#31DayReset Day 7: Rest, Reflect and Comment

This post is Day 7 of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. Learn more and sign up for the program here.

Congratulations! You’ve made it through the first week of the 31 Days to Reset Your Life Challenge. In case you missed it, I posted a handy Guide to Getting the Most Out of Your #31DayReset to ensure you are maximizing this experience. For most participants, it has been a productive and enlightening week. For others, it may have been a bit more difficult to keep up with the daily assignments. That’s why today is dedicated to giving you time to catch up and reflect on the past week’s exercises as well as to connect with others in the challenge.

Estimated Time to Complete: 30 minutes

Today’s exercise is an opportunity for you to rest from all your inner work this week as well as reflect on your learning and share in your fellow participants’ progress over the past few days. Being able to compare and contrast your experiences and offer encouragement to others can be extremely useful as you move forward in your personal development journey! If you missed any of the assignments this week, this is also your chance to catch up.

Reflect

  • What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
  • What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
  • Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

Comment

Take Action and Reflect: When you’re done, please share your reflections with us in the comments. If you blogged about today’s assignment, please post the link in the comments so we can read it!
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37 comments

  1. I learned that a happier person is attainable. I just need to make the things that make me happy a priority.

    I enjoyed writing the letter to my future self. It was like giving myself a pat on the back a month from now. I was confirming everything I know I can accomplish.

    I struggled with identifying my values. Not really sure why. You know what you stand for and what is important. It was just hard to get those values on paper initially.

  2. The most important thing I learned about myself this week is that my priorities were not priorities. I was truly trying to be everything to everybody. I got an insight of my values and what my goals truly are, also that I’ve been having goals without actions.

    My favorite exercise so far would have to be Day 3: Write a Love Letter to Your Future Self, because it made me speak encouragement and life into my future.

    The exercise I struggled with the most was Day 6: Write a Personal Mission Statement, because I never thought of me personally having a missin statement. This exercise made me think about everything from my values to goals and place them together in a way where I would have to speak life to them and place action to them in order to come to pass.

  4. WOW, I must say that this week have been a very eye opening one for me in more ways than one. I am very excited about making the choice to do the #31 day reset. The most important thing that I learned about myself over the course of this week is that even though I may appear happy on the outside I am no where near happy on the inside and have managed to keep my true feelings tucked away.
    So far all of the assignments have been my favorites because I ‘ve had to buckle down and hear ‘me’ and figure out who I am as a person and what makes ‘me’.
    I think I most struggled with the honest assessment of my life because self checking isn’t always glamorous and easy to do and once I looked in that mirror I wasn’t thrilled with that I ‘truly’ saw.
    With all that being said, I now know and understand where I am in my life and what I need to do to change it and make it what its supposed to be and not what its been. I believe that the #31 day reset has pushed me to really take a long good hard look at ME and I know what to work towards and most of all what to pray for.

  6. This week really did fly by…. overall I am enjoying the challenge.

    What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
    I learned that I have not been applying my values to my everyday life. I know what’s important to me, but for some reason I have been focusing on things that didn’t really matter.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
    My favorite exercise was writing the letter to my future self. I am excited about receiving the letter via email and seeing how much I have accomplished in 30 days.

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?
    I am struggling with writing the personal mission statement, because I want it to be meaningful. I want it to be something that I really live by. So it’s just a matter of putting my values into a statement that represents me. I plan to post it by tomorrow.
    Read my latest blog post…Day 5: Envision Your Values in Action

    • Thanks for sharing your experience so far! Remember that you can always go back and revise/change your personal mission statement. It is a living document that will likely shift and grow as you do!

  7. Wow I can not believe it has been a week already, It went by so fast :)

    What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
    I learned that all this time, I have been living by my values without even having seen them down on paper yet. It makes much more sense now that I reflect upon my past and understand the decisions I had to make and why I made them.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
    My most favorite exercise was the mission statement. I liked it because I have always wanted to have one but I always thought it was the hardest thing ever. So glad, I found out it wasn’t. Thanks Rosetta :)

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?
    I struggled the most with Day 5 exercise: Envision your values in action. I realized I was so harsh on myself while rating my own values. But then again, seeing those low rates motivated me even more to do better, to become better .

    xoxo to all

  8. The most important thing I learned about myself this week was my top 10 values. I have never sat down and listed what my values were. Doing that exercise opened my eyes to a few other things I didnt realize would rank up there. I think it is good to get that down on paper to remind yourself. That way you can pick and choose what is right or wrong for yourself. I would have to say this was my favorite exercise.
    I would have to also say that this is one I struggled with the most. Brainstorming what my values were wasn’t easy. I had to think on it a while before starting to write anything. I knew what some were but struggled to come up with a word to express it, narrowing it down to my tope 10 was a challenge- I had to take a break before doing that too. I have to say that is the most rewarding after completing it. I am so ready knowing what they are now. I can truly focus on what I want to do and weed out the things that don’t really fit me.

    • I’ve remembered and rediscovered so much about myself through this process. I feel like my spark is reignited again. I really enjoyed and benefited from all of the activities. I think I most enjoyed and was challenged by the love letter and mission statement exercises. I wish you all prosperity on your journeys.

  10. •What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
    That I am truly ready to experience positve changes in my life and I am committed to see them through.

    •What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
    I liked coming up with the mantra and theme song. I love music and my theme song helps me feel inspired and I chose a mantra that really suits where I need to be.

    •Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?
    The mission statement was challenging but I was able to write honestly about where I am right now once I reminded myself that it may change over time.

  11. What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?

    I am a people pleaser and I’m struggling to get away from it.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?

    The love letter to my future self. I love that I actually took the time out to tell my future self how great she is and I ‘m proud of how far we have come in a certain amount of time. Sometime is great to talk to yourself in the present moment, but now I’m telling myself that I am wonderful and I must continue to believe in myself and I can reach every goal.

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

    Taking an honest assessment of myself because it hurts to see the things that are poor in my life on paper, but it did give me a chance to see what I should change about certain areas in my life.

  12. My most difficult assignment was day 5 – my values in action. !

    My favorite was writing a love letter to my future self and choosing a theme song!

    The mission statement well – I am still trying to get it right ,not perfect yet but i am happy with it for now

  13. I’m glad I had this day to catch up!

    -After doing these exercises, I learned that the choices that I’ve been making and the dreams I’ve been dreaming are recurring patterns. Time to start DOING! Also, I learned that I have a desire in me to push through all my insecurities by putting a stop to negative thinking, and I also know what’s holding me back from living a purpose driven life. Most importantly, I now know what I want out of life and I understand myself more!

    -My favorite exercise was writing my mission statement, very powerful, I want to frame it :-) .

    -I had difficulty with the lifestyle assessment because it was sad to see areas where I had no “likes” at all and seeing more “dislikes” than “likes.” That really sucked but I was glad to be honest with myself.

  14. The most important thing I learned about myself was that I need to make more time to do the internal work necessary to live the life I really want. I get so focused on what’s right in front of my nose (I need a job! I need to apply for these opportunities!, and so on) that sometimes it’s hard for me to pull back and see the larger picture. I also realized that while things could be better, they’re pretty okay the way they are now.

    My favorite exercise was the personal mission statement, which surprised me. I thought it would be difficult and I would get stuck but once the pen hit the paper everything just flowed. I liked that it let me really home in on what’s really important and essential at this point in my life.

    Actually, writing the love letter to my future self was the most difficult assignment. It was hard not to feel like I was being a little…corny? Ridiculous. Not sure why though.

  15. What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
    The most important thing that I learned was that although I am very happy, I can be a whole lot happier. I also learned that I have put many values on the backburner and I need to be constantly holding true to all of my values on a daily basis.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
    My favorite exercise so far has been the mission statement. I think that a mission statement is an excellent rubric on which I can gauge exactly what I’m doing and how it lines up with my values. Just as businesses and corporations use their mission statements to express why they do what they do, I want to do the same personally.

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?
    Actually, I struggled most with rating my values and naming three things I could be doing. I struggled with this particular exercise because it gave me a real look into what I’m NOT doing. It was a big wake-up call for me.

  16. This Reset Challenge has definitely made me digg deep into myself and see who I truly am on the inside. The most important thing I learned about myself this week was I like every aspect of my life except the relationship area. That is one area I know I need to work on. My favorite exercise so far has been writing the future me letter because I will know if I can truly hold myself accountable. The exercise I struggled with was coming up with my “Reset 10″ values beacuase I truly only have a few values in my life. But I searched for others to expand my growth.

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  18. I am really thankful for this 31DayReset, even though mine will probably last a lot longer since I have fallen behind a bit. But as long as I get there I am okay.

    The thing I learned is that I can deepen and strengthen my self love and self worth. I would always think how can i love myself more or how can I increase my worth and this daily development has really helped me focus and center myself on these very things.

    My favorite exercise was the assignment that allowed me to to list and define my values. It is important to know what I hold as important so that I can know what I stand for. IF I come across something or someone that does not align with my values then I know there is nothing there that will benefit me and the choice to stop or not even pursue it will be easy!

    The most challenging exercise thus far was taking an honest assessment of my life. Let’s be honest, being real with our selves is something we like to think we are doing, but we rarely are actually doing. So being honest and seeing that I was unhappy with most areas of my life was a real wake up call for me.. one that I really needed to come to terms with.

  19. My favorite exercise thus far has definitely been the mission statement. I am really good at determining what I don’t want. And, as my current life demonstrates, being against something is not the way to get what you do want. The mission statement was an opportunity for me to focus on the yes’s of my life. This is what I want to do and doing these things really can lead to my happiness.

    The most difficult exercise was assessing my life. I see/saw every unhappiness as a failure. I’m not as independent as I want to be (there are reasons, but that’s not the point – I haven’t achieved that goal and so that’s a failure), I’m not as healthy as I want to be, I’m not as good a parent as I want to be . . . failure, failure, failure, failure. BUT, now that I have my mission statement, I know what I can do to get to where I want to be. It’s like I was walking in the darkness of my no’s trying to find a path. Of course I couldn’t do it. BUT, now that I have the lantern of my mission statement, I feel that I am well on my way.

  22. What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?
    – I learned that it is way past time to make some changes in my life. I have been stuck in a rut for quite some time and the only way I can get out of this rut is to take a step. I also learned that I can quiet the fears and doubts in my mind by moving ahead with my goals and putting action behind my dreams.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?
    – My favorite exercise was the life assessment. It forced me to admit some truths to myself and I saw more unhappiness than happiness which was not good at all.

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?
    – I struggled with writing the letter to my future self. I think I struggled with it because right now I feel very trapped. In many ways it is hard to see major changes take place in my life over the next 30 days. I’m hopeful that in 30 days when I receive my letter, I can smile.
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    • I agree with you.. the letter was hard because all we can see is what is right in front of us.. but change will occur.. even if you have to keep on writing those letters to yourself!

    • I agree, the hardest assignment so far was writing a love letter to my future self. I am a little skeptical that much of what I hope to change in my life will get any better in 30 days…perhaps if I could have dated the letter 6 months into the future. At the same time, in 30 days it might be good to have a reminder from the past to nudge me to continue the process of change.

      Ditto on the self assessment. As painful as it was to assess those areas of my life, it felt liberating to confront them and resolve to move on.

      Good luck with the rest of your reset!

      • Hey Ayanna – so glad you’re with us. You should totally write a 6-month letter! The 30 day one I suggested is meant to be a little nudge to keep you going beyond the challenge :)

        • I completed the 30 day letter to myself and started working on a 60 day letter to myself. I figure if I set little goals then I am on a better path to my BIG goal

  23. Thanks for the day to catch up. I, for one, needed it! :-) .

    One of the most important things that I learned about myself is that I am afraid of two things: success and change. What I learned next is that I don’t have anymore time to waste on fear. I know the contribution I am to make in the world and by playing small isn’t helping it or me.

    Reflecting on my values and how I plan to live them out was my most favorite and it forced me to take what I say is important to me to the next level!

    I struggled with figuring out what I needed to do to take my Reset 10 to “10s”. It was hard to admit that the things I say are important to me, I hadn’t been putting any real effort or energy in. Definitely an eye-opener. Thanks!!!
    Read my latest blog post…31 day challenge: Day 6 – My Personal Mission Statement

  25. Even though we’re only a few days in I noticed immediately how quickly time flies by, the first time I did the reset was in December for the new year and when I saw it posted again I realized it had been 8 whole months since then, 8 MONTHS!! I don’t know why it shocked me so much but it made me think of how a lot of times we’re not even conscious of these things and you look up and it’s 8 months, a year, 5 years later and you think, what do I have to show for it? What could I have been doing?

    I was thinking about a few of the things I set out to do after the first reset [piano, exercise, more cooking] that I put off with the intention on doing but never getting to it and I’m like dang I could have 8 months of piano lesson, 8 months of fitness and 8 months worth of work on my cooking, by now but instead I’m here same 8 months went by, but nothing to show for it.

    It was very eye-opening, I don’t want to be so unconscious about where my time is going anymore, because it’s clearly going whether I go with it or not and I don’t want to spend another 8mos, 1 month even, waiting just to start.

    So that’s what this reset is about for me, the first was mainly about getting to the root of and addressing certain issues and I did thankfully, but now it time for action, tackling all the things that keep me from starting AND finishing, and elimination those bad habits [lack of organization, procrastination, fear etc] so I’m not here later writing the same thing.

  26. What was the most important thing you learned about yourself this week?

    I’m learning that I am not aggressive enough in working towards what I consider to be my values. I also spend far too much time on things that I don’t believe are valuable to me.

    What has been your favorite exercise so far? What did you like about it?

    My favorite exercise so far has been writing a personal mission statement. It was really inspiring to see in print what I envision my life to be. Even though the future feels so far away due to my relative youth, it still felt so real somehow.

    Which exercise did you struggle with the most and why?

    I struggled with Day 5′s “Envision Your Values in Action.” I found it difficult to assign a numerical rating to each of my top 10 values. Depending on what aspect or area of my life I looked at the rating could be higher or lower. I also found it a bit difficult to think of actual actions for some of my values.

  27. It has been really nice to hone in on my values and to develop ways to increase my ability to live out my values. It helps to get as clear as possible to produce best results.

    My favorite exercise this week has been the love letter to my future self. It’ll be interesting to see what manifests in the next 30 days.

    I started this challenge in May 2011 but stopped after Day 18 due to lack of interest. However, I was able to look back at the assignments I did complete and I’m noticing the difference in my responses now compared to my responses from a few months ago. This time around, I didn’t find any one exercise more difficult to do compared to the others, which was not the case last time. I found it very difficult to complete the life assessment because I had more hates than loves then. It’s easier for me to accept things as they are now, and to focus more on where I want things to be, and to be as gentle on myself as possible.

    • I noticed a difference in my responses too. I feel more prepared to move forward and develop a more concrete plan of action this time as opposed to before where I think it was more “wishful thinking.” It did open my eyes to a lot of things though and gave me that jolt i needed to realize it was time for change and seeing what I was wanting really made me want to know how to get it.

      I think this is definitely something you have to do continuously, “check-in” with yourself and re-evaluate things as you grow and it get clearer each time because what you said about the life assignment i can agree, I had a lot of dislikes and was much harder on myself and less accepting back then.

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