Reset Your Life Day 3: Identify Your Values

This post is Day 3 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up for the program here.

Yesterday, you conducted a life assessment to look at what was working – and not working – in the seven key areas of your life. You took an honest look at where you felt accomplished and where you found yourself lacking. I have to admit, I teared up reading many of your assessments and I dug deep in completing my own as well.

Why? Because so many of us listed more “hates” than we expected and revealed that we really do need a major change in our lives. For most of us, yesterday was the first step in realizing that we are not living up to our personal values. Today, we’re going to address that disconnect by doing the first task in developing a personal mission statement over the next few days: identifying your values.

Day 3: Identify Your Values

What matters most to you in life? The answer to this question is called your values. Often we find that we’ve forgotten about that which we care about because we allowed ourselves to get stuck doing something else, on someone else’s agenda. Take at least  15 minutes to jot down a free-for-all list of what means a lot to you.

Just a few examples of values include:

  • Achievement, fame, advancement, leadership
  • Money, power, authority, economic security
  • Having a family, children, love, community, friendships
  • Nature, religion, public service, ecological awareness, healthy living, physical challenge
  • Democracy, civic involvement, wisdom, integrity, truth
  • Location, privacy, country, adventure, fast-paced living

Remember, these are just examples. There are many more you can – and should – think of on your own. Most people come up with at least a dozen values once they get going. Once you identify all of your values – all the things you care about, choose your “Reset 10″ – a list of your TOP 10 values from your list. They don’t have to be in any particular order, though you may certainly rank them if you’d like.

When you’re done, please share your “Reset 10″ values with us in the comments! Would also be great to hear about the process went for you and how you felt as you completed this exercise.

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163 comments

  1. … playing catch-up – Completed days 2 & 3 today. Here’s my list:

    1) Faith/relationship with God

    2) Love (all relationships, including community and helping others)

    3) Integrity

    4) Personal space/freedom

    5) Excellent health (mental, spiritual, emotional, physical)

    6) Creative/artistic expression

    7) Success (fulfilling career and mutually uplifting relationships, financial wealth)

    8) Intellectual stimulation

    9) Adventure/fun!

    10) Culture (including travel and seeing the world)

  2. I had to make sure I was honest with myself when listing my values. Someone said above they did not want to use “pagent” answers & I knew exactly what she was feeling. People pleasing was an issue I had a long time to ago, but sometimes it creeps back in. I have to remind myself I am doing this for me.

    I named ten values easily. In about 2 minutes. Then others came to mind later, but I felt like each one of those would fall under one of the top ten values.

    1. Relationship with God
    2. Health
    3. Travel
    4. Helping Others
    5. Financial Stability/Security
    6. Reading
    7. Peace
    8. Growth
    9. Music
    10. Family

  7. 1. Family
    2. My Faith/Christian Values
    3. Honesty
    4. Pursuing my calling/Using my gifts
    5. Financial Freedom
    6. Me Time
    &. Friendships/Relationships
    7. Leadership
    8. Love
    9. Prayer
    10. Integrity

  9. This one was less emotional. I blogged about it on my site. Here are my 10:

    1. Freedom
    2. God
    3. Peace
    4. Love
    5. Self
    6. Security
    7. Family
    8. Empowerment
    9. Safety
    10. Health

    My runner ups were: fellowship, service, and growth
    Read my latest blog post…Reset Your Life Challenge

  10. These are not in order but here they are:

    Intimacy
    Love
    Being close to my family
    Laughter
    Comfort
    Freedom/independance
    Having a purpose/Making a difference
    Economic security
    Fun/entertainment
    Living the healthiest lifestyle that I possibly can.

  11. I must say that I look forward to these exercises.

    My values:

    love and passion
    family
    career progression
    leading with intuition
    being a positive inspiration
    spirituality
    drive and ambition
    search for knowledge and truth
    adventure and cultural penetration
    health Positivity and FUN!

  12. My Reset 10 (Plus 1!)

    1. Honoring God & growing spiritually.
    2. Realizing my Personal Legend
    3. Health in my physical body, mind & spirit
    4. Family (children, motherhood, building & adding to a family legacy)
    5. LOVE (strong & happy marriage, affection, friendships, family)
    6. Financial freedom & security
    7. Sincerity & Beauty
    8. Nature (I breathe it. I need it)
    9. Liberating, exchanging & sharing with others
    10. Travel & Culture
    Plus One: Good Food! it gives me SOOOO much joy!

  13. These are not in order . . .
    Economic security for myself and my family
    To help others
    To become adventuresome, like I use to be
    Form a better relationship with my son
    Health
    Express my creativity
    To make a difference
    Being me, my authentic self at all times
    To become more spiritual
    Family

  15. I didn’t put them in order but here they go:

    Friendship- I value friendship although I don’t have many friends. I don’t have that just best buddy that I have to tell everything to, who knows everything about me and I know everything about her. But I wish I did.

    Health- I value health (and here I go again) although I’m not taking real good care of myself so I can get a good return on my investment in my old age. I should be exercising and taking care of myself.

    Family- Family means a lot to me. I’m not close to my family; in fact I hardly even know the majority of my family. I think that might be why I have spent so much of my life trying to fit into other peoples families because I didn’t have that but I really wanted it. But you never really forget that they are not really your family I always still seem to feel like an outsider.

    Employment- I value employment so much more now that I’m unemployed. While I was working I took it for granted that I was blessed to be on a job for seventeen years.

    Happiness- When you’ve been unhappy for so long you look back and value the times when you were.

    Education- I value education. I am soooo glad to be going back to school to better myself, learn new things, and just open my eyes to what life really has to offer.

    Faith- I value Faith simply for the reason He didn’t have to do it but He did and He did it for little ole me! ;)

    Love- true love is priceless

    Honesty- I am worth the truth and I deserve to be told the truth no matter how hard it might be to swallow.

    Freedom- I value my freedom. I thank God I am free. Free to be me. Free to live my life as I so please. Go where I want to go. Read what I want to read. Watch what I want to watch.

  16. top 10

    10)Physical challenge
    9) Healthy living
    8) Loyalty
    7) Economic security
    6) Common sense
    5) wisdom
    4) self discipline/personal responsibility
    3) sincerity
    2) fairness/justice
    1) Privacy

    i found this quite difficult as i have honeslty never sat down adn really thought about what my values are before. I interpret values as the things i hold dear that i live by. the problem is, i “live” them without really thinking about the fact that they are important to me, or how important they are. “friendship” was a value that i struggled with, and at one point had it at numbers 8 then 7. But i had to ask myself – how much can i really “value” something that i don’t have and am making no effort to aspire to? (at the time). So i found it quite difficult to acknowledge and admit that there was a value i SHOULD find important and have in my list, but didn’t feel i could because i did not “live” it. So friendship is there, just not in the top 10. though i hope to be changing that this saturday, having started my own meet up group.
    I actually ran through many drafts of this before i came up with this top 10. And now there is a value i would actually add, but it came about right at the end of the project, so i will “blog” about it on day 31. But that value is FORTITUDE, and if it were possible to have a number higher than 1) it would be there! (or i could just bunk “physical challenge” and move the list down lol)

  17. In no particular order my Reset 10:

    Empathy
    Love
    Trust/Honesty
    Spiritual Education/Teaching
    Accountability
    Authenticity
    Spiritual Foundation/Practice
    Play/Fun
    Creativity
    Family

  18. This was a wonderful exercise, as it required honest reflection. I had done this sort of thing a long time ago, and as I did it again now, I was surprised how some of my values had changed, while others remained steadfastly the same. My list, and the reasons I strive to live these values:

    * Healthful Living (one needs good health in order to pursue the other values to their full potential)

    * Integrity (honesty with oneself and others about actualizing all one’s values in one’s daily interactions with people and the world)

    * Truth (to seek truth in all things and not be afraid to face any truths that might be unpleasant or the acceptance of which might require a shift in thinking)

    * Friendships (one is not in the world alone; the inter-relatedness of one to one is what gives life its meaning as we both learn from and teach one another from our experiences)

    * Family (the older one gets, the more one learns to appreciate one’s family, especially after the generation older than you have all passed on)

    * Economic Security (it is unpleasant, to put it mildly, to have to worry whether one will be able to afford to pay the bills each month)

    * Intellectual Stimulation (one must pursue learning new things throughout one’s life, as circumstances and the world are constantly changing; the more one knows, the better one is equipped to deal with whatever changes occur)

    * Community (“it takes a village” not only to raise a child but to live a fulfilled life, no matter what age one is at; one must realize that a “healthy community” is one in which people seek to be connected in ways that uplift one another)

    * God/Religion (inner strength and hope come from having faith)

    * Nature/Ecology (we have only one earth, the resources of which must be sustainable for our survival and the survival of future generations)

  19. Here is my list of ten values not in any particular order:

    Relationships (Family, friends and partner)
    Having a family
    Making a positive difference
    Kindness
    Respect
    Honesty
    Laughter
    Time with myself
    Economic Security
    Comfort

  20. I posted my in a different way on my blog…i also updated my first 3 days of the challenge

    http://travellingwomanists.wordpress.com/reflections-of-a-reflectionary/happy-black-woman-3-days-and-counting/

    hope you enjoy reading but if you dont want to go through the entire thing here is the short version

    sankofa
    equinimity
    open to possibilities
    celebrating creativity
    living through learning
    translating my dreams into action
    travel in the mind body and spirit
    environmentalism
    embracing the unknown
    patience with those i love the most

  21. So far these exercises have been great …. they get the juices flowing! Here’s my list:

    Religion – Spirituality
    Marriage – Husband – Children -Family
    Community
    Health – Physical Exercise
    Travel – Learning
    Achievement – Success
    Economic Security – Wealth
    Charity – Giving to Others
    Friendship
    Good Food

  22. The creator
    family
    love
    charity
    happiness
    stronger spiritually
    healthy
    honesty
    successful
    wisdom

    i felt great expression my personal ambitions

  23. Love

    Respect

    Peace

    Success

    Wisdom

    Money

    Freedom ( To any options in, any aspect of life, to do as I choose)

    Loyalty ( Friendships and relationships)

    Truth

    Religion

  24. My “Reset 10″ came tome in between meetings. I wanted to do it as soon as I read it:

    Knowledge/learning
    Family/friends
    Love
    Integrity
    Emotional stability
    Peace/comfort @ home
    Career satisfaction
    Service to Others
    Financial Stability
    Laughter (Happiness)

  25. Wow…choosing just 10 was quite difficult, but here it is in no particular order :-)

    1) Love
    2) Relationship with God
    3) Joyful-no matter the circumstance
    4) Successful
    5) Being happily married with kids
    6) Life long learner
    7) Good health/Healthy living
    8) Finacially secure
    9) To be a blessing/giver/helping others
    10)Good relationships-including friends and family

  26. Passion

    Creativity

    Discovery & adventure

    Love

    Friendship

    Empathy and support for others & appreciation of the inner good.

    Self improvement

    Travel

    Freedom of spirit,

    laugher

  27. Hello, All!
    My values include, but are not limited to:
    1. having faith
    2. being healthy (good nutrition, supporting cruelty-free products, natural products, etc.)
    4. objectivity
    5. being a good listener
    6. life long learning
    7. manners/protocol/etiquette
    8. quiet
    9. loyalty
    10.flexibility

  28. My Reset list is:

    1. Financially Stable
    2. Acheivement
    3. Family
    4. Stability
    5. Love
    6. Happiness
    7. Wisdom
    8. ME time
    9. Balance
    10. Health

    When completing this exercise, I realized that yes these items are very important to me but out of the long list, I wasn’t making any of them a priority especially the ME time. I get so caught up in doing for others that I make excuses as to why I can’t do for my own self. I now see that this contributes to my unhappiness. I am learning how to take that time to take care of ME and everything else comes secondary.

  29. 1. Family & Friends
    2. Religion
    3. Career/Education
    4. Financial freedom
    5. Marriage
    6. Enjoying life
    7. Making someone smile/doing a good deed
    8. Teaching children life lessons
    9. Gaining wisdom through experiences
    10. Honesty

  30. Writing down my values and seeing where in my current life I implement them is eye opening. Knowing that I value so many things I want to makesure I incorporate it into my everyday occurrences. Here is my list

    Family relationships
    Happiness
    Financial stability
    Friends
    Understanding of self
    Education
    Culture
    Artistic expression
    Adventure
    Love

  31. Writing down my values and seeing where in my current life I implement them is eye opening. Knowing that I value so many things I want to makesure I incorporate it into my everyday occurrences. Here is my list

    Family relationships
    Happiness
    Financial stability
    Friends
    Understanding of self
    Education
    Culture
    Artistic expression
    Adventure
    Love

  32. Education-having the ability to gain qualifications in subjects that intrest me and ones that challenge me ahead of Schedule, even with a mild learning difficulty.

    Work-Happy that I choose careers that can be done anywhere, and have been fortunate to do so.

    Family-better understanding of my parents and am now closer with them; raising and nurturing child by myself seeing child personality grow and loving what I see :)

    Friends-having a unit that I am close with and that are close with each other too.

    Life-Overcoming difficulties and learninf to love self more.

    Relocation- ability to adapt quickly to new situations.

    Self-better understanding of who I am and what I stand for.

    Health-content that its back on track; there is room for imrovement.

    • cont..
      Finances-need to overcome setback

      Travel-see wonders of the world and get paid to do it, complete interupted trip to Kenya to see Masia people and Safari.

      Love- to be in a mutual, respectful relationship

  34. Here are my 10 values:
    1. Spiritual Growth
    2. Family
    3. Home
    4. Peace
    5. Friends
    6. Career
    7. Health
    8. Security
    9.To Love and Be Loved
    10. See the World

  35. My values-

    Health – mind, body and spiritual
    Family – It’s the foundation.
    Friends – learning and nurturing.
    Love – sharing, learning and giving.
    Wisdom – learning and using.
    Service- to community.
    Respect – considermaintaining and giving kindness and hospitality.
    Privacy – maintaining and respecting other’s.
    Money – stable enough to maintain
    Learning – and applying.

  36. RESET-10

    1. God
    2. Wisdom
    3. Truth
    4. Peaceful Home
    5. Financial Stability
    6. Health
    7. Well-balanced children
    8. Family/Friends
    9. Love
    10.Hapiness/Joy

  37. It was easier that I thought to come up with a list of things that value…the hard part was narrowing it down to the TOP 10. Here’s what I narrowed it down to (in no particular order):

    1. Financial freedom
    2. Love for myself, family and community
    3. Having a family
    4. Spirituality
    5. Giving back/public service
    6. Attainment of goals
    7. Honesty & integrity
    8. Building relationships
    9. Attainment of goals
    10. Privacy

    (Okay so I maybe cheated a bit with combining some of them :-)

  38. I value:
    1.) My faith and relationship with God (and the inner peace it brings)
    2.) My Family – (husband and children)
    3.)Entrepreneurship
    4.) Time Freedom
    5.) Finanacial Freedom
    6.) Helping(and seeing) others succeed
    7.) Financial Freedom
    8.) Health
    9.) Influence (being a positive influence)
    10.) Personal Growth
    10

  39. Here are mine:
    Health and fitness: feeling confident about my body and the way I look. Not getting sick. Being strong. Having muscles. Body awareness. No pain.

    Having enough money to do what I want and to feel secure. Not to feel like an idiot if I lose my job and can’t survive on my own because I spent too much on clothes and cars.

    Friends. Old and new.

    Family. Supporting and being supported. Having family relationships that enrich my life. Taking care of those who have taken care of me.

    Home. Creating a comfortable home that is easy for people to hang out in, easy for me to live in, that sustains me and energizes me.

    Excellence. Quality. Making the best decision, through research, analysis. Good design: thoughtful, sustainable, simple.

    Culture. Art, music, drama, film, poetry, reading, history, travel. Supporting, studying, doing. Learning by doing, through travel.

    Spirituality. Practice. Centering prayer. Meditation. Silence.

    Engagement. Working on something important. Public service. Being good at something. Expertise.

    Being helpful. Not being a problem, but finding solutions. Doing the right thing. Finding/telling the truth.

    • I love your list- really beautifully written in addition to being inspiring! I love “being helpful” especially.

  40. Reset 10 (in no particular order except the first one)
    1. my daughter (the question was what matters most to me; kinda feels strange listing her since she’s always #1 in my life, but I wanted to give an honest answer)
    2. peace of mind
    3. gaining a husband one day
    4. a fulfilling career
    5. financial wealth/stability
    6. owning a house
    7. job flexibility
    8. a healthy mind, body, and soul
    9. happiness
    10. a balanced life (work commitments, friends, family, leisure time etc.)

  41. Top 10

    1. Eternal Life
    2. Children
    3. Finances
    4. peace of Mind
    5. integrity
    6.Companionship
    7. peace of mind
    8. entrepreneurship
    9. retirement
    10. stability

  42. God/Spirituality
    Family- relationships remain strong
    Having children
    Location- Caribbean, warm weather
    Healthy Living weight control fitness
    Marriage husband
    Financial wellness
    Travel
    Balance- Mind body soul, work
    Flexibility- work balance, freedom working remotely in warm locale
    Self- continued growth

  45. Here’s my “Reset 10″ edited down from 21:

    1. faith
    2. family
    3. personal excellence
    4. healthy lifestyle
    5. integrity
    6. nature
    7. art
    8.travel
    9. challenge
    10. community service

    4.

  46. 1. Religion- closer relationship with God
    2. Community- give more of my time to the less fortunate, share my talents
    3. Family/Love- be a better daughter, reconnect/re-establish relationship with some family members; start my own family (husband, kids)
    4. Friendship- be a better, more supportive friend
    5. Finances- financial stability, financial freedom
    6. Career- start my own business, manifest my passions/dreams into reality
    7. Health- physically & mentally, workout more, eat better, drink more water, better sleeping habits
    8. Integrity- live an honest life, be true to myself
    9. Happiness
    10. Peace

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  48. Mine are….

    1. Becoming a wife and mother
    2. Being a good Christian
    3. Doing fulfilling work
    4. Healthy living
    5. Urban city living
    6. Higher education
    7. Financial stability
    8. Creativity
    9. Becoming a home owner
    10. Entrepreneurship

  49. 1. God
    2. My children
    3. My husband
    4. My family
    5. Life
    6. Freedom
    7. Work
    8. Fun
    9. Health
    10. Travel

  52. Day 3 so I immediately wrote 30 things like without thinking. I think that’s probably not right. How can you do all these things well? Something is going to be neglected. Goof thing we have a “reset 10″. I basically wrote what makes me feel good. I came up with these (in no particular order): music, appearance, love, laughter, family, money, fame, dance, education, friends.

    • Okay, here are my “Reset 10″

      Flexibility in life – this includes finances, time, & profession.
      Sharing – information, resources, ideas… My “title” is Connector of People and Resources.
      Love – ’nuff said.
      Family – people for whom I can be dependable and on whom I can depend.
      Inner peace – this sounds cliché, but I’m dead serious. I refuse to live in anxiety ever again.
      Joy – life is nothing without it. From joy comes fun, happiness, optimism, & all sorts of good things.
      Creativity – Music & otherwise. Just need to be able to express myself & help others do the same.
      Travel – I’m also coming to realize that this is a value in & of itself. Gotta get out & explore the world!
      Education – what are we without knowledge?
      Friendship – Friends are so critical! I love those that I have & would love to expand my crew

  57. im stuck at 9. lol.
    family
    love
    passion
    integrity
    community/charity
    legacy
    stability
    fulfillment
    growth

    can time be a value that i value? hmm.. if so..that’s my last one. :)

  58. Here are my top ten in no particular order

    1. Spirituality
    2. Entrepreneurship
    3. Exploring
    4.Art
    5. Kids
    6. Love
    7. Family
    8. Self-actualization
    9. Integrity
    10. Freedom

  59. My Values ( I had like 30)

    Finances
    Family
    Relationships
    Love/Respect/Integrity
    Spirituality/Faith-in God as well as in others
    Happiness/Peace-all about me
    Writing/Creativity
    Health-mentally and physically
    Home
    Career

    They seemed to pour out of me.

    Peace, Love and Chocolate
    Tiffany

  61. Tina
    The first five minutes of this exercise, i quickly jotted down at least twelve things, then i got stuck the last ten minutes. I am happy with my reset 10 choices, my relationship with God, wisdom, and Knowledge being part of them. I liked this exercise.

    • I liked this exercise as well. I thought it would be more difficult and I was dreading it. Glad I kept reading.

  62. (In no particular Order):
    RESPECT
    Family
    Good health
    Financial security/freedom
    Self-worth
    Good Friends
    Spirituality
    Exciting Life
    Life Purpose
    Trust

  63. My Values (I managed to get my list down to 11)

    1. FINANCES – Stability, security, independence, living within my means
    2. SPIRITUALITY – Reconnecting, inner peace, fellowship, faith
    3. LOVE – Happiness, passion, unconditional, trust, respect, companionship, fulfilment
    4. HEALTH – Lifestyle (eating & fitness), physical challenges
    5. FAMILY – Love, unity/togetherness, having children
    6. LOCATION – Privacy, security, homely, relaxed/calm living environment
    7. CAREER – Achievement, success, determination, fulfilment, development
    8. COMMUNITY – Helping others, giving back – service
    9. RESPECT – For self and others
    10. SELF – Growth, worth, creative expression, awareness, cultural experiences, purpose, love, excellence, strength

    Additional
    11. SEEING THE WORLD – personally and through work

  64. being around good people, especially family and friends
    being loving, nice, and helpful to others
    doing something you love each day in order to find peace and relaxation
    having a relationship with God
    enjoying music, dance, and reading
    continually seeking knowledge and self-improvement
    being honest and fair
    being monogamous in a relationship
    being an open communicator, especially when problems arise
    being a productive member of society

    • doing something you love each day to find peace and relaxation….I like this one :)

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  66. authenticity
    self-determination
    creativity
    craft
    self-fullfillment
    love
    empowerment
    compassion
    financial stability
    connection

  68. Spirituality
    Contributing to my community
    Love
    Financial Independence
    Cultivating healthy relationships with family, friends, etc.
    Healthy Lifestyle
    Environment
    Living a wholesome lifestyle
    Not being afraid to explore new ideas, and thoughts
    Exploring creative ideas
    Focusing on my inner self

  69. My Values

    Integrity
    Compassion
    Unconditional love
    Self- Confidence
    Spirituality
    Family
    Passion
    Financial stability
    Wisdom
    Service

  70. I’m a little late with adding all of these but I just transferred everything electronically, here is my Reset 10:

    Reset 10:
    Respecting my body
    Engaging my mind
    Loving unconditionally
    Being a good mother
    Financial wellness
    Healthy lifestyle
    Family
    Integrity
    Temperament
    Acceptance

  71. Hello all! My values are listed as follows (in no particular order):

    1. Integrity
    2. Trust
    3. Honesty
    4. Economic Security
    5. Religion
    6. Wisdom
    7. Family
    8. Achievement
    9. Community Service
    10. Healthy Living

  72. Living peacefully, treating others with respect, being mindful of blessings, being present in the moment, being bold and fearless, healthier living, embracing my talents & skills, learning & evolving, service, expressing myself creatively.

  73. In no order:

    Creating a calm living environment
    Healthy living
    Good mental health
    Family
    Connecting w/ like minds
    Teaching my child discipline
    Independence
    Growth
    Self expression
    Beauty

    • I love self-expression and connecting w/like minds as values..I may need to add on to my list!

      • I didn’t realize how important connecting with like minds was to me until I realized I hadn’t done it SO long.

    • I appreciate that teaching your child discipline is one of your top values. That fact alone should make you successful at it.

  74. Values

    Happiness
    Trust
    Love
    Education
    Religion
    Friendships
    Financial Stability
    Cultural Experiences
    Personal Health
    Loyalty

    • I am so on board with your values! They really reflect a lot of my own ones, especially the Cultural Experiences. I think those are so important to have and it’s nice to see I’m not the only one who feels that way =)

  75. Done!

    Values: In no particular order.

    Money
    Power
    Respect
    Love
    Wealth (career & happiness)
    Honesty
    Health
    Companionship
    Friendship
    Marriage

  77. Family
    love
    Health
    Respect
    Honesty
    Relationship with God
    Happiness
    Peace of Mind
    Knowledge
    Seeing the World

  78. 1-Creativity
    2-Love
    3-Living well
    4-God
    5-Passion
    6-Purpose
    7-Family
    8-Mentoring
    9-Financial stability
    10-Balance

    • I love the idea of balance and love that it is a value of yours. I think with balance the other things will fall into place.

      • Thanks April. I am having a very hard time creating balance in my life right now. Too much of my time & energy is devoted to things that I have little to no interest in at all.

  79. Okay so I tried and tried to get to get my number to 10. I started with 49 during brainstorming. Narrowed it to 23, then to 15 and finally 12.

    In no particular order: Adventure, Change Agent, Health, Joy, Serenity, Faith, Personal Freedom, Relationships, Community, Wisdom, Financial Independence, Professional Development

  80. Sorry for the late post. In any case it was very hard to narrow this list down to just 10 things, but here I go.

    Faith- My walk with God
    Relationships- Friends, Family, and Business
    Growth- Personal and Professional
    Travel- I must see the world
    Public Service
    Economic Security
    Integrity
    Influence- My Legacy
    Health
    Leadership

  81. Here is my “reset 10″ in no order.
    Independence, Economic Security, Fitness, Loving Life, Courage, Love, Achievement, Joy, Health, and Friendship.

  82. Sorry! Just catching up (finals!)
    My Christ-walk
    Family
    Happiness
    Fulfilling employment
    Financial security/stability
    Travel
    Integrity
    Intelligence
    Balance
    Health

  83. Faith IntegrityLoveGratitudeServiceFamilyRelationshipsPersonal Growth/Education Travel/Cultural ExplorationHealth/Fitness

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  86. Fitness and Health
    Personal and Professional Growth
    Financial Freedom
    Stronger Faith
    Health relationship with family
    Happiness internally
    Being social
    Loving myself more
    Self-awareness
    Compassion

  88. Spending time today catching up on assignments. It’s hard to do the values thing, because I do my best to live these principles instead of merely speaking about them. Here are mine:
    • Incorporating travel into my life on a much more regular basis
    • Continually pushing myself to be more vulnerable, engaged, and impressive in the expression of my artistic vision
    • Finding a balance between introspection and meditation and the diligent pursuit of meaningful employment
    • Finding more ways to contribute to the spiritual health & growth of my community
    • Honoring my role as a cultural preserver through all of the means available and of interest to me
    • Having as much fun as respect, maturity and physical passion in my romantic relationships
    • Counting my joy every day with affirmations or words of gratitude
    • Being boldly smart and refusing to dim my light because of other people’s issues
    • Taking more time and care in expressing my outward beauty
    • Listening more, talking less, observing, being intuitive and acting with purpose

    • I loved that you were very detailed in your list. I went that same route and because of that, the other tasks have been much easier.

    • -Counting my joy every day with affirmations or words of gratitude

      I really enjoyed reading your values list. Loved how detailed you were as well. I pulled this one out because I do this too and it helps bring my focus to the positive rather than dwelling on the negative.

  89. Faith – Building a stronger foundation in my faith walk and serving more in my church
    Volunteering- Via community and public service
    Activism
    Travel
    Relationships- building stronger bonds with my family and friends
    Financial Peace & Comfort – living within my means
    Healthy living- maintaining good health while living with chronic illness
    Integrity/Responsibility
    Compassion/Love
    Success

  90. WOW! I came up with over 40 values in my 15min. What is so beautiful and amazing is that the majority of my values deal with helping others & finding inner peace!

    Financial awareness & abundance

    Motivating others

    Charity work : children, women, and the elderly

    Becoming closer to God

    Having more fun with Dolce (my furbaby)

    Becoming a better friend

    Working within my community

    Touching the lives of others through my creativity

    Coming/going as I please : FLEXIBILITY

    Gaining wisdom

  91. I was surprised that I was able to come up with almost 20 values and things that matter most to me in life. This was a great eye-opening exercise.
    Here are my top values in no particular order, except for the first 4:
    Faith
    Family
    Financial Peace
    Good Health/ Healthy Living
    Volunteerism
    Education
    Love
    Civic Involvement
    Community Involvement
    Travel
    Freedom
    Flexibility

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  93. Reset 10:

    Happiness/Joy

    Peace

    Health

    Integrity/Responsibility/Accountability

    Education

    Financial Stability

    Creativity

    Love (of self & others/from self & others)

    Being Social

    Independence (along with the ability to care for others)

  94. Here’s my Reset 10:

    1. Professional Success
    2. Love for Myself
    3. Economic and Financial Stability
    4. Education and Learning
    5. Having a close and happy family
    6. A good relationship with God
    7. Fairness and Integrity when making decisions
    8. Open-mindedness
    9. Helping my community and Mentoring youth
    10. Living within my means

  95. Here’s my Reset 10:
    Faith
    Love
    Family
    Friendships
    Flexibility
    Autonomy
    Learning
    Financial Stability
    Physical Fitness
    Healthy Living

  96. Greetings ladies. I really stretched from this exercise, and will continue to explore my values. Here are my Reset 10:
    Faith
    Leadership
    Economic security
    Cultural experience
    Personal growth
    Sharing love in all my personal relationships
    Professional success
    Respect for the environment
    International travel and world exposure
    Pursuit of knowledge
    I’m working on a post to explore my values further.

  99. Family
    Financial Stability
    Love
    Friendship
    Employment
    Creativity
    Travel
    Organization
    Structure
    Working From Home
    Weight
    Health
    Happiness
    Confidence
    Assertiveness
    Time
    Independence
    Passion

  103. Here is my list of values and the most important ones have an asterisk next to it.
    Sanity
    Happiness*
    Friendship*
    Companionship*
    Community
    Knowledge
    Life experiences*
    Spirituality*
    Comfort
    Growth*
    Independence
    Truthfulness
    Transparency*
    Health*
    Personal Time
    Self-esteem*
    A Good character*
    Culture

  106. My Reset 10 (in no particular order)

    nature
    ambition
    savoir-faire
    integrity/good character
    growth
    success
    peace
    love
    health
    beauty

  107. My “Reset 10″ Values

    1. My family
    2. Independence
    3. Financial security
    4. Knowledge / Education
    5. Trust
    6. Loyalty
    7. Honesty
    8. Wisdom
    9. Achievement
    10. Courage

  108. For some reason I found this to be a difficult exercise…but here goes my list in no particular order (except for #1 because I think that helps everything else to fall in place):

    1. Living a Christ centered life
    2. Peace
    3. Financial Security
    4. Motherhood (being a good Mother)
    5. Self-love/empowerment
    6. Family
    7. Success
    8. Education
    9. Helping others (both financially and with my time)
    10. Healthy Lifestyle

  110. Hola Ladies,
    1.) Family
    2.) Healthy Relationships
    3.) Honesty
    4.) Healthy Lifestyle
    5.) Financial Stability
    6.) Contentment
    7.) Self-Awareness
    8.) Learning
    9.) Personal Appearance
    10.) Compassion

  111. I enjoyed this activity. It was easy to identify what I value in life. Difficulty was choosing which 10 to share. I thought of all the ideals I hold in high esteem in my life.

    Reset 10
    Family (marriage, husband, children though I don’t have this yet)
    Family (parents, siblings, extended family, and friends)
    Love
    Legacy
    Creativity
    Balance
    Self Awareness
    Human Connectivity
    Stability
    Sunshine (my personality, happiness, how I want my life to be…a big ball of sunshine. Hot, vibrant, warm, golden sunshine…)

  112. This was pretty easy for me. I developed a personal mission statement years ago when I read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey. I just took my values I used when I wrote that.
    I value….
    Success
    being able to help others including my friends/ family
    Continuous education and learning
    Ability to travel
    Financial stability
    Happiness/joy

    Stable relationship

  113. I value the following:
    integrity
    following one’s intuition
    economic independence
    doing what you love for a living
    having the courage to leave unhealthy/unhappy situations
    giving and receiving love
    intelligence
    common sense
    travel

  114. Things I value…
    1. A job that offers me the flexibility to come and go as I please.
    2. Living in a climate that allows me to buy a light Winter coat and affords me the opportunity to visit the beach in December.
    3. Living a life of service to God and my fellow man.
    4. Religious freedom and my walk with Christ that will end someday in Heaven.
    5. Being financially free; not owing anyone anything. Being able to live very comfortably, while always preparing for rainy days.
    6. My family and friends. Maintaining healthy relationships with each and every one of them.
    7. Having a home that my loved ones (husband and children one day) feel welcome in.
    8. Educational freedom. Being able to attend any school I want, studying anything I want.
    9. Good health. Being on the opposite end, I know what it feels like to not know if tomorrow will come.
    10. The hope of a husband that reminds me how Christ loves His bride (the church) and children to remind me of God’s love for His Son.

    It was kind of hard to narrow down this list, but here it is. I tried to think about things that are important to be now at 25 and should be important to me at 55. I want to consistently make right choices so that I can live a full, joyous life.

    My blog entry is here: http://keikokaveri.tumblr.com/post/2084593523/day-3-identify-your-values

  115. im happy that this was very easy for me. my values (in no particular order) are as follows:

    positivity/goodness
    honesty
    openness
    learning
    joy
    respect
    beauty
    relationships (family/friendship & otherwise)

  117. So I did this before I read the comments, and I’m glad I did, because I didn’t want to be influenced by other ppl’s lists. I’m seeing that I didn’t list things that others did, like financial security, tho one could argue that things I did list (intelligence & hard-work/hustle) can get you financial security. Great exercise.

    My list is
    Intelligence
    Loyalty
    Trustworthy
    Responsibility
    Personal Freedom
    Hardwork/hustle
    Beauty
    Wisdom
    Joy/Happiness
    Creativity

  119. This exercised helped me to better understand what I really value and narrow down my focus of what is important to me. It was a little difficult because as you grow through life your values change and some things are not as important to you anymore.

    My Reset 10 values are:
    1.Healthy Living
    2.Success/Achievement
    3.Relationships w/ family and friends
    4.Faith
    5.Personal Growth
    6.Being Financially Able
    7.Love
    8.Inspiring, motivating and encouraging others
    9.Determination
    10.Courage

  120. Here’s my link to my values and explanations for each: http://truetooneme.livejournal.com/293931.html

    As a list by itself, they are as follows:

    1. Quality
    2. Integrity
    3. Maturity
    4. Excitement, Fun, and Laughter (yes, I need all three. lol)
    5. Life-Long Learning
    6. Peace of Mind
    7. Effective Communication
    8. Accomplishment
    9. Healthy Living (Diet & Exercise)
    10. Self-Discovery

    I chose these from the 20 that came from my brainstorming…glad we did this one! :o )

  121. This I would have to admit was hard for me after the 5th value

    1. Religion
    2. Healthy living
    3. Family
    4. Education
    5. Financial stability
    6. Travel
    7. Self-confidence
    8. community involvement
    9. living in content
    10. joy

    http://royzz.tumblr.com/

  122. At first I was like this is too easy, but like Libryia, I had to be totally honest. Here’s my Top 10 list in no particular order:
    Family
    Spirituality/Faith
    Friendships/Relationships
    Financial Security
    Honesty
    Privacy
    Freedom/Independence
    Compassion towards Others
    Communication
    Fun/Entertainment

  123. This list wasn’t that difficult for me to come up with but I did have to make sure I wasn’t thinking about “what would be good values to list, what should i value” I think in doing these types of exercises it’s easy to fall into trying to give the “pageant” answer and that just wouldn’t be productive. So, I thought through my life and about the things that I have, on a recurring basis, worked toward. Actually expended energy to do and the things that I’ve been passionate about the things that have angered me when they weren’t present, because those are quite obviously the things I value and I have back-up, support, to substantiate it…not just a thought that “this would be a good thing to value”. LOL. So, here is my list of things i value and the (R) next to them indicate what will be my top 10 (it was hard to pick a top 10). They are in no particular order:

    Relationships (Family and Friends) (R)
    God (R)
    Love(R)
    Success (R)
    Security/Stability (R)
    Experiences (R)
    Enjoyment (R)
    Personal Growth (R)
    Knowledge
    Faith
    Self-Awareness (R)
    Cultural Pride
    Self-Esteem (R)
    Comfort
    Harmony

    • I’m glad you didn’t give the “pageant” answer :) And I’m glad you made that point because it can be easy to think of our values in terms of what we *should* care about versus what we actually do value.

    • Pageant answers is a good way to describe it; I’m stealing that. I wrote a list as soon as I read the assignment on a post-it. As I was eating lunch I wrote another and at home that even yet another. I compared the list to see if I wasteuly representing the real me. The day after I posted my list I realized that spirituality is important to me yet it isn’t on my posted list.

  124. aww man, I used to have a personal mission statement and it was GOOD…I wish I knew where the heck it was, lol.

  125. Here are mine…they are in no particular order:
    God
    Family
    Success
    Education
    Helping others
    Leadership
    Living comfortably
    Legacy
    Friendship
    Love

  127. These are the things that I value most (but not in any particular order).
    Success
    Family
    Good Health
    Appreciation
    Friendship/Relationships
    Philanthropy
    Respect
    Integrity
    Trust
    Faith/Religion
    Wealth (being financially stable and comfortable)
    Safety
    Appearance

    This was a fairly easy task for me. I was able to write these down quickly and off the top of my head.

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