Project Boyfriend: Three Dates With The Artist

Yes, #projectboyfriend is in full effect. Last week, I met a really cool guy on OK Cupid. He was just my type: short, chocolatey, community-minded and involved with music in art.  We talk on the phone a few days later. (I always talk to men on the phone first before meeting them in person. You can sense a lot about a someone’s energy that way.)

First Date

On our first date, we met up to go dancing at a reggae club on a Friday night. He was a great dancer and I had a blast. We ended up leaving the club after a while to walk around the city for a bit and talk. We never ran out of things to say! I didn’t even mind that we were both all sweaty from the club. The conversation lasted over an hour and by that time it was after 2am and time for me to get home.

Second Date

He called me at noon the next day, which is always a good look in my book because it means he had a good time. Follow-up is so important, fellas. He wanted to hang out that evening, but I had a bunch of work to do. Instead, we made plans for brunch the next morning.

We went to brunch and ran into some mutual friends, which was cool. (See? I told you that the same people you meet online are offline. Everyone’s doing it.) Afterward, we went to the farmer’s marker and hung out all day, talking and eating cupcakes. It was a great way to end a weekend.

Third Date

Third dates are crucial for me. They usually make or break your budding relationship. My experience is that if we still like each other after the third date, we’ll probably be seeing each other for a while. We’d made plans to have dinner at my favorite DC restaurant and head to a party later. What actually happened was pretty disappointing. He was 35 minutes late because he couldn’t “figure out what to wear, his lavender button-up or his lavender tee.”

Really?

Now, I understand people being late. I’ve been known to make men wait a few minutes past our agreed-upon meeting time. However, I try really hard to be on time or early for my first few dates with someone because it shows you respect their time and you really want to see them. So I was actually more annoyed by the reason why he was late rather than the fact that he was late in the first place. I was expecting a better reason. It seemed rather self-absorbed to me.

Needless to say, I was super annoyed, but I tried not to let it show too much so we both still had an enjoyable dinner. But I was NOT feeling like going to party with him afterwards. Although he was apologetic, my vibe was still all jacked up. I told him I was tired and wanted to head home instead.

He looked at me. “It’s because I was late, wasn’t it?”

“Yeah,” I said. “I’m just not feeling it tonight.”

He walked me to my car and we exchanged a brief hug.

“Take care,” I told him. And he never called me again.

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