenge.html
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This exercise was very eye-opening. Here’s my blog post about it!
http://wp.me/pMavI-HZ
–Breanna
thinkroyalty.wordpress.com
Read my latest blog post…Day 4 of resetting my life: Values
I CANNOT believe how much I have forgotten about me in the past few years. Excuse me everyone but I’m a little outraged with me. I have been with my husband for almost 9 years(married 2) and I’m not blaming him for anything; today’s assignment made me realize how much I have traded me for us. And yes I do realize it is somewhat necessary in marriage. As my husband and I exit the honeymoon phase, I also realize that having my values are important. If I neglect my values for the sake of any other person, in the end, what will I have to offer me or anyone else: especially my daughter.
I’m so glad today’s assignment brought you some clarity. My experience has been that when I lose parts of myself for the sake of a romantic relationship, I begin to resent my partner, even though he didn’t “make” me give up anything.
Im glad u guys are talking about this, it made me realize that I may be doing the same thing. I definitely dont want to resent my bf especially since he isnt forcing anything on me. We just have to b true to ourselves no matter what.