Last week, I sent out my free year-end reflection tool as a gift to Happy Black Woman email subscribers: The Annual Review/Preview Guide. I completed my own privately, but I wanted to share just a few of my 2013 reflections and 2014 intentions with you. If you haven’t done some sort of annual review yet, I highly encourage you to set aside some time to do so this week. Reflection is one of the most powerful tools for personal development. And hey, it’s free!
What I Want to Remember About 2013
What was the most valuable lesson I learned this year?
This year, I learned how to stay in gratitude for every thing that comes into my life. Every experience, every person, every opportunity, every challenge is meant to teach me something about how to become a better person. I see now that it’s all meant for my good, to help me live with more love and compassion for other people. Even in my most stressful moments related to my business, my family and my romantic relationships, I was able to step back and see the bigger picture. I embraced the truth that I’m not meant to suffer and that I am always in control of my emotions and my actions.
What was the best book, song and/or movie I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?
I listened to Beyonce’s inspirational song “I Was Here” a lot this year. It really resonates with me as a theme song for my life and the legacy that I want to leave. Although I’ve heard it a million times, I still get emotional every time I hear it. It’s a reminder that my life isn’t even really about me. Ultimately, it’s about the people I help, the lives I touch, the love I give and the work that I do to make the world a better place. It grounds me in the truth that my life is my message – and that message can inspire other people long after I die.
What was the best city, state or country I discovered (or rediscovered) this year?
This spring, I took a trip to Koh Tao, Thailand with Project Getaway. Thailand was a major country on my bucket list! I enjoyed the food, the beaches and just the very different experience of being in Asia. I wrote about my journey and experiences during my trip to Thailand in the following travel diary series:
- Trust Your Gut and Take the Leap: HBW Goes to Thailand!
- Travel Diary: My 24-Hour Trip to Bangkok and Sushi in Japan
- Travel Diary: One Day in Bangkok – Jet Lag, Street Food and a $4 Foot Massage
- Travel Diary: One Week in Koh Tao, Thailand
- Travel Diary: My Crazy Full Moon Party Experience in Thailand (VIDEO)
What was the biggest personal milestone I reached this year? (these can be goals you reached in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)
After talking about it for years, I finally moved away from the Washington, DC area to my dream location of Honolulu, Hawaii! It was actually my trip to Thailand and meeting so many other young location-independent entrepreneurs through Project Getaway that pushed me to take the leap.
What professional accomplishments (at work or in my business) am I most proud of this year?
So many amazing things happened in my business this year, but I’m most proud of leading my first Happy Black Woman weekend retreat in DC and being able to increase my income by 30%. This is the first year since I quit my job and took my business full-time that I earned more money than I made at my last job! It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you simply set bigger goals for yourself and your business.
What I Want to Bring Into My Life in 2014
What do I deserve more of in 2014?
I deserve more dedicated writing and wandering and wondering time. I deserve the gift of more lazy days where I have nothing on my calendar but going to the beach. I also deserve more romance.
What 3 personal milestones do I most want to reach in the coming year? (these can be goals in the areas of lifestyle & fun, money & finances, health & wellness, family & friends, love & romance or personal growth & spirituality)
- Build a romantic relationship with a man who is fun, compassionate and interesting.
- Pay down all of my consumer debt.
- Grow a new circle of friends and colleagues who are all on the path to personal growth.
What 3 professional accomplishments do I most want to see for myself next year? (these can be goals in the area of career & work for my job and/or business)
- Help 1,000 women to create their ideal lives through one-on-one coaching, online courses, workshops, retreats and live events.
- Increase my income by 50%. (And keep more of it!)
- Partner with colleagues I admire and grow my email list by at least 100%.
What do I want to learn in 2014?
I want to learn how to swim! This beautiful island would be even more fun if I wasn’t scared to venture beyond a few feet of water in the ocean.
What do I want to cross off of my “bucket list” in 2014?
Go skydiving or bungee jumping! Yep, I want to jump out of somebody’s plane and feel like I’m flying at least once in my life.
My Theme Word(s) for 2014: Build & Grow
The intention that I want to take into 2014 is to build and grow what I’ve created over the past few years. I have a brand and community that I can serve in a much broader and deeper way. I have relationships that I can grow and nurture as I pursue my personal and professional goals. I have opportunities to play a bigger game in my business and motivate many more women to live the lives they really want. I have a heart that is wide open to the possibility of meeting someone that I can build a strong romantic relationship with.
In the coming year, I’m ready to take the sage advice of the lovely Afrobella (who co-hosted the Chicago HBW Happy Hour with me this year!) and “rise to the occasion.” My hope is that we will all rise together in 2014 and do what is it we were put here on earth to do. Here’s to an amazing year of growth!
Leave a comment: What theme word or phrase will you be taking with you into 2014?