Dating advice is not bad, in and of itself. But it is very problematic to take any of it at face value. Why? Because it’s usually based on the advice-giver’s own experiences! If they have had bad experiences, they will advise you to protect yourself, to be cautious so you won’t get hurt. My … Continue reading
I remember the day I asked one of my college boyfriends why he loved me. I was being playful that afternoon. I was feeling romantic and flirtatious. But I was still not prepared for what he said. I love you … Continue reading
Yesterday, we talked about reframing how we view relationships. Perhaps you will experiment to see if it works for you to look at them as experiences, not absolutes. One reason I am exploring this concept in my own relationships is … Continue reading
Out of all the women I know, most of them express frustration with their romantic relationships. Even though most of the women I interact with are black, it would be silly to chalk it up as a “black woman problem” though, because as I’ve said before, I don’t believe that black women have it any “worse” in … Continue reading
As a self-employed single woman, I have to make my own opportunities for meeting men to date since I don’t get dressed up everyday and hang out after work downtown like I used to when I had a 9 to 5. … Continue reading
So, I’m back from a weeklong vacation in Jamaica. It was actually my third time visiting the island. Just like last year, I went with my sister and stayed in Montego Bay as we really like the vibe there. I’m still in withdrawal from the beaches, drinking rum punch everyday and having someone cook all my meals at … Continue reading
For the past few years, black women have been told that there aren’t enough “good black men” to go around, that no one wants to marry us, and that we need to date outside of our race if we ever … Continue reading
I get asked about my online dating experiences a lot, so I figured I’d write up a post with some information and resources to help ladies who want to try it for themselves! Over the past 10 years, the majority … Continue reading
True story. I went to a new primary care doctor for a routine physical a few years ago, and after looking at my chart, he promptly asked me why I was so thin. “You’re underweight for your age,” he said. … Continue reading
This post is Day 18 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up for the program here. Like the song says, baby, it’s cold outside. And it’s no better time to get back in tune with your … Continue reading
”There in all of us rest a piece of God that lays in wait for us to conjure up and love. We see God when we LOVE each other.” – Tshombe I’ve been wanting to do a response to brother-poet … Continue reading