I’m really been enjoying the comments on yesterday’s post, 3 Ways to Stay Open to Possibility in Your Love Life, but this one from AT is my favorite so far:
I am online dating and have had more dates in the last four months than in the last four years. It has been a wonderful experience once I learned to enjoy the process. I may not find my soulmate online but I have met, talked to flirted with texted and dated men from a wide variety of backgrounds and experiences. Coming off a toxic relationship, it has been a great way to meet new people with no expectations on either side. Rosetta I want to thank you as your post about online dating planted a seed. If you have your mind right it’s far better than sitting at home bemoaning your loneliness. And on top of it, I’m over 40 and a size 16-18 which has not hurt me in the least! So ladies be encouraged and think of it as a fun way to expand your horizons. Instead of being on a desperate search for a ring, just be open and it will be a positive, learning experience.
I love it when such great advice comes from our HBW community! Thank you AT for sharing your story here.
By now, I’m sure you’ve heard at least one story about how a friend of a friend of a soror found her husband or soulmate or Prince Charming online. While that scenario sounds so romantic and offers hope to other ladies looking for love, it may also seem unlikely for many women who are just now getting back into the dating scene or making a commitment to revive their love lives. So what I love about AT’s story is that it’s realistic - that even if she does not find her “soulmate” online, it’s still worth it for the experience of dating vs. staying home feeling lonely.
Have you tried online dating as a way to expand the possibilities for your love life? If not, why not?
Further reading: A Brief Guide to Getting Started with Online Dating
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I really enjoyed reading this post. I too have joined online dating and I have to say, its because of you. I started reading your posts when you were blogging about the Rocket Scientist. You inspired me to expand my horizons and branch out. I had moved to a new city and needed someone that could really show me around town and someone to hang out with so I said not! Who knows, a friend could turn into a potential mate. I didn’t start a profile until recently tho because I didn’t want to be perceived as desperate or someone find me on a dating site and say “Hey, why is Keila on here?” (Silly I know!) But Its actually been a fun experience. And after several conversations, I’m finally getting the courage to meet one of the guys I’ve been talking to. So thank you Rosetta! Thank you for being open-minded and inspiring women to step out and do their thang!
Well, when I checked by here to see if you responded to my post Rosetta, I didn’t expect to be immortalized on your site. Well, I’m so flattered, I’m blushing. Thanks for the love. I will keep all of you guys posted on how things work out, but truly, it has been a blessing to have so much positive attention. Ladies if you’re open to it you can learn from every experience…even a really bad relationship. I did….and I hope to report down the line with my version of a happy ending..whatever form that may take…
I definitely enjoy online dating. I think it is important to have some discernment and not go into it thinking that the first guy you meet is gonna sweep you off your feet. (I made that mistake) All in all I have met some great guys and gone out on some interesting dates and fun dates. Thanks for this post!!!
Read my latest blog post…Refusing to Be the 20%
I can add my name to the list of woman who’ve met their mate online. Ironically enough it wasn’t intensional or planned. We met on twitter, exchanged poems and short written conversations. We didn’t speak on the phone until months later. Eventually we became friends, editing each other’s poems, speaking to each other in poetic verses, and slowly falling in love. But one thing stood in our way, distance, but we conquered that as well. We collected our poems, emails, conversations and recently released everything in a book, our love story. The book is entitled, Love Taps: Mynes. I think when you value the small moments, build a friendship, it opens the door for evolution. But it cannot be forced at any point. For us everything just fell into place. We were both willing to sacrifice and unite.