This post is Day 12 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge for 2011. Learn more and sign up for the program here.
It’s now been almost two weeks since you started the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. You probably started off with a bang, excited and ready to go. But like most participants, life got in the way and you may have fallen off after just a few days. Don’t beat yourself up about being “behind.” It’s normal at this point to have missed a day or two of the assignments.
You may be in the process of catching up with us from the last eleven days. That’s fine. You may even be one of our “silent participants.” That’s all good, too. Either way, I’m glad you’re here. Another possibility, however, is that you may actually struggling right now to push through the assignments and commit fully to the challenge.
If so, what you’re experiencing is called resistance. Also known as the lizard brain.
What is the lizard brain?
Leadership and marketing guru Seth Godin describes the lizard brain this way:
We say we want one thing, then we do another. We say we want to be successful but we sabotage the job interview. We say we want a product to come to market, but we sandbag the shipping schedule. We say we want to be thin but we eat too much. We say we want to be smart but we skip class or don’t read that book the boss lent us.
The contradictions never end. When someone shows up and acts without contradiction, we’re amazed. When an athlete just does the sport, or when a writer just writes the words, we can’t help but watch, astonished at the purity of their actions. Why is it so difficult to do what we say we’re going to do?
The lizard brain.
Or as Steven Pressfield describes it, the resistance. The resistance is the voice in the back of our head telling us to back off, be careful, go slow, compromise. The resistance is writer’s block and putting jitters and every project that ever shipped late because people couldn’t stay on the same page long enough to get something out the door.
The resistance grows in strength as we get closer to shipping, as we get closer to an insight, as we get closer to the truth of what we really want. That’s because the lizard hates change and achievement and risk.
The lizard is a physical part of your brain, the pre-historic lump near the brain stem that is responsible for fear and rage and reproductive drive. Why did the chicken cross the road? Because her lizard brain told her to.
The lizard brain is the epicenter of fear. Because when we listen to the lizard brain, we make the kind of choices that lead us on a path away from our big dreams. When you’re in the clutches of the lizard brain, you begin to doubt yourself. You begin to resent the process. You feel yourself wanting to give up and throw in the towel.
In a nutshell, the lizard brain is what stops you in your tracks and keeps you from moving forward.
But in reality, when the lizard brain shows up, it’s simply a sign that you’re going somewhere. You’re in motion and moving toward higher ground. So the best thing for you to do at this point is to assume the good and operate accordingly.
You may be feeling some resistance in completing the exercises we’ve done so far, and that’s OK. Your lizard brain may be telling you that you don’t have the time to get through them. That’s because your lizard brain is scared. It’s overwhelmed by the new revelations that are coming into your consciousness.
What I want you to do though, is to keep going anyway. Because anyone who’s ever accomplished anything in life has had to push through the fear and the resistance to get to the good stuff on the other side.
And I want to see you there. So here’s what you’re gonna do. You’re gonna write a letter to your lizard brain and tackle that sucker once and for all.
Estimated Time to Complete: 30-45 minutes
Write a letter to your lizard brain to acknowledge its presence and declare your freedom from allowing it to rule your life from this point forward. Your letter should reflect your new awareness and be stern, but loving. You may use the format below or freestyle your own.
Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to __________________________, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through, but instead I sabotoged my success by ____________________________________.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by _____________________________ and you came along in the form of self-doubt. I knew I wanted to shift gears, but instead, you told me that __________________________________.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
[Your Name]
Take Action and Reflect: Please share your letter to your lizard brain with us in the comments. How are you experiencing resistance right now in the challenge or in any other area of your life? How will you make sure you keep moving forward? If you blogged about today’s assignment, please post the link in the comments so we can read it!
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Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear medown.
For instance, when I tried to become an intern for a personal stylist, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through, but instead I sabotoged my success by not following through with a callback to obtain the opportunity.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by getting ruin of negative surroundings and people and you came along in the form of self-doubt. I knew I wanted to shift gears, but instead, you told me that no one will ever be at the level that I want them to be to influence my life.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
Nikki Washington
Here is my letter
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset – Day 12 – Dear Lizard Brain
Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve noticed you lately popping up in my life more and more often. It seems like the more I commit to this challenge – the more I move toward living the life I want – the more you try to hold me back and prevent me from reaching my goals.
For example, when I start to grow close to people, you use fear to hold me back from being my most open, honest, and friendly self. You remind me of all the old hurts I’ve sustained and tell me that they will do the same. You talk me into closing myself off and being “too cool to be touched”…which is, ironically, what has led to most of the hurtful actions and misunderstandings of my past.
As another example, when I recently tried to map out my ideal career, you told me that every position I wanted was out of my reach. You said that getting a PhD and being a professor is too much work, requires too much education, money, and subjective evaluation. You ran me into the ground, telling me I’m not good enough and don’t have what it takes, and I procrastinated all day long on the one simple thing – researching MFA programs – I needed to do that day. You even terrified me right out of signing up for the GRE, which is probably what I really needed to do. You got me good, Lizard Brain…but I don’t like it, and you’ve got to go.
I know you’re scared. You think that I’ll be devastated if I don’t live up to the high expectations I’ve set for myself. You think I’ll crumble when faced with rejection or failure of any kind. But I won’t. When I let go and do what I know I can do, I succeed, even in failure. Remember all those poems and stories I sent out this year? Yes, I got a lot of rejections, but I didn’t flip out, and I got a lot of acceptances, too – more than I would have gotten had I listened to you and not submitted anything.
So, Lizard Brain, this is goodbye. It’s been nice knowing you – you’ve “scared me straight” a couple of times – but now I’m resting in God’s hands and letting Him be in control. When I see you trying to sneak in to the party that is my life, I’ll have to kick you out because you’re not invited.
Adios muchacho,
Autumn
Love you letter to the Lizard Brain!! Keep up the good fight and know that when he comes around something AWESOME is waiting for you.
Thanks! You do the same.
Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth you show up to tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to finish school, and start my own business, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through, but instead I sabotaged my success by not seeking business investors and not pushing myself to work through the financial issues and complete my degree.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by getting into church, singing in the choir and stepping out in ministry and you came along in the form of self-doubt. I knew I wanted to shift gears, but instead, you told me that I wasn’t good enough to sing and that my past wasn’t right in order for me to move forward in God’s will.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
Toddrea
Well, I haven’t heard you sing, but I would bet you’re good enough for the choir if you love it as much as it sounds. I really loved this exercise – it’s so good to acknowledge disappointments in our lives!
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset: Day 13 – My Dream Life
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What a great exercise. The link to my blog is here: http://wp.me/p1rrQZ-32
And here’s my letter:
Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear me down.
You have me convinced that everything is all or nothing. While this can be a good quality (i.e. it has kept me on track for this 31 Day Reset), it can also be a burden or deter me from doing something altogether. For example, I keep putting off starting a workout routine because I’m too busy to follow a program religiously. Well why not do every other day? You have me convinced that if I’m not doing it every day, I shouldn’t bother to do it at all, which simply isn’t the case.
You make it seem as though everything will fall apart if I don’t continue to do everything as I’m supposed to. This led me to have only a week and a half off between jobs when I moved across the state and started a new school program. While I love the job, I wonder in hindsight why I couldn’t have taken a few months off. What’s the worst that would have happened?
Speaking of jobs, even though I’m all about career advancement, and I even applied for some jobs that were higher level, you still steered me to accept the same sort of position I’ve had for the past five years. Like I said, I appreciate the job I have now, but there’s no denying that it’s similar to what I’ve done before – it’s the safe choice, and I could do more.
Finally, you don’t allow me to prioritize something that this Reset has shown me is important to me: leisure time. I tell myself I want more relaxing time, yet I still book myself up with commitments.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
Chapin
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset: Day 12 – Hate Mail to My Lizard Brain
The all-or-nothing thinking is definitely what my lizard brain likes to push on me, too. Keep fighting it! (A little bit at a time, of course =). )
Dear Lizard Brain,
I have wised up and will no longer allow you to keep me down. I will come through at the top of my game and the journey starts now.
So no more trying to beat me down with the procrastination, fear, laziness, or holding me back on doing what I love for fear of what others will think about my life choices.
I gotta do me. That is my only path to true happiness.
I am learning discipline and that is what will help me get around whatever you may throw my way.
Sincerely,
A More Wise Shonda
I was behind on some excercises but I’m catching up
I loved this excercise! It challenged me to name my fears, doubts and insecurities. I was also able to identify when/how I am triggered and what issues make these lizards rear their heads. I was also able to identify all the skills I have aquired in my tool box to help me challenge these lizards. Love, positive self talk and critical refelction have helped me deal with my lizard brain over the last two years. Everyday I build up my strength to challenge lizard brain.
Loved your letters very inspiring
Just yesterday I wanted to go and book for a road test. Out of nowhere fear, panic and all these other emotions overwhelmed me. I started to ask myself why I just couldn’t buy my license like other people and told myself I would go to another town to get it. Maybe it was a good thing I’ve been behind with my 31 Day Challenge because this was exactly what I needed to hear. Anyway I faced my fears and went to go book. Even though I didn’t manage to get a time slot, the fact that I went there is what counts.
Dear Lizard Brain,
I really am tired of this. You show up whenever I need to make decisions about how to get out of this rut. How long did I avoid the life mapping exercise blaming it on my poor mood? When I finally got my mind right I found the time to cook, clean, and move boxes that had been there for days. I remained unfocused on my inner work. Lizard brain, you are reluctant to change and scared of failure. You are scared of starting over without a safety net. All those fears contribute to stagnation. You may want to just stay where you are and be satisfied but I am so not satisfied. I want more. I am ready to begin fulfilling the potential that is within me. I am ready to begin accomplishing so much more. I realize that playing it safe only gets me so far. It is time for me to step into my success and I have learned that in order to do that I have to remove you from my life. That is exactly what I plan to do. I am focused and ready.
Sincerely
Celeste
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Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to go on a missions trip ,you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through, but instead I sabotoged my success by not returning the call of the director of the mission.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by going back to school and you came along in the form of self-doubt. I knew I wanted to shift gears, but instead, you told me that I would be lonely and wouldn’t like the school.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
Dominique Campbell
OOOOOO Rosetta, you are triggering some things I have been trying to suppress and have successfully suppressed for YEARS!
I loved this post! I get in the way of myself more than anyone else. I dont do things that I know I need to do because Im better at making excuses as to why I cant do those things.
Shame on me!
And ladies, LOVED these letters!
Good God Almighty!!!! I was JUST telling my hubby and one of my closest friends that I’m starting to feel overwhelmed and this feeling of confusion/slow down/retreat was rearing it’s head. Hallelujah for Day 12! I so needed this and I can hardly contain my excitement to tell that well-meaning fool to back up via this letter… wooo!!!! Thanks so very much for this challenge; each day has been a blessing! Woot woot for a lizard I’m finally not scared of (anymore)! =)
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Dear Lizard brain /The enemy / Haters,
I’ve been notice that you have been popping up at curtain points in my life. It seem like everything I want to do something to bring peace in my life and try to grow you show up and try to tear me down.
For instance when I tried to read the bible more every day, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it thought, but instead I sabotage my success being distracted by the bait you used to try and keep me off my path to glory and success. Another example was when I tried to change my life by changing my old habits and ways of doing things and you came long in a form of self doubt and negative thoughts like…”You are about to struggle….This life is all you know..You will never be anything more than this…Stop fooling yourself you will never make it..People won’t accept, respect or like the new you..A tiger can’t change its stripes.. you will always need your old life.”
So NOW! I see what you are doing and I REFUSE to let you keep me from my blessings and the ULTIMATE success that is waiting for me. I have a purpose to fulfill. What type of person would I be if I allowed you to keep me from reaching my FULL potential? You have to understand that it was already written from the day I was born so just as long as I stay strong, have faith and keep pushing on NO MATTER WHAT! Obstacles are thrown in my way EVERYTHING will be JUST FINE!
So next time you try to come around I will just grin, pray for you and pop my collar b/c those days of you influencing or hindering my steps of progress are OVER AS OF TODAY!
Well I can’t say it’s been nice knowing you but I do want to Thank you b/c if it wasn’t for you I would have never known just how STRONG I AM and What I am Able to endure, but it is time that I throw the 2 fingers up …..Deuces!
Sincerely,
The NEW ME
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Ack. I’m so behind on this challenge, but I’m determined to see it through. Which I guess is the point of this Lizard Brain exercise? Sigh. I feel bad that I’m so behind. Here’s my letter. It’s based off the standard template with a few personal deviations.
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Dear Lizard Brain,
I’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to lose weight earlier this summer, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I started out strong, running nearly every day and going to the gym at my temp job. I sabotaged my success by making excuses for not going to the gym and telling myself I was too tired to work out.
Another example was when I was looking for a job after finishing grad school three years ago. You came along in the form of fear. You told me I wouldn’t be good enough and when I had the opportunity to be interviewed for a job, I panicked and never went in. Who knows where I’d be today if I hadn’t been so panicky and fearful.
I see what you’re doing, Lizard Brain, and quite frankly, I don’t like it. It’s normal to fear change, and it’s hard to upend old habits. It’s hard to challenge preconceived notions and long-held beliefs, no matter how wrong they are.
But you have to understand that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Until now, that is.
You are no longer welcome to continue sabotaging my chances for peace, fulfillment, and happiness, Lizard Brain. This ends now. I have no doubt that you’ll pop up from time to time. Hell, I’m behind on my 31 Day Reset Challenge because of you. But from now on, you and I are done.
Peace,
Danielle
Dear Lizzy,
I’ve been wondering how to say this to you for sometime now. I have not said these things to you before because you really have been there for me so many times. I know you mean well.
The truth is that a lot of the times, you have been there when you were neither required, requested, nor even desired, but you came anyway.
I admire your persistence but the truth (though it may hurt) is that you have really done more harm than good every single time. For one thing, you are the reason that so many things take forever to do when they really should take a minute. A prime example is just the other day when I started work on my proposal so gung ho and you convinced me to dilly dally around and procrastinate making me think there was no point putting in the effort, I wasn’t good enough so why bother.
Now Lizzy, you know that wasn’t nice.
Lizzy, though you seem to love me (as you should) and you are trying to act in my best interest, you know what really bothers me? It’s the way you always try to convince me that some ELSE is better qualified, better prepared, more and better everything than I am. Lizzy c’mon!! You and I both know they don’t call me “Diva” for nothing. Why don’t we make a pact? I love knowing that you are there but what I want you to do from now on is to watch QUIETLY from the sidelines. This doesn’t mean you aren’t important and you don’t hold a place in my life. I’m just sort of reducing your importance. What this means is, If I don’t ask, then please don’t offer anything. No suggestions, no plans, no opinions – just leave those to me.
I’m so glad we could talk about this and put things into perspective. We really needed to have this talk.
Take care now.
I love this letter. How incredible that we can, at any time, speak directly to the most vulnerable parts of ourselves. Thank you for posting it here.
Great letter!!! You said so many things in your letter that I can relate to, thanks for sharing.
My main mentor taught me about the lizard brain 3-4 years ago. It’s a lesson that has stuck with me even now. While my lizard brain still rules from time to time, my rational brain takes over a lot more often now.
Here’s my letter to my lizard brain. NOTE: I’m behind on all of this, but it’s still good to do it. Hopefully, my letter will still help somebody else on their path.
8/25/11
Dear Lizard Brain,
In recent months, I have been wondering how my life got to be so small, cramped and unsatisfying. How DID my life get to be the antithesis of what I’ve always wanted. After today’s reading, I realized that it was you. I realized yesterday that you (little bitty you) have totally taken over my life.
You are the one sabotaging everything that I try to do. It’s you who insist on ice cream when I’m trying to diet. It’s you who push the book or tv show on me when I’m trying to work on my resume or my new business. It’s all you. But I’m not mad at you, friend.
I understand that you’ve done everything out of a desire to help us. But, your understanding is off, baby girl. Sabotaging my efforts to loose weight, or to make new friends, or to advance professionally and financially is not protecting me. Your efforts have resulted in greater physical discomfort (it’s getting hard to move around and I can’t play with my boy like I want to) not less. Your efforts haven’t resulted in my being safer (financially or even emotionally). In fact, without having my own, I am vulnerable to the whims and bad moods of people who may not really have my best interests at heart. You’re not making me safer. You’re making me less safe. And today, you’re going to stop doing this.
Now that I know what you are doing. I will stop you. I will no longer allow you to push me (though fear, procrastination, or lethargy) into doing nothing. I will override and overcome you. I am going to start living MY life – the life that I want. Getting by is NOT good enough. I want to LIVE and LIVE fully. Will you help me, friend?
You don’t have to be afraid of what will happen. Everything is going to be okay. Together, you and I can handle the discomfort of the change, the fear, the risk and the uncertainty. As long as we’re together, we can do it. So, are you with me? ‘Cause if you are, it’s about to be on! And you, me and our entire family are about to get seriously happy.
I’m happy that we’ve had this conversation, Lizzy and I am looking forward to everything that our lives are about to be.
I love you ALWAYS,
Tisha
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My Lizard Brain response is posted on my blog
http://liftingu2dream.wordpress.com/2011/08/15/day-12-reset-dear-lizard-brain/
http://31dayreset.tumblr.com/post/8942620760/day-12-lizard-brain
Read my latest blog post…#31DayReset Day 12 – Write a Letter to Your Lizard Brain
Hello Lizard Brain,
I’m getting to the point in my life where I’m slowly becoming OK with being imperfect. For so long, I’ve allowed wanting to get things right to impeded my progress in moving forward. I understand you believe you’re trying to protect me. I understand you believe you’re acting in my best interests. But you have to understand that I’m moving more in alignment with my goals and dreams, and the Universe will always act in my best interest. I know you’re afraid of change, and I know you’re afraid of me failing…and even afraid of what will happen when I succeed. I’m letting you know right now that all of the sabotaging, the second-guessing, the worries, and doubts, the over-reacting, the negative self talk, and all the past mistakes will no longer stop me from living my ideal life. Realize right now, Lizard Brain, that I have compassion for you, but please be know that I’m OK and that you don’t have to protect me anymore. The Universe has my back…and your days are numbered.
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Hey everyone! Here’s my challenges for day 11 & 12. I’m a bit behind, so I’ll have today & tomorrow’s challenge up on Urbane by tomorrow. Enjoy!
Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset: Day 11 & 12
This is very true, I missed one day and automatcally my brain was in the ” don’t want to play catch-up, maybe i should stop because i really don’t want to be behind” and i’m like where did that come from.
Now i had no intentions on stopping but feeling that procrastination and sabotaging tendencies set in so quickly was pretty shocking, but it did make me feel like i must be coming into a change because i know those thoughts often form when i’m about to.
it’s funny also because i have a 20 book reading list for the summer and I’d been slacking on that as well so for the day 11 “do something tangible” challenge i went and got three more books on my list one being Tao Te Ching and i started reading that one first and last night i decided to read a little before bed and I got to a passage that said
” In pursuing their affairs, people often fail when they are close to success”
and something about it just hit me, I thought “that’s so true, but why is that?” so I decided to stop there and sleep on it, I got on here today to play catch up, and there it is
…lizard brain, which comes from fear.
It was like an answer to my question, I don’t know it just made me feel really good about things to come seeing that happen that way.
Dear Lizard Brain,
This is it. No more half-steppin’ or no-steppin’. I’m moving forward with my dreams and plans. Yes there is a chance I will fail and look foolish. But if I don’t do anything I’ll definitely fail and BE foolish considering the way the economy is going. I know you’re afraid of the amount of work ahead of me. I am too. But it doesn’t matter because my motto from now on is ‘onward and upward.’ And I have a few accountability partners to help me put it all in motion. So what chu’ gon’ do?
Anyway it was nice learning from you.
Peace,
IU
LOVE your letter! I rarely hear people say this, but it’s so true: “I know you’re afraid of the amount of work ahead of me. I am too.” I hope writing your letter has helped to remove a real barrier to taking action!
Dear Lizard Brain,
i’ve been noticing you popping up at certain points in this challenge and in my life. It seems like every time I want to do something for my own happiness and growth, you show up to tear me down.
For instance, when I tried to __open my mail_______, you showed up in the form of procrastination. I wanted to see it through, but instead I sabotoged my success by letting it pile up again and leaving it in the box__.
Another example was when I tried to change my life by __starting my own baking business__________ and you came along in the form of self-doubt. I knew I wanted to shift gears, but instead, you told me that __i was too poor to see it become anything to write home about so i let those offers that were on the table expire__________.
So I see what you’re doing and I don’t like it. Yes, I know that you’re afraid of change. You’re afraid of what will happen if I succeed. But what you have to understand is that whatever happens in my life will work out for my good. I was put here on earth for a purpose and you are keeping me from fulfilling that potential.
Well, until now, you have.
I will no longer allow you to stop my progress in living my ideal life. So the next time I see you, I will simply give you a nod and go on about my business.
It’s been nice knowing you, but now it’s time that we part ways.
Sincerely,
[me~ LUV]
haha..it’s so funny how my path of progress and this 31reset challenge are in sync.. my writing my feelings down about that guy in my previous blog was a way of me cutting off the lizard’s tail…next I am gonna cut off that lizard’s head because I am going to see my baking business all the way through…—–> please click like over there and tell a friend about the yummy goodness found at Tweet’s Sweets.
Read my latest blog post…The Talking Lizard Must Die!!! ~ Day 11
Thanks for sharing your honest letter. The lizard brain comes on STRONG when folks try to start businesses. But your dream is way too important to let it win.