#31DayReset Day 3: Write a Love Letter to Your Future Self

This post is Day 3 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up for the program here.

Yesterday, you took an honest assessment of your life. You probably had many “likes” to be grateful for, but also some “dislikes” that may have left you feeling a bit discouraged at this stage of the challenge. Today, you will be able to put those “dislikes” into perspective by writing a love letter. No, not to your romantic partner . . . to yourself. We all know that setting goals for yourself and writing them down is a great way to make sure you stay on track with living your ideal life, but what happens when you don’t have anyone to hold you accountable?

Estimated Time to Complete: 60 minutes

This two-part exercise requires you to write a love letter to your future self and then email it to yourself exactly 30 days from now. Your future self is the person you hope to grow into as your personal development journey unfolds. She is the “you” who has more “likes” than “dislikes” in each of the seven specific areas of her life.

Step 1: Write Your Love Letter

Write yourself an inspiring letter about how your life will be improved in the future. The idea is that instead of just having “likes,” there will be “loves” in their place. If you want, you may use the outline below for your letter or just freestyle your own!

Dear future [your name here],

Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

  • Lifestyle: You love . . .
  • Work: You love . . .
  • Education: You love . . .
  • Finances: You love . . .
  • Health: You love . . .
  • Family: You love . . .
  • Relationships: You love . . .

Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work.  Keep it up!

[your name here]

Step 2: Email Your Letter to Yourself Through Future Me

Next, you will copy and paste your letter into futureme.org, a site that allows you to write yourself a letter that’s emailed to you at some point at least 30 days into the future. You can make your letters private or public, but anonymous. It’s you being your own cheerleader and holding yourself accountable, with the help of a little magic technology!

After you post your letter, make sure you set it to be sent to you exactly 30 days from now. It’s a powerful exercise, and I challenge you to try it out for yourself and see if it helps you stay encouraged as you make progress on living your ideal life.

Want some more inspiration? Here’s a great example of a love letter that Jamie, a HBW reader wrote to herself last year.

Take Action and Reflect: When you’re done, please share your love letter with us in the comments! Also be sure to post it on the futureme.org site to be sent to yourself exactly 30 days from now as a reminder to check in on your progress after the challenge. If you blogged about today’s assignment, please post the link in the comments so we can read it!
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  1. Dear future ME,

    I am so pround of all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, because it is not how it use to be but better.

    I love that you are enjoying more of your leisure time on things that not only enrich you but add value to your life and that you are in a living space where you feel free of rules and regulations. That you are actually changing your lifestyle to be more fulfilling to you.

    I love that you are using your side hustle of fashion to fill the void that your regular nine to five job does not give you. I love that you are making the best of your regular job without being negative, and that you are working to be your own boss.

    I love that you are learning something to enrich yourself while you wait for the opportunity to enroll back into school to finish your initial degree. I love that you are looking into enrichment courses at a community college to enhance your side hustle business.

    I love that you are setting a strict budget for yourself to decrease your current debt, save for emergencies and so that you can travel more. I love that you are financially work on your credit score and debt to income ratio.

    I love that you are working on your spritual, mental, and physical by mediating and praying more, being more open and honest about yourself, and watching what you eat, as well as, having a set workout schedule. I love that you are building a stronger spiritual journey outside of church.

    I love that my immediate and extended family spend more time together. That we actually enjoy each others company. That I love that even though my father doesn’t want a relationship with me shouldn’t change the hope I have that one day he will. I love that my mom and siblings are closer than ever.

    I love that all of my friends add something different to my life for a better me. That all of my friends are positive and that we all just enjoy each other when we are around each other. I love that I have someone that wants to support, be there, and spend the rest of their life with me. I love that my other half is truly my best friend that loves me despite all my flaws and only brings out the best in me.

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep looking towards the future!!

    ~ Nikki Washington

  2. Dear FutureMe,
    I am so proud of how far you have come. You have finally opened your eyes and realized that you are loved, appreciated, and have accomplished so much in life thusfar. All you had to do was let go, stop complaining, plan and execute that plan to get where you are today.

    You have realized that you ARE making a difference in other peoples lives. Your friends, family, boyfriend, and even those that you have not personally encountered have been positively affected by you. Especially the students of the University that you work for. You are enabling them to pursue their education by ensuring that they have the financial means to do so.

    You are also looking good girl!! You have made great strides to losing weight and getting healthy! Exercising has lowered your blood pressure, your cholesterol, and also helped with your depression! You are doing awesome with your Gym routine and girl, don’t let me get started on you doing that P90X – BRAVO! That is a very intense workout program that I know was rough for you at first but you hung in there and you are working it. I am so happy that you have realized that you do not have to be in pristine shape like when you were in the Army to be healthy. Girl you have a bomb shape and you are beautiful.

    I am also happy that you are enjoying your lifestyle more and have realized that money is not everything. Its the simple things like affordable staycations with your daughter and girlfriends as well as camping trips with your boyfriend. Most of all, you have realized that all things are possible if you let go and let GOD.

    Love you!
    Rena
    Read my latest blog post…31 Day Reset – Day 3 – Love Letter

    • Love your Love Letter to yourself Rena!! Just know all things are possible through God who strengthens us…. Stat encouraged in your journey of change and just know that you are better than you were yesterday…. Good Luck with the RESET!!!

  4. Dear Bine

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve done so far. You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life including the following:
    You love the small changement that your start thinking of to fulfil your life. You are more connected with GOD. You have saved a little amout for your trip in 2012. Well done!!!
    You also start to enjoy playing more with your son, you play more often with him which is really good for him.

    You also start this new job and you are really enjoying it. You try to stay away from troubles and you avoid conflict with your colleague and your boss. Great!!! Keep going :-)

    For your communication skills gap you finally find an online course that will help your for this year. It will enables you to write better post for your blog which will be great.

    You also start considering taking better pictures for your blog and finding more ideas so that you will improve the blog.

    You start to be well setted financially you find a way to save the money for the apartmentyou want to buy and you are not struggling by the middle of the month. You even save a small amount for leisure GREAT!!!!

    Regarding the family you have more understanding of the situation, You are now starting to figure out that it’s not their fault if they are in this situation but thanks to them you have a better life, they did a lot of sacrifice so that you can be where you are now. Understanding that you are less bulking for what they are asking you to do. You also have a better relationshing with your mum too.

    You enjoy doing workout at home. You try to stay positive don’t forget to be thankful to GOD because everyday you have to remember that you have a house, a job and food. THANK YOU GOD. He is watching you and he knows that you are a good person and that you are doing your best so that he won’t be disappointed. You are less hard on yourself mentally, you are making progress, you start to think positive and you are less pessimistic.

    Your relationship with your friend is going well, you try to meet them at least one time a month it’s not enongh but it’s a good start lol. Your love life is another story… You start to be confident with the fact that all men are not stupid and that they can accept you withy our son, i know it sounds crazy but they won’t harm him when you will not be around. GOD will give you one day a great guy and you will be really complice. He will be nice with your son and they will bond together. He will be also appreciated by your family .

    Have you seen all the progress you’ve done in one month keep going like this and you will see that 2012 will be the year of “everything is possible”.

    Your life is sooooo much better now it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up
    (sorry for the mystakes, i’m french)

  5. Dear future Shuandra,
    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! I’m so proud of you! You are really making strides to better yourself. You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    You have acknowledged your current stage in life but have decided to make active steps to start putting knowledge into action. Instead of procrastinating and becoming immobile, you are actually taking the steps to nurture your dream of writing and becoming a business owner in the near future. In the past, your low self-confidence and low self-esteem was a barrier to career advancement and embarking upon your entrepreneurial aspirations. You decided to follow Gilliam Butler and Tony Hope’s 6 Strategies for Building Self-Confidence:
    1. You have behaved “as if” you have confidence at non-confident moments.
    2. You are not afraid of being flexible and realizing that you don’t have to follow a careful well-planned route to be safe. You understand that a lot of fear is imaginary.
    3. You have made the most the most of your mistakes and then left them behind. You understand that only those who do nothing don’t make mistakes.
    4. You operate with a statute of limitations. You don’t continuously kick yourself for past mistakes.
    5. You are kind to yourself. You treat yourself for success by purchasing yourself gifts. You don’t punish yourself for failures but never reward yourself for success.
    6. Lastly, you practice these strategies every chance you get.

    You are also continuing to work on your self-esteem by;
    • Being open to positive opinions about yourself from others.
    • Stifling the internal critic who is forever insulting and admonishing you.
    • Burying the internal naysayer who makes negative predictions about your success and biases your expectations.
    • Doing the best you can, but not berating yourself for not being perfect.

    You are committed to studying both Swedish and Italian all of 2012 through online resources and possibly formal courses. Additionally, you have committed to participating in your multi-cultural meet-up groups through the social networking site meetup.com. You are also managing your time and distractions a lot better.

    At work, you are being more assertive with your needs but also being unselfish. You use effective body language cues to get your point across. You understand and accept that in the majority of organizations, office politics is going to linger. Therefore, you are effectively managing your involvement in office politics by using the strategies found in “Survival of the Savvy” which are to maintain a balance between not being political enough or being too political.

    You are making strides to one day become a business owner. You are developing your personal brand and motto as well as helping 2 business owners with their start-up.

    You have committed to your goal of obtaining your PhD in the future but understand that today is not the right time to start since you are focusing on getting out of debt and raising children. To keep you on your toes, you have decided to start a book club next year (like you’ve dreamed of doing for a while). The books will be based on Self-Help, Christian, Fiction, and Business. You will also continue to read your specialized IT-related magazines. Also, after completing your IT-certifications, you have committed to starting a blog that will promote your personal brand, motto, and services.

    I am excited about your finances for 2012. You are well on your way to completing your emergency savings of 3 to 6 months of expenses. You’ve made a huge commitment to cut $17K of expenses next year and also bring in $10K more through your side business. You have been meeting with your financial coach consistently and following through on her priceless tips.

    Today, you are on Day 30 of your P90X fitness plan which means you should have lost about 15-20 pounds by now. You are also continuing to choose healthier alternatives for food. You’ve stopped eating out so much and are preparing more food from home.

    You are spending more quality time with you children. You are teaching them Christian values and principles. You are volunteering more at their school, letting them know that you care a great deal about their education. Your relationship with your sisters are stronger because you’ve taken the first step to letting them know how important they are to you.

    Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, you are focusing on how to continually better yourself.

    Again, I am so proud of how far you’ve come in the past 30 days and I look forward to seeing your progress and realize the great woman that you are. Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    Shuandra

    • I love that you name some helpful books to read in this beautiful letter. I need to go check those out, especially the 6 Strategies for Building Self-Confidence. Reading that list of strategies literally felt like a revelation; it moved me to my core because that’s exactly what I need to do, too. Thanks for the inspiration and best of luck, girl!

      Autumn

  8. Day 3: Write a Love Letter to Your Future Self

    Hey Girl,

    It’s been 30 days can you believe it?? Congratulations on all the major accomplishments you’ve made so far. I am so proud of you. You now have even more to be grateful for in every area of your life.

    Let’s start with lifestyle even though you are tired of being in your current state, you make the best of it. You’ve hung out with your sister-friends, planned more date nights with your hubby and spent more time having fun with the kiddies. You love finding “different” stuff to do and you are okay if you have to enjoy them alone. You have taken action on preparing to relocate. I love how your researching all avenues to find the best place for you and your family.

    Also you are focusing on being fearless, you know that you fear the little things because you are afraid of being abandoned again. Girl, God has never left nor forsaken you, so don’t give the devil room to consume your mind. You don’t have to be fearful of ANYTHING.

    I see the growth in you and others are able to see it too. You are focusing on the things that are REALLY important. Now more than ever you realize that what matters most is YOUR relationship with Christ. You’ve taken a break from TWC and its refreshing. You know that your spirituality has nothing to do with where you go to worship. I see your relationship with Christ developing more and more. Good job on spending more time with God, I know it’s hard waking up early but you now understand the importance of meeting with Him first. It’s a struggle, but it’s worth it. You’ve been reading your daily devotional and even speaking His word over your family. See it wasn’t that hard to start, you just needed a little push.

    God is revealing Himself to you in new ways, make sure you are listening to His voice. Your purpose is becoming more clear to you – just give it time. God will open your eyes at the right time and you are going to see it so clearly.

    I love that you maintained a steady workout regimen, girl it’s hard but you did it. Yay for you!! Your also eating better, juicing, and having meatless days. I can see you have more energy and your skin is glowing. You go girl!

    You finally got your budget in order, your even back to listening to Dave Ramsey again. Pay attention this time, the change will be rewarding.

    I love that you are more consistent with disciplining the children. You are more calm, yelling less and being the loving fun relaxed mom that your kiddies love. Your hubby is starting to notice the change in you too- he’s supportive, speaking encouraging words, and even opening up about his feelings. (who would have ever thought) He loves you so much and you feel it more each and every day.

    Even though the relationship with your mom never developed, you accepted it and continue to praise God for your awesome, wonderful granny. She loves you unconditionally and she tells you every chance she gets and how proud she is of you. You know your the woman you are today because of her.

    Finally you did good by focusing on the relationships that really matter. God has blessed you with some wonderful sister-friends. Continue to let them know whenever you can. Each one adds to you life in a special kind of way and you couldn’t imagine life without them. You’ve filtered out people that don’t add to your life, and its so refreshing.

    Wow! You did it! You finally finished the 31 reset your life challenge. You stayed committed and you’ve completed it.

    I love you girl, you are awesome.

  9. Dear future Toddrea
    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    Lifestyle: You love to sit down and watch the boys play and just be happy go lucky young men. You love your life and all the people and things that are in it. You are an inspiration to other women around you and even to some that don’t know you personally. You have come this far by faith and your testimony is a powerful one and one that gave you the extra push you needed to carry out your dreams in life, ministry, family, education and work.
    You love to move about your life freely and full of love and the joy of the Lord, you are no long saddened by the things you don’t have but you’re thankful for the things you do have and you’re walking in victory and you are an over comer of self-doubt and on your way to more and on the path to walk in your call.

    Work: You love your job because you love logistics and the twirks of getting things done and it’s not about the people you work with but the satisfaction you get as an individual when you know that you’ve done your job and you understand that it is only temporary and not your retiring place. You love your job because you understand now more than ever that you are on your way to owning and operating your very own non-profit organization, running your catering/consult company, managing the business affairs of the mother company and assisting the little jr in staying on track and focused on his contribution to the mother company.

    Education: You love knowing that graduation is closer than you think and headed to combine the degrees to make it work.

    Finances: You love being on the road to financial independence.

    Health: You love the discipline you’ve shown with getting on the right track to be much healthier than what you are and doing the things necessary to be healthier and happier with yourself.

    Family: You love the changes that have taken place within my family and the growth we’ve made.

    Relationships: You love the bonds that have been restored and the work in progress.

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    Toddrea

      • I have to self check alot now because I tend to get upset with myself for the things I don’t have because I strayed away from my plans quite a bit. I’m having to restructure quite a bit of things in my life and get back on track and I can’t let that bother me or hinder me.

  10. Dear future Tosha,
    November 26, 2011 you decided to take a journey that you hoped would change your life for the better. You wanted more than what you had but you’d been stuck in a rut and not sure how to get out of it. Not sure if rut is the right word you want to use, but routine. Not knowing who you are has hindered your growth and you were finally ready to make a change; change for the better. Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

     Lifestyle: You love that you have left the confines of your couch and started to find out what you like and even exploring new things. Albeit you waited until the winter time to do this, but you did it. Girl next time you want to make a change in your life I need you to start in the warmer seasons, lol. In learning who you are you have seemed to find that you really do have something to offer.

     Work: You love that God has opened doors that no one can close and has ordered your steps toward the future He has always intended you to as it states in Jeremiah 29:11. No more working jobs just to provide for your children, but now you walk in your purpose and don’t worry about the provision; Girl God has you. When it doubt just check the rearview mirror of your life. He’s always made a way when you couldn’t see it. The moment you let go of your control and gave it to God is when you learned how to truly trust God. He’s got you!

     Education: You love how you FINALLY decided to go back to school for what you have a passion for, food. Well the passion started out because you wanted to eat all the time, lol, but in high school it grew beyond what you could have ever imagined. Mama use to tell you how cooking was the best gift you could give her because you had to put work into it and your emotions. Now you have the opportunity to walk in your purpose and serve others by cooking them food.

     Finances: You love how you actually executed your budget YAYAY, finally no longer just looks good on paper, but your bank account too. God gave you the wisdom you prayed for when you said you wanted to be a better steward over the money He’s given you. In time He’ll bless you with more money so that you can give more, He knows you have a heart to give. You got your credit together and the score just keeps getting higher and higher. God is awesome..

     Health: You love that you’ve continued working out and that you plan to start a boot camp class at your church that starts in February; two-piece without the biscuit here you come! Even after you reach the goal you’ve set of just looking sexy to you where you’re ok with looking at your body naked keep working out. You don’t want to regain the biscuit top (known to most because of size as the muffin top). The goals is for you to be happy with how you see you [naked] and with clothes on. You want to exude a certain amount of confidence, but not cockiness.

     Family: You love how you’ve figured out how to spend time with the kiddos on a tight budget that doesn’t always require you sitting in the house. They each get their own one-on-one time with you, but then you also spend that together time with them.

     Relationships: You love how you’ve made an effort to connect with your current circle at least once a month and being as transparent as possible so they see the real you and not the one you try to portray. Your mindset is better now when it comes to having a romantic relationship. You are no longer giving a guy a guilty sentence which allows you to be able to open up and receive love when God does bless it to happen. You’ve given God your heart/hurt and you now know you can’t naively ask someone not to hurt you. You’re both human and will hurt each other even if it’s unintentionally, BUT you can trust God to heal you and your mate as you hurt so that you can learn the lesson from the pain and not run. This will make you not only a stronger person, but a stronger couple and your faith will grow in God as he grows the two of you together. One of your friends said something that was so profound the gist of it was you have to be willing to be hurt to be in a relationship. You’re finally willing, both platonically and relationally.

    God wants you to have a future full of hope and prosperity but remember you have to make the choice to get out and live if you want to experience all that God has for you. You are an awesome person the way God made you and I’m so proud of you for finally wanting to live the life God has called you to live. Woman, continue to walk in your purpose because your steps are ordered by God.

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    I love you so much and am VERY VERY proud of you!!
    Future Tosha

  11. This was a cool assignment. I’ve done something like this before and the letter that I got back from myself was so freaking on point that it was scary! I loved it though and it encouraged me to move forward! I don’t really want to post my letter, but I do feel very encouraged by it!
    Read my latest blog post…I’M BACK!

    • Loved this exercise very inspiring and really challenging. I debated sharing (struggled with feelings around vulnerability) but I decided to put it out there with the hope that maybe it will help to support my goals

      Dear Heart

      Congratulations on all that you have accomplished so far!!! Although it has been challenging at times your journey is leading you to beautiful places. You’ve committed to a budget and savings plan that will allow you to travel outside of the country next year and to have your own apartment in the next two years. Developing a plan for these short term financial goals has inspired you to begin the process of mapping out some of your long term financial goals and assessing what changes you need to make to achieve these dreams. You have begun the process of constructing an exit plan from you current job. You have acknowledged how important it is for you to use you facilitation skills to support the work of others in the social justice field. You also remember how much you enjoyed working with people who are working towards change. Acknowledging these professional desires will help you begin to strategize a way to merge these interests into meaningful work. You understand that you next paid position may not reflect all of your interests but you have re-committed to developing and pursing your professional passions, for this you should be extremely proud. It has been a long time since you felt motivated to think about a professional plan… it’s nice to see you inspired again.

      I know that you have also really enjoyed and been inspired when you have worked with women’s networks and organizations in the past. There has always been something very powerful and meaningful to you about working with women who are focused on change whether it is personal, political or social. I think it is wonderful that you have begun to research and apply for volunteer positions with women’s organizations in your city. This will help to keep your inspiration and drive alive as you develop your work plans.

      You have continued to nurture your loving relationship with the family. I know it was difficult to put some boundaries in place but it was extremely important as the lines between support, expectation and obligation were getting blurry. This step is necessary to support your own growth and to re-empower your family members to remember their own strengths and resiliency that has helped them overcome life’s struggles. They still love you and want you to be happy and are willing to work through the changes that will come in your relationship.

      You are continuing to relax and have fun on your “off time”. I am so excited that you have begun to try new activities and explore parts of the city you are not familiar with. I am very impressed that you have found ways to incorporate some form of daily exercise/activity into your routine. I am also happy to see that you have taken time to be still and breathe when you are overwhelmed, anxious, sad or just feel “off center”.

      Finally, I am so proud that you have made some significant strides in being more proactive in your love life. You have given your number to a couple of men and kept in contact with some. You’ve made an effort to flirt with men and put out signals that you’re available and approachable. You’ve also looked into potential dating sites for the New Year. Keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and believe that he is out there looking for you too. I know how important this part of you life has become for you so stay positive and continue to put yourself out there.

      Sis I am so proud of you. Remember every step you take is a step towards building the future and life you want. It is your life and you only live it once. There are so many wonderful possibilities that can become realities if you are willing to do your part of the work.

      Love You,
      Me :)

      • Hi Adwoa

        I’m glad you decided to share your letter because its a really beautiful one. You are not alone, sharing is hard with this challenge because you are putting yourself out there for the world to see BUT once you’ve shared, you realise that its not so bad and it helps because there is some level of accountability especially with the other members of this group.

        Hope you are enjoying the assignment as much as me :)

        • Thanks for your kind words and inspiration Chichi. I’m sending positive thoughts your way as you move through your journey.

          :)

  12. It felt good writing this letter. Realizing all the stuff that I can and WILL chive after just 30 days #smiling and doing my happy dance#

    Dear Future Sunshyne
    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life.

    Who would have thought that so much would happen in 30 days? I mean staying at home has turned out to be better than you had hoped. Who wouldn’t love getting to use her mum’s car every once in a while! And now that MacLarens is happening full force, life has never been so eventful. All the picnics at the game parks, the 5km walks, the big sister project. WOW!

    And now that you’ve got your license, being at Ascot doesn’t seem so bad. I mean, you can just get into the car and zip off to wherever you need to go be it French lessons or NUST for the event management course. And now that you’ve looked into studying for another degree via correspondence, you will be so busy it’s a good thing you are now DEBT FREE. The added responsibilities that you are taking on at home are also a great showcase of your growth.

    Your new figure + new attitude towards life is all part of a healthier you. You even have a new type of glow in your face. Adding the spiritual growth, you are becoming a force to reckon with. The newly single you is AMAZING. She smiles more often and is less stressed about life in general. That relationship definitely didn’t bring out the best in you and you’re better off SINGLE. And kudos to you for not letting your fighting friends draw you into their drama.

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work.

    Keep it up!

    God aint done with you yet!

    From,

    Chichi
    Read my latest blog post…Day 2

  13. Dear Future me,
    Congrats on all your progress so far. You’re having friends over more often and made the house look and feel a lil more like your own. It will take time but I know u are on ur way to feeling more comfortable there. I have also noticed how much more organised you r at work, just like u promised. Good job! It takes a bit more effort but staying late to complete work is way better than bringing it home and not doing it.
    I see that you have committed to learning a new language using podcasts on your Nano. Good for you! I am so proud. And are you giving lessons now? Well if not, I’m glad you have started preparing a plan for it. Remember, baby steps forward are still steps forward, so keep going forward.
    Glad to see that you have started back being more consistent with the gym and u have started back going to church. Everything is falling into place. Doesn’t it feel good? ^_^
    I know it was hard but I am glad that u decided to reach out to Mum. I am proud of you regardless of the outcome. It was the right thing to do.
    Finally, I am very happy that you have made a decision about Deighton and that you are sticking to it. Love can be hard but the rewards are worth it. Your friends show u that everyday and u are WORTHY of it. Never forget that I love you and will always be proud of you. Keep loving life and NEVER EVER GIVE UP, babe. *hugs*

    Bisous
    V

    • Veronica I really enjoyed reading your love letter and i pray that in the completion of your reset you are even more successful than you anticipated! I am also working to get back to gym and stay consistent with church, we can and we will!

  14. Dear Future Romi,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in so many areas of your life.

    You are enjoying your new active lifestyle. You’re exercising regularly and have started to engage yourself in more social causes. It feels good to know you’re making a difference! Your still have your 9-to-5, and that’s okay because you know you need it to fund your new venture. Don’t worry. The time will come when you will finally be able to bid adieu. In the meantime, I’m glad to see you’re enjoying the sense of accomplishment from doing your own thing. BTW, your online boutique is looking good! And you’re looking pretty good, too. Not as tired as you used to look. It must be the peace of mind you have knowing that you’re determining your own destiny. Speaking of destiny, you wouldn’t be where you are today without God’s grace and mercy. Now that you’re reading your Bible every day, you will start to realize it even more.

    It’s good to see you taking some personal enrichment courses online. You know my motto: There’s always something to learn. Those social media and marketing courses and webinars will really pay off. You know what else is paying off? That commitment you made to cut back on frivolous spending. You don’t need another black shirt…really. And you don’t need another credit card….SERIOUSLY! Doesn’t it feel good to know that the void you used to fill with shopping is now being filled with activities that will grow your business?

    Your family is so proud of the things you’re starting to accomplish. What a great example you’re setting for your daughter, too! Hopefully, she’ll feel boundless when the time comes for her to make her way in this world after seeing you make your dreams come true. And your husband. Oh, what a skeptic he was. Can you believe how supportive he’s been? The two of you have gotten much closer. You’ve stopped trying to make him fit inside a mold you created and you’re happy just letting him be. And your daughter….well, she’s not your BABY anymore, that’s true. But she’ll always be your baby. You know it and she knows it. And that’s all that really matters.

    Looking back over the past month, you have made so many improvements. I know it was hard. Hard to change, hard to forgive, hard to let go, hard to step out of your comfort zone; but sometimes, hard work feels so good. Keep it up!

    Love,
    Romi
    Read my latest blog post…Happy S’mores Day!

  17. Dear future Carla,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    Who knew that 30 days would go by so fast?

    30 days ago you did not see yourself here in this place. You have not only a new job, but a career that you can happily strive towards. Congratulations to you for making it that far – for realizing that the last job wasn’t right for you in the first place. You’re working on ways to connect and empower women with your personal experience. I love that you set a financial budget and stuck to it. No matter the circumstance you are able to adapt and focus on how to move forward instead of being stuck in the present. That’s such a major accomplishment and you should realize that. You recognize the importance of continuing your education and have taking the steps to make that a reality.

    You’re fabulous for taking that yoga class and finally learning how to…relax, breathe, relax and meditate. No matter how much work you have there should always be time factored in for YOU! Your family, relationships, and love life are also doing well and you are being more patient with not only yourself but those who are closest to you.

    Carla, you are a beautiful, strong, passionate, genuine and kind person. Remember to take time and reflect on all the amazing accomplishments you have made so far. Be patient and kind to yourself…be your number one advocate and realize that there are other people who look up to you and remember the things that you do and are inspired! You’ll get there…keep working but keep reflecting ;)

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    Love you,
    Carla

  18. Dear future Dominique,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life. You now have an apartment and a new car and you can get around town and spend your leisure time exploring what this new city has to offer. I see you have a job now, so you can pay your own bills and not have to depend on others for everything, plus save for that birthday trip next year. I see you are working in a lab and getting more experience, that will definitely make your resume look good and help with getting into grad school. Your finances are great, you are able to keep your budget on point and found new stream of revenue through tutoring and hairdressing. I also see that you have healthy relationships with your family and friends. Even if you aren’t in a romantic relationship that okay, because that still gives you an opportunity to work for the Lord and strengthen your relationship with him. You have done great for yourself, can’t wait to talk to you again!

    Dominique

  19. Dear future Kinita,

    Wow talk about stepping out on faith! You have really made some steps (some stumbles too) to become a new future you. Love that you have finally explored the idea of moving to another city to live. With work you have resolved to leave work at 315 pm every day to workout. Yes I know it is a challenge for you but you have to leave work AT work. You have finally pulled your credit report and making strives to increase your credit score and a budget that we can stick with  . You are at peace on being single and walking every day to become the person you are looking for is looking for
    Your will look back and see that life is so much better now and its all because of your hard work. Keep it up!
    Kinita Marie
    Read my latest blog post…Day 3 future love letter…to self to be opened in 30days

  20. Dear Bobbie,

    Congratulations! What a difference 30 days make. Look at you. See what can happen when you are optimistic. You’ve gotten the ball rolling to a happier you. Lets take a look at how things has changed….

    Lifestyle: My how you have turned your place into a more beautiful and relaxed atmosphere.

    Work: I love, love how you continued to stay proactive in your job search. Things are looking up and the reward will be GREAT!

    Education: I’m glad you have completed your paperwork to go back to school in the spring and that you will have your degree in the later part of 2012

    Finances: WOW!! Look who has started saving. Remember when you thought you couldn’t do it? Well, look at you now 30 days later. You are staying within your budget, and you have recognized needs over wants

    Health: I see you are still making strides on becoming healthier. WAY TO GO!!! You are you own cheerleader. You are down 10lbs from starting this letter. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! You have cut out the processed foods, you are cooking more at home.

    Family: Well look at you…you thought there was not enough time in a day to call your love ones. You have made every effort to call them-not text-but to call and to check on them. How does that make you feel? Continue on making the bond stronger

    Relationships: Being with good friends more often and have made things more great. I love my girls…they are the best. I thank God for bringing each of us into each other lives. I love my honey. We are getting closer and we are on our way to make a decision on who will be moving.

    Bobbie, I see you girl! Go ahead with your bad self. Keep focused and let nothing or no one get in the way of all your good. Remember, stay optimistic. I LOVE YOU!!! You deserve all the good of the world and remember your mantra…..LIVE~LAUGH~LOVE~PRAY

    Bobbie
    Read my latest blog post…New York, New York City of Dreams

  21. It’s been a long hiatus for me but check out my day 3 post

    http://stringbean28289.blogspot.com/2011/09/day-3-future-love-letter-to-yourself.html

    I promise that I did do my love letter…however, I didn’t post it because I want it to be a surprise for me as well as for those that read the blog. Strange I know. I hope everyone is doing well and staying motivated through their “resets”.

    Warm wishes,
    Charlene
    Read my latest blog post…Day 3: Future Love Letter to Yourself

  23. Dear FutureMe,
    I love how I have completed the DIY projects I have started. I have really made my house into a home. I love the chance to hear Steadman Graham speak about leadership. The new business venture has gotten off the ground finally. Smart moves are being utilized to secure a place in a new career field. I am so grateful for the skills I have been able to use due to my masters degree. My finances are being regulated by God. He is still providing my needs. I am so happy I am living and my health is doing much better than 2 years ago. I am extremely happy that I have completely forgiven my family for past hurts so I no longer live in mental bondage. But most of all I love that I am looking ahead and ready for what life throws my way. I love that this challenge is allowing me time to reflect on myself and to see how good my life truly is.

    Sincerely,
    Your past (where it WILL stay)

  24. Dear future Danielle,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    Lifestyle: You love your apartment now that you’ve invested in making it feel more like a real home and getting rid of pests. You’ve grown to love your 15-minute walk to the Metro and are also taking steps to find a new apartment in a new neighborhood. You love exploring the city’s museums, galleries, and restaurants/lounges by yourself as well as with friends. You love going to more live shows, more concerts, and spending less time alone in your apartment.

    Work: You love your new job that allows to combine your writing and visual arts skills. You love that it is a job that challenges you, and allows for personal and professional growth.

    Education: You love that you invested in a class in web design that allows you to acquire a new skill and one that will bring in extra revenue.

    Finances: You love that since finding a new job, you were able to start paying down your debts and contribute more to your savings.

    Health: You love that you’ve lost weight by moving more and being more mindful of what and when you eat. And that you disengaged from emotional eating.

    Family: You love that you’ve committed to staying in better touch with your extended family.

    Relationships: You love that you’ve invested more time into your friendships and learned to truly enjoy being alone and not being in a romantic relationship.
    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    Danielle

  25. So, I did the assignment incorrectly. I wrote for past 30 days…I will have to do another, but I wanted to at least share this one.

    ______________________
    Dear Future me,

    I am so happy and grateful now that I have done all the I set out to do for this year. I love my life. It is such an amazing feeling when you allow yourself to open up, to grow, to listen to your spirit, to trust, to let go , to have faith, to not hold on so tightly. There are so many wonderful things that are present and waiting for you.

    I am so happy and grateful for the work that I do to help women build businesses –successful businesses. I am grateful for helping them grow and find their own success. I love being able to help women and couples in their relationships because it is so rewarding and life changing.

    I also love the fact that I am on track to building a successful consulting business. I have a building client base through marketing and referrals. In both of my businesses I am now on a path to making the kind of consistent money I want to make. It’s so empowering to be on a path of growth and financial freedom.

    I love that I am on a path to continuing my education through reading and taking classes that I have always wanted to take. I have been put putting these off for years.

    My debts (except my student loans, FOR NOW) are paid in full, current, or I have made arrangements and am sticking to those arrangements.

    My health is superb and I love the fact that I have been able to continue to work out daily.

    My family is doing wonderful, my grandmother is feeling more strength in her legs, my mom has decided to get the help she really needs, my aunt is finding the strength to be better and do better. My little sister is raising her daughter and growing into a mature responsible young woman. Everyone is blessed, doing well, and communicating–I am communicating more regularly and frequently with them.

    My love relationships are in a much better place now. I have finally been able to let him go despite my deep love and desire to hold on (via death grip). I have finally decided that maybe he isn’t ‘the one’ you have been making him out to be all these years-all this time. How could you really know if you never let is arse go lady?? Sheeesh..it’s been loooong, long, long, did I say long, oh yeah…loooonnng OVERDUE!! I finally decided that it was healthier (and I was happier). Yes, even in writing this, you are having a “rationalizing moment,” but you are moving past it. I feel good about it. I am now fully open, to receiving the love that I truly deserve. I love it and it feels great!!

    And so it is…

    Keep on keeping on woman!
    You can do it!!

    Peace, blessings, love, and hugs…
    Me!!

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  27. Here’s my letter:

    Dear Me,

    Wow! What a difference a month makes! I’m so proud of you! In the past, you’ve sat and fantasized about your goals and dreams, and thought about what it would be like to begin living your dreams, but not this time. You’re taking imperfect action, and it may have been difficult for you, but I’m very proud of you. Deciding to improve one small thing in each area of your life is awesome, and look at what you’ve done in the past 30 days:

    Lifestyle: You’ve written out the characteristics of your dream apartment and found pictures of ideal apartment furnishings for your upcoming apartment. You’ve also found a way to attract a beautiful living room set and items.

    Work: You’ve started your first consulting job, and your client has given you the check upfront for 3 months of work! Your client respects your expertise and feels confident in your ability to produce great results. Additionally, you’ve gotten some leads on employment opportunities in sexual/reproductive health at Planned Parenthood and similar organizations.

    Education: You’ve finally mailed off your LMSW application.

    Finances: You’re getting the hang of the Jars system (by T Harv Eker), and you’ve even begun to attract unexpected income in the form of dollars and checks over $100! Everyday you grow more confident in your ability to save & spend wisely, and you’re sticking to your budget.

    Health: You’ve exercised Monday-Friday every week this month. You’re making healthier eating choices, and you’re drinking more water. You’ve even lost 5 pounds!

    Family: Your family is enjoying you calling them more often.

    Relationships: Look whose gone out on her first date in months! And you’ve had a lot in common with him too. You’re growing more comfortable with online dating, but you’re also going out and spending time with your friends, and it’s helping you to meet more men.

    Can’t wait to see what manifests in October!

    Love,

    Current Me
    Read my latest blog post…Groundbreaking Bill to Integrate Pregnancy Violence Prevention Strategies for Young People of Color

  30. I was too tired to complete the letter after work yesterday, so I did it this afternoon. Normally I wouldn’t dare to share thoughts so personal, but part of this journey for me is embracing authenticity. So here goes.

    Dear future Charlene,
    Hello beautiful! You have finally found your way back to happy! Isn’t this newfound place in life the most refreshing ground you have ever treaded upon? How amazing is it to awake each morning truly excited about the possibilities the day brings? You are finally in tune with the world around you and are certain of the path you are traveling. Your work inspires you and you can see the difference you are making. Doesn’t it feel amazing to finally be living Gandhi’s charge to “be the change you want to see in the world?”
    You are continuing to nurture relationships with friends who invest in you. You have finally shed the unhealthy habit of hanging on to people just because you have known them since “way back when.” You have come to terms with the idea that not everyone is intended to be in your life indefinitely. Yes it’s true, some people are here for merely a season, and you now realize that it is perfectly ok to release those who want to go. They were not intended to stay forever.
    I salute you for maintaining your healthy eating and continuing your fitness regimen. You are truly in the best shape of your life. You are actively exploring new interests, reading all that you can get your hands on and remaining committed to faith walking. You are free to be yourself and completely comfortable in your own skin!
    You have successfully shaken the limits off your thinking. You are fully persuaded that God is at work in all things and you are convinced of His infinite wisdom. It was a difficult breakup, but the long-standing relationship you couldn’t shake with that pesky fear of failure has officially ended! When trials come, your first impulse is now a reaction of faith. Fear is a distant shadow barely captured in the corner life’s rear view mirror. You realize that nothing is impossible with God. The God within you allows you to charge ahead with full conviction that it is only a matter of time before all of your dreams come true.

    Life is, and will continue to be, grand!

    • ” Fear is a distant shadow barely captured in the corner life’s rear view mirror. You realize that nothing is impossible with God. The God within you allows you to charge ahead with full conviction that it is only a matter of time before all of your dreams come true.”

      I absolutely love this!

  31. Day 3 of the #31 Day Reset♥

    Write yourself an inspiring letter about how your life will be improved in the future. The idea is that instead of just having “likes,” there will be “loves” in their place. If you want, you may use the outline below for your letter or just freestyle your own!

    Dear future Nikia,

    I L♥VE you.

    You Inspire & Motivate Me

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life.

    I am so proud of you. You have taken control of your life in every aspect. Living only to please an audience of One, and that is the Most High. Stepping away from who you thought you should be and stepping into you the Plan and Purpose God has for you. That takes courage and unwavering faith. Nevertheless you did it, believing that God had something even greater for you.

    God has been so good to you. If you have a thousand tongues, you still couldn’t say enough “Thank You’s”. I am so proud of you. Your pursuit for greatness has been relentless. You haven’t let anything or anyone slow you down or get you off the path for which you were created. Despite the many stumbling blocks that have been placed in your way, you have kept the faith and pushed forward. Showing both the opposing forces of your greatness and the world what [Champ]ions are really made of. YO GO GIRL!

    You have an intense peace that only comes from walking and moving in your Purpose. Knowing that God created you to edify and add to the Kingdom. You make a effort every single day to Inspire and Motivate whoever it is that you come into contact with. Wanting the world to experience the Power and Peace one has when they submit to G O D and the plan that he has for their life. I admire your Boldness & Fearlessness, for this is what it takes to Inspire and Change the world. You take so much pride in the Kingdom Business that has been entrusted to you. Keep at it, their is much work to be done.

    Many are called but few are CHOSEN. Weary hearts do not get chosen, but faithful ones do. Your faith is the reason you awake everyday ready to move. Ready to effect change. Ready to ignite the fire that will change the world. You took control of your thoughts and started manifesting the life you wanted and deserved leaving behind the life that was never good enough for you. You realized that G O D built you with the B E S T he had, and to live any other way than what he wanted what be hurtful to him. I love you for deciding that you love yourself too much to allow anything but the best into your Energy Field.

    You recognized the P O W E R, God entrusted you with and decided to stay in your power only using it for Good. Only using it to Inspire and Motivate. Only using it to speak life. Only using it to Build up, not tear down. And by doing that you Consistently make the Devil Mad- so Kudos to you for that. Your life is your message.

    Powerful. Passionate. Positive. Purposeful. POPE.

    Lifestyle: I L♥VE You lead a life, that you think is pleasing to the one that you serve.

    Work: I L♥VE You Inspire and Motivate Others to chase after God and the life that he has for them everyday. Never settling. You help others to recognize their power and their greatness. You have the B E S T job in the world.

    Education: I L♥VE that You beat the odds and graduated from Tuskegee University, a major milestone. I am even more proud of you because you did not stop there you continued on to pursue your Masters in Community Counseling and Public Administration.

    Finances: I L♥VE that you have learned how to manage your $ better. Recognizing what you need over what you want. You have begun to save money and pay back your student loans. Kudos to you for starting to Invest your $ too. I see you making Power moves.

    Health: I L♥VE how you glow when you stare back in the mirror at me. You made a life change and never looked back. You started educating yourself about what you were feeding yourself. You cut out those unhealthy foods that were killing your body, mind, and spirit. I love how you have fallen in love with exercising and staying in shape. Taking better care of the Temple God has entrusted to you. Opting to use more natural products, which have totally perserved your beauty. Your skin glows. Your mind is free and clear. This is the best your body has ever looked.

    Family: I L♥VE how you have fallen in love with your family all over again. Oh how far, yall have come. God has totally restored some things. Yall love harder. Support harder. Encourage harder. Serve God harder. You see God at work in the lives of both you and your family members. God is breaking every Generational Curse and restoring yall back to Greatness.

    Relationships: I L♥VE that you have let go of all the people God had been trying to pry your hands from around. I love that you have recognized that some are only there for a season. Recognizing that everybody cant go where God is taking you. You took so much of your power back, by just letting GO. When you let go of all those ones that were not suppose to be there, you made room for God to bless you with the most amazing friendships, bonds, and relationships that any person could have.

    I just wanted to let you know, I see you giiiiirl. Stay your course. Keep god first and nothing or no one will be able to deny you from the Increase God has set aside for you. I love you, more than you know. Get ready cause God has even MORE in store for you.

    ♥You have my heart.
    Read my latest blog post…Day 3 of the #31 Day Reset♥

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  34. Dear Future Shahidah,

    Look how Fabulous your life has become!!! You are so blessed in every aspect of your life. You’re finally getting sleep again thanks to your baby boy sleeping through the night, he’s finally drinking a bottle so you can get those much needed breaks here and there, Yaaaaaay you :-)

    You’re back to work consistently and your business is flourishing more than you could’ve imagined, your current clients are refering new ones and they are all in love with your work. You’re making it to the gym at least 4 times a week, eating better and feeling more energized because of it. You and your husband are able to have date nights, where you can get all dressed up and wear those high heels you normally don’t get to wear. You were able to budget and finally makeover a few rooms in your home to make it your comfortable sanctuary :-)

    You are so grateful to have your husband, your children your home and your business to keep you happy and pushing forward towards the many other things you aspire to do in life.

    Life is good, life is GREAT! Onward and Upward you go!!!!
    Read my latest blog post…Monday Motivation!!

  36. Dear Jazz,
    Wow girl, you’ve done it! Sometimes, it’s hard to think you’ve made it this far, but by the grace of God, you have. I’m so glad you’ve made it to the place you are. You are simply amazing, you know that? You love your new lifestyle. You’ve made the best out of living with your mom and your sister has moved out, so you get the bigger room. Whoop whoop, in no time, you will have your own place to live. That new job is working lovely, I see. I can tell from that smile on your vase, and you are able to save money for school! Sista girl, you are doing the damn thang! I see you, with your beautiful self. That new body is giving me life, LITERALLY! You look amazing and can’t help but see that smile on your face. You are beautifully made, no matter what size you are, but I am loving that newfound confidence. I saw it a few months ago, and I’m glad to see it is back. It’s good that you are the attention you deserve, and not just from men, but from EVERYONE! I’m glad you don’t let what others say about your art make you doubtful anymore. Not everyone can or will understand. It’s coming from your mind, a beautiful place no one can ever make ugly. I am so proud of you. Everything you said you wanted to do, you’re doing. I love you very much. Keep showing the world that beautiful smile of yours. Keep on shining beautiful.
    Love,
    Me
    Read my latest blog post…New Artist: Aaron Camper

  38. Ok, I felt really great writing this letter and even though it’s personal I’m going to share it because it made me smile.

    Dear future Channing,

    You should be extremely proud of yourself for all the progress you’ve made. Looking back on when you analyzed your life before, it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come; I bet you didn’t think you’d be here did you? Having a full social life and schedule, new friends and all the opportunities you’ve had just because you decided to get out there and do it. You didn’t even know WHAT you were doing, but you just stepped out and the more you did, the more happened. I guess it is true, when you put out positive energy it comes back to you because it seems like you’ve just been attracting these things, people, and opportunities to you like a magnet. FINALLY you have a job and not just any job, one you like and that pays well, we are well on our way off school and getting our savings and fun time savings in order.

    Speaking of school, congrats on starting again, now let’s get through it this time, I know it’s frustrating but stick with it and you’ll be done before you know it. I’ve noticed your vocabulary has grown and I see you know a thing or two about finances and there have been a lot of other interesting things you’ve read, I can see your growth and I know it makes you feel good because reading is great and learning has always been something you loved and were good at. And you can finally afford to do some of the other things you’ve wanted, piano lessons, dance, guitar, and I’m so proud of you for going out and getting them started. I see you’ve bought a new camera and a new laptop and I’m looking forward to seeing you put them to good use and cross some of those things off of your bucket list.

    Your skin has been looking great, you are in amazing shape, and who knew cooking and eating healthy was so much fun? Did you notice all the extra energy you have and, touch your toes, go on, do it…right!? Bout time! You have so much personality girl, where have you been hiding it? I know people say you seem like a different person, or something’s changed but really you’re just being you, all you FINALLY, and I’m excited for you!! This is great. God, I know is proud of you also, because you never gave up on your relationship with Him. I know it’s confusing but the understanding you’ve gained makes it a lot easier, and you can be more secure in your relationship knowing you’re doing the right thing, even if you mess up, just by wanting to do the right thing. I’m glad you’ve stopped beating yourself up so much, you’re worthy and you are perfect as is, with all the quirks and individual traits, but then again you know that by now.

    And who knew you had so much in common with your brother; dare I say you two are…friends? Heck I’m going to say it anyway because that’s what I’m seeing. You seem more comfortable around your dad as well and your strongest family ties are even stronger. On the up and up, that’s what I like to see. Now I know you’ve spent a lot of time working on yourself and getting ready for the type of relationship you see yourself having and I must say, I’d date you right now. I’m glad you didn’t decide to pass up on opportunities getting to know other men, and let that cutie take you out because even though you still love [ex's name], you have a life to live, and it’s OK to have one, you can still meet people, date, even feeling like you see a future with him. There’s nothing wrong with that, and you’re not disrespecting anything by doing so. You owe it to yourself to get out there and let some men show you how awesome you are. Keep those panties on though girl and COM-MU-NI-CATE!! Don’t forget! This is about sharpening your dating skills, so have fun with it and let all that wonderfulness shine through. It’s already there, just waiting on you to flip the switch.

    Anyway, just wanted to say I’m proud of you. I’m so proud of you, and I’m looking forward to the future and what other great things are in store, because I didn’t even realize this much was possible so soon, now I feel like we can do anything and everything, and I’m so ready to do it all with you. I’m glad to know you, I’m glad to be you, and I love you.

    Love Always,
    Channing

    • Beautiful letter Channing, and thank you for being so open and sharing this with us. I wish you the most success in your 31 day reset! You will accomplish everything that you speak of in this letter. It’s so motivating to be sharing this journey with others.

      and p.s: I laughed so hard at “Keep those panties on though girl.” Love it!

      • Thank you!

        Sometimes you gotta remind yourself. I don’t jump in with just anyone but, until I’m in a healthy long term relationship I’m gonna keep telling myself that. Being “in a relationship” isn’t enough anymore.

  39. wow, that life assesment assignment was rough for me! I was almost too bummed out to write this letter. Did anyone else have difficult time doing the life assesment? Thankfully, I was able to push through and here’ the letter that I wrote. Dear Joya, After leaving your previous school, you finally found a school you actually like! Your back to reading and even started the writing the first chapter of your book. I’m sure a publisher will think your ideas are wonderful and will sighn you on the spot. It’s a relief that Veterans Affairs are still paying you. I know it was a huge step for you to seek counseling. Your outlook on life is better and it’s showing through your smile. That beautiful glow on your face is coming back. Leaving that school was the best decision you’ve made thus far. Altough you’re still living in the same apartment its not all that bad. I admired the fact that you remain grateful no matter the circumstance. Your budegting skills are greatly improving and you continue to set aside month.

    • I did have a hard time at first, to be honest I had just finished crying over something before I wrote mine so I wasn’t feeling it at all. I stopped and waited til now to finish and I know even though I’m feeling crappy I want good things for my life and giving myself permission to just write my happiness the way I wanted was good for me, I tried not to hold back, even if I don’t see everything happening in the next 30days, who knows what’s possible.

      I think this a great activity especially when you’re feeling crappy, and just think about when u read your letter 30 days from now and see you wrote down what you’re doing, finding a new school, and getting your book started, that’s going to be exciting.

      • Thank You Channing so much for that encouragement! I had more dislikes than likes in the different areas of my life. Your right, I have to look forward in that letter 30 days from and just keep my faith. Again, thank you for reminding that not all is bad. Have a blessed day.

  40. Dear future Esha,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    You have made more peace with your surroundings and have come back from vacation refreshed and renewed and ready to embark on your new internship journey! You are preparing to enter an internship that you are very excited about. I pray much success and that you show the light of Christ to all that you come across. You are now in grad school full time! I am so proud of you. Through blood, sweat, and tears you managed to attain the highest level of education that you set out for yourself. Even in the hardest times you stuck through it when you could have quit. Your tenacity and determination inspire and encourage me. I love how you’ve begun to save for your Social Work license and the move to Florida already. I admire your frugality with your money even though there are things you really want to buy you refrain and your sacrifices will pay off in the future. I love how you are attentive to you and your family’s health. Keep up the good work! Remember to keep exercising and taking mental health breaks from the inundation of social media! I love that you continue to keep your family first and making sure they are okay. Continue to get closer to them. I love that your relationships with your friends are as deep as they are. Continue to cultivate those friendships and every so often thank the people who support and encourage you.

    Your life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up!

    Past Aisha :-)

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  42. Dear me,
    I can’t believe that this time has gone by so fast. You are on your way girl, Im so proud of you and all that you are accomplishing.
    You have a wonderful new set of friendships. People you have met that are excited about life and seeking ways to get more out of it. They are at the same place you are in life and man, do they like to have fun! Look at all you’ve accomplished at work. You have learned everything you needed to do your job efficiently and get out on time, plus you touch lives every time you work with your caring, positive attitude. And, you have fun at work and love being there every second.
    You have researched some schools that might be a good online way to get that bachelors. (no worries, girl. Its all good).
    Wow, did you pay off another bill? You go girl. Keep at it. Steady. You will get to that place you dream of. And what??? You went to that seminar on how to buy investment properties? Amazing, is all I can say.
    Your children are sane and happy and your son will be home from Afganistan very shortly. Your daughters are safely back at their colleges and praise God for the GI bill allowing all this to occur.
    You and your husband are finding your way. You are finding new ways to connect and share your lives. He loves you and you love him. 22 years! That is awesome. What a blessing to have a love that stands the test of time and man.
    All in all girl, you are doing the dang thing. Keep going. Remember to let go of the past and all the junk that doesn’t work for you. Let go of dead and dying adventures so that those empty place can be filled with the wonderful things that are for you.

    Bravo!!

    Love you.
    me

  43. This is a great way to announce our positive intentions to the universe, especially when writing as if the events have already happened. Writing this, I realized that I have a lot of goals! Too many? Maybe that’s not possible. I guess I have to let go of my perfectionism and really believe that everything I want can be.

    Dear future Fatin,

    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far! You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life, including the following:

    • Lifestyle: I love having my own apartment with all the privacy, quiet and space that I need. Living where it’s easy to get to social events is great! I love that I’m doing more for the sake of having fun than for the express reason of meeting men.
    • Work: I love my new full-time ESL teaching job! It’s such a relief to finally be earning a comfortable salary and to have benefits. I am so happy that I finally signed up for a voiceover class and had someone evaluate my potential in the voiceover industry.
    • Education: I love that I am going to French meetups on a regular basis and started an affordable Arabic class!
    • Finances: I am so thankful that I have reduced my debt and started to pay off my student loans. I have about $2,000 saved, which is so exciting!
    • Health: I love that I lost those last 20lbs and am starting to see the results of the cardio and toning exercises that I do on a consistent basis. I feel so calm and centered and I don’t really crave sugar anymore.
    • Family: I love that I was able to spend more time with my father and brother in Minneapolis. My sister and I talk more regularly and my mom and I don’t argue as often as we used to.
    • Relationships: I love that I am dating a really wonderful man and that I have had phone calls and skype sessions with some old friends. I’ve made plans to see some of my NYC friends as well. My new friends have introduced me to other people, so my social network is growing.

    My life is so much better now and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up! I am so proud of you!
    Love,
    Fatin

  44. Dear Chantel,

    I have to start out with saying how proud of you I am. You’ve shown yourself and others that with self belief, hard work and faith anything is possible.

    You went from a dead end job to being the boss of you. You went from living paycheck to paycheck to having enough to not only live comfortably, but to help out others in need. You changed your mind and as result changed your life. You set the standards higher, expected more if yourself and have attracted all the right people and opportunities. You’re not afraid of failure!

    Chantel, you’ve changed so much yet remained the same. Your boldness and fearlessness and your story is inspirational. And yes, you’ve succeeded in your film making, writing, and entrepreneurial goals and you balance that with a happy loving family of your own, but you have so much more to do. You are a gift and was made to change the world.

    You’re truly a super woman, a hero and inspiration.

    Love,
    Chantel

  46. Wow, I am loving today’s exercise! I can’t wait to get this letter back in 30 days to see the progress I will make.

  47. for those who dont have time to visit blog

    Dear Luv,

    Life for you hasn’t been a crystal, let alone a metal stair; nevertheless, you have fought the good fight and you have come out on top. I love the way you have taken control of your life and either completely gotten rid of folks that mean you harm or limited their access to you. I love the way you have changed the way you interact with your son and your niece. I love the way that you take time out each and everyday to give thanks to Jah for allowing you more time to get your life right and for you to be able to see the blessings in being you. I love your unstoppable spirit and that contagious smile.

    I love how you are taking the necessary steps to take care of your health..I know it can be scary to do it alone but just think about how much happier Chucky gonna be knowing you will get to harass him for a lot more years. I love that you are eating healthier and not just making the kids eat healthier. I love how you have completely kicked your addiction to Baking Soda and Baking Powder.

    I love how you are now utilizing your legal and English degree to help provide the financial security that you had been longing for. I love how you are using your education to help others.

    I love how your are getting your finances in order by paying the bills that you can on time to build up your credit. I love how you switched from a big named carrier to a prepaid to free up more money that could go towards taking care of the kids. I love how you are still able to save up for a rainy day.

    I love how you are handling running your own business why working a full-time job and starting up a non-profit… You are my shero.. You give me goosebumps when I think of all that you do.

    I love how you are waiting on love and no longer panicking or feeling jealous or envious when you see individuals in what appears to be loving relationships….your time is coming. I love how you are so committed to reacquainting yourself with Luv, self-love is a beautiful thing. I love how you have accepted that your family will probably never change and can NEVER change what and how they have treated you in the future but that you can and have set up boundaries for them now. I also love how you are there for your friends who are also going through it, you have such a big heart and I know someone with an even bigger heart is gonna come sweep you off your feet..

    Stay true to yourself Luv, Stay true to your walk with God, Stay true to LOVE and you shall be alright

    Smooches to yah,

    Luv

    “If you can’t love yourself or see better for yourself, how do you expect anyone else to? Change your outlook and everyone else will adjust accordingly.”

    ~Gotta Luv Moi, Cuz I Surely Do (Smooches)
    Read my latest blog post…Dear Luv ~ Day 3

  50. Dear Future Me,

    I have grown a lot within this last month. I have continued to work on being positive in spite of the life’s challenges. My “Book of Blessings” is full of entries from things that I have written from experiences. It is an amazing feeling to know that I have developed into more of a positive individual by diligently working on my thoughts and words. It took hard work and consistency, but I did it!

    I am also enjoying the relationships that I have. I love living a positive life with great people all around me. All of my relationships have grown stronger and better. Any friendships that were of hindrance or negative to me, I have completely let them go. It feels great to be able to enjoy life with a great outlook on things. I feel good inside and out!

    One of the relationships that have grown closer is that with God! Jesus is still my very best friend, which words cannot describe. Therefore, the spiritual aspect of life is looking up. I have been able to attend more church services since I have graduated from college. Also, the Big Brother, Big Sister Program is continually growing. This Program has increased the number of new saints in the church. I am surprisingly doing well in this leadership role. I am excited about where I am spiritually and looking forward to going even higher in Christ.

    Financially, I am at a better place as well. My summer job is ending in 6 days and while there I have been able to get back on my feet. I will be starting my career as an accountant with Ernst & Young in only 18 more days! Yay! I am looking forward to my career path with the firm. I will soon be moving into my new apartment, which I absolutely love by the way! I have already decided on what furniture and colors I want in my new place. I am loving me and my life!

    I enjoyed completing the Happy Black Woman 31-Day Challenge! I have grown into a better me with the help of this movement. Write another letter to myself to read next month to check on my progress and growth.

    Love,
    Me!

    Date Written: August 3, 2011

  51. So I’ve actually send my letter to my future self… let’s just copy and paste it here ?

    Dear future nine,
    Congratulations on all the progress you’ve made so far !
    You now have even more to be grateful for in each area of your life , including the following:
    • Lifestyle: You love how your apartment reflects yourself and is finally clear and cleaned up,your new spot to have a drink and relax is really great and hanging around is a real blast. That is really what freedom is all about.
    • Work: You love your new projects and the job search is bringing in some good results. Meanwhile you have so incredible results which are a good sign everything is under control.
    • Education: you love that your further education projects is on the right track with a clear vision and solid steps taken
    • Finances: You love that you’ve finally balanced your budget. It is easier that way, planning and then following the budget. With all the good moves you are on your way to a solid investment , may be in real estate in less than a year. The dating budget as well as the clothing and beauty lines is well documented.
    • HEALTH: wow did you shed so much weight honey ? Finally the eyes are looking straight and the blood pressure and back and joint pain are old memories, I also love how you have changed internally and how the confidence and trust in GOD is there !!
    • Family: you love how you keep in touch with your siblings even when they are so not close, love them always
    • Relationship, Finally ready to give various people a chance to get friends with… Romantic partner ? hopefully well on its way. And now you give a little less of yourself but a little more trust and it is going just fine. You love that you stand by yourself and the guilt is gone.
    Your life is so much better now, and it’s all because of your hard work. Keep it up
    Nine!!
    Ps: I love you so much and this freedom you are feeling feels so good.

    • Wow, thank you so much for posting this. What a powerful, powerful letter. Appreciate you taking the time to share with us!

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