It’s been almost a year since I took the plunge and did the big chop! I can’t believe that just one year ago, I was getting dumped by my boyfriend for making the decision to change my hairstyle . . . which has turned out to be one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. My family tried to talk me out of it (saying I would look “ugly” and too much like an African) and I remember being so afraid that no man would ever be attracted to me again because of my hair. Boy, was I wrong about that LOL! I transitioned for a few months, but quickly got tired of trying to maintain two types of hair, so I just cut it all off.
I’ve had ups and downs with trying to figure what to do with my natural hair after wearing it relaxed since I was a kid, but overall the journey has taught me two really important lessons that I will take with me over the course of my life:
- I’m beautiful just the way I am. Long or straight hair doesn’t define beauty any more than expensive clothes do. It’s just an illusion that often holds us back from paying attention to who we really are.
- I can do whatever the hell I want. Not just with my hair, but with my career, my body and my time. This is MY life. Not anyone else’s.
For other ladies out there who are thinking about going natural, but afraid of the “backlash” . . . look, if you want to do it, go for it! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You’re GROWN. And it’s YOUR hair. Just do the damn thang. If YOU want to change your hair (or anything else for that matter), that’s the only opinion that matters. Me? I love my hair. And I LOVE my life. I chose it and it’s mine. And I will never let anyone take that away from me.
So here’s 12 pictures over my first 12 months of being natural. I love seeing the growth over time, although that was never my goal, really. I just want to make sure I keep it healthy and cute. Much love to all the lovely sisters – online and off – who were so generous with their time in helping a natural newbie out! I’m still learning, but at least I’ve finally figured out how to style my ‘fro
For those new to the blog, here are my previous posts about my natural hair journey:
- Me: I’m Going to Grow Out My Natural Hair. Mom: Do You Want to Keep Your Man?
- Transitioning to Natural Hair: Flexi Rods, No. Roller Set, Yes.
- Today Was a Good Day
- The Big Chop
- Three Months After the Big Chop: I Love You, Giovanni. Also, Blazers.
- Natural Hair Ain’t for Everybody
- My Minimalist Natural Hair Care Regimen
What lessons did you learn from YOUR journey of going natural? Has it been a smooth transition?