The lack of self love among black woman is at crisis levels. Years of wrong beliefs and negative circumstances have caused us to think and live more in terms of limitation than possibility. We don’t love ourselves because we are not convinced that we are worthy of love. But each of us is unique, a jewel that needs to be seen for what it is. This conversation between Rosetta and her guest, Abiola Abrams is full of juicy insights into the way you can begin to love yourself, believe in the power and potential of your true self, and begin walking a new path that will take you on the discovery of your lifetime.
We have a duty to evolve our bloodlines and our possibilities.
Abiola Abrams believes that black women not only need to learn the art of self love to empower themselves, they also need to learn it so they can fulfill a sacred duty to their children and children’s children. It is time for the limitations and hindrances to be cast aside so that black women and their families are able to partake of the inheritance of their birthright as black people. It’s time to evolve our possibilities as black women – and self love is the first step, taking back the dignity that is rightfully ours. Discover how you can take the first steps to restored bloodlines and possibilities, on this episode.
Trying to make other people happy you wind up not making anybody happy. Not even yourself.
One of the first steps Abiola Abrams says black women need to take on the journey to self love is to stop trying to please people. Of course, we all want people to be happy with us but it gets to a point where trying to make everybody happy makes nobody happy, not even yourself. You shouldn’t be living in that kind of misery even a day longer. Find out how Abiola says you can begin to step out of the misery by loving yourself and establishing a clear sense of identity in your authentic self, on this episode of Happy Black Woman.
You have to let go of everything that is not serving the life you want.
Throughout life, each of us has a myriad of things that come to be part of our life, things that we get used to and tolerate that should never have been allowed into our lives in the first place. It’s those things that are the hardest to get rid of because they feel so natural, so normal and right. But if there are things in your life that are not serving you in a way that will bring about the life you want and need, then you need to get rid of those things. On this episode, Abiola Abrams talks with Rosetta about the difficulty of letting go and how the first steps are sometimes the hardest.
Get specific about the things you want to be and do in the world.
You may have heard the old saying, “If you aim at nothing, you’re sure to hit it.” It’s a pithy way of saying that every one of us needs to have goals that we are striving for. Without them, we flounder in a sea of doubt and insecurity. But on this episode, Abiola Abrams says that it’s not just important to have goals, it’s important that they are specific and clear. When you get clear about who you are and what you want in life, then you are able to see what things in your life are helping you get there and what things are holding you back. Find out how to make the clear choice for yourself and your future, on this episode.
Outline of this great episode
- [0:30] Rosetta’s introduction of her guest Abiola Abrams and the work she does.
- [4:30] The power and importance of self love.
- [7:30] What was it that motivated Abiola to make changes in her own life?
- [11:54] An internship that moved Abiola in a new direction.
- [14:00] The “ah-ha” moment that showed her that she wanted to coach and help women.
- [20:34] What Abiola had to overcome to become her authentic self.
- [23:24] Where black women can start in discovering their own self and true life.
- [30:22] Abiola’s advice for a woman starting out.
- [33:55] How you can connect with Abiola.
Resources & Links mentioned in this episode
- www.UnblockMyEnergy.com – get your free resources
- Zig Ziglar
- BOOK: Think And Grow Rich
About Abiola Abrams
Self-Worth Revolutionary Abiola Abrams is an award-winning author, transformational speaker and coach, ESSENCE advice columnist, spiritual teacher and TV lifestyle expert seen on networks from MTV to the BBC. With soulcare and strategy, her work empowers spirit-centered women leaders to stop playing small, answer their callings and become the women they were born to be. Abiola’s mindset reset empowerment tools range from purpose-filled books, meditation albums and goddess affirmation cards to her Spiritpreneur School podcast, womanifesting courses and the Abundance Pray Love Retreat in Bali. Join Abiola’s Spiritpreneur Warrior Sisterhood at ManifestYourPower.com for guidance in self-love, self-launch, and self-creation.
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