I was speaking at the National Urban League Youth Summit last week and the guy who spoke after me gave some very sound advice to the teenagers in attendance. He said that young people these days behave too much like groupies. They “fan” their favorite artists on Facebook, they “follow” their favorite celebrities on Twitter, and they have lengthy conversations about how many records Drake sold.
I chuckled, because adults do the same thing. Where do we think the kids get it from? Mama’s sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Detroit.
The point he was making was that many of us spend so much time keeping tabs on other people’s lives, that we rarely stop to evaluate our own. We spend our time on celebrity gossip sites while our own life is in disarray. We keep track of how many millions Beyonce is worth, yet our own money is funny. We sit up and watch the Kardashians get married, but do nothing to improve our own hubby prospects.
I think it’s cool to have people to look up to where you can say, “I want to live large like that one day,” but it can be dangerous to live vicariously through them. It can lead to avoiding the very real and very difficult task of becoming the people we were meant to be. Because that “one day” pinnacle of success will never come in your life if you don’t take steps to achieve it. Look at Diddy. The man has a lot of dough, but he worked hard to get it. He gets out of bed early to go make those deals that push his businesses forward.
If we just spent a little more time on becoming our own biggest fan, maybe we’d drop the compulsive need to be all up in everybody else’s fabulous life. In fact, we’d be too busy living our own.