Well, #projectboyfriend has been on the back burner lately as I’ve been on the road quite a bit working with clients, providing blogging services in Atlanta and speaking services in Austin. I love traveling! And I can’t wait to do more this month. I’m headed to Jacksonville, New Orleans and San Antonio in the next few weeks. I’ve also been putting all the finishing touches on my first book, How to Become a Nonprofit Rockstar: 50 Ways to Accelerate your Career, which will be released next month.
Whew! It’s tough building a business and trying to find love at the same time.
So, I’ve been lucky to get in an hour a week for perusing online dating sites versus the hour a day that I had previously envisioned as I embarked on my extreme online dating experiment. Nevertheless, I have still been out on at least one date per week. My most recent potential beau, however, was actually introduced to me in person (versus online) by my girl Loryn Wilson at a bar. He was the DJ for the party and we hit it off pretty well during our first night out dancing and even our second date where we went to dinner and a movie, then ended the night with him playing the guitar for me at his place. But that infatuation quickly went downhill for me once I realized that he was more interested in late night texts instead of a possible relationship. Too bad, because he was quite the cutie . . . we could have done great things together. Great things.
Tonight, though I have a date with a Nigerian guy I met on OK Cupid. He’s an IT guy at a nonprofit and he fits what seems to be emerging as my “type,” I guess: educated, a little bit nerdy, positive attitude about life, likes to travel and try new things and loves to dance (to reggae!). He also wears glasses, which is the ultimate sexy to me. I love a man who not only is smart, but “looks” smart, too. So anyway, we’re going dancing tonight at a reggae club, which is quickly becoming my go-to first date. It’s already a fun atmosphere and as a bonus, you can get up close and personal on the dance floor to see if you have any physical chemistry.
And speaking of chemistry . . . I’ve decided to spend the little free time I had left this week to take advantage of an online dating site I’ve been wanting to try out for a while now. Now through October 10, Chemistry.com is offering a “free communication weekend,” which means that if you sign up right now for free, you can get access to all Chemistry.com subscriber benefits and site features at no cost for 72 hours through Sunday, October 10, 2010 11:59PM Central Time. What makes Chemistry.com different is that they provide an in-depth look at who you are and what you want in a relationship before sending you personalized matches with the potential to trigger chemistry.
In order to take advantage of Chemistry.com’s free communication weekend, you will need to complete the Chemistry.com registration form and personality test to automatically be able to communicate with your matches. It took me about 15 minutes to complete my profile, take the personality test, and upload a photo. (But keep in mind that I already had my “dating bio” ready using the wording that I post on other dating sites. If you haven’t yet crafted something that describes you and what you’re looking for in a few paragraphs, it may take you more like 30 minutes to an hour to fill out the profile.)
Here are my results so far.
My Dating Personality Was 100% Accurate
This was the second time I’ve taken a personality test for an online dating site (the first was for eHarmony), and it was eerily accurate. It’s like they had interviewed all my family and friends and created a picture of what I’m really like. According to Chemistry.com, I’m an Explorer/negotiator.
They showed two explanatory boxes that highlighted the characteristics of each of the two personality types I possess.
It was pretty generic at first, but true. It got a lot more specific, though.
Whoa. That’s pretty much me in a nutshell. Then came the piece that explained how I am in relationships based on my personality.
What?! Have they been talking to my ex-boyfriends? I always tend to choose men who balance out my idealistic/dreamy side a bit. Then came the final kicker that showed me how my personality style relates to others in dating.
I absolutely get bored easily with many of the men I date. I’ve always intuitively known the reason why, but Chemistry.com just confirmed for me that this is because our personalities are not necessary compatible.
The Quality of My Matches
After I completed my profile and personality test, I received a total of 10 matches. I haven’t had a chance to go through them all, but so far I’m liking what I see. The great thing about Chemistry.com (which Match.com and eHarmony don’t do very well), is that they make it clear how much you have in common based on both your profile AND your personality test. This is how me and my first match stacked up.
Cool, huh? Turns out I was immediately interested in and attracted to my first match, so I clicked on “I’m interested” and was able to send him a list of icebreaker questions. You also have the opportunity to send an email, which I might just go ahead and do with my next match and skip the initial flirting. We don’t have time to waste!
Gameplan for the Rest of the Weekend
I plan to get in contact with as many of my matches as I can and hopefully find someone to continue talking to after the weekend is over. I’m not opposed to paying for the service, I just have to feel like there are enough potentials on the site for me to pay for it after the trial is over. Honestly, though, even if I don’t meet anyone from the site, I’m already more than happy with what it’s already given me so far with the personality test. Knowing more about how my personality type interacts with others has given me valuable insight that I will be taking with me in my future dating adventures!
Are you gonna try out Chemistry.com with me? If you do, please share in the comments what your dating personality was and whether you think it was accurate for you. How many matches did you get and were they really a “match” for you? Let’s compare notes!
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I’m a negotiator/builder. This is close. There were three things that I’m not but it was fun to try. I’m not sure if I’ll continue and use it for dating.
The matches were soooo wrong. The questions that gave you the option of moving the slider didn’t work. I moved the slider all the way to the right because it is very important to not have kids nor want them.
Guess what? All 10 matches want kids!
I ended up with the same personality type EXPLORER/Negotiator. I saw a link from you and signed up. Guys seem to be really taking advantage of the free communication weekend.
Yeah, that’s why I like free communication weekends better than free trials because it means there will be more guys to choose from! Cool that we are the same personality type. I actually found myself gravitating toward other explorers once I saw my matches. Just by looking at their profiles. we definitely seem to have more in common than usual. Have fun!