“You achieve much once you stop telling yourself you can’t do things.” — Elizabeth Kadetsky
Whenever you give an excuse for why you “can’t” do something that you want to do, you are denying yourself an opportunity to improve your life.
You are, without a doubt, delaying your happiness.
It’s not all in your mind, though. Your behavior may actually be deeply rooted in how you were raised.
When you were growing up, you probably heard your parents say things like:
- NO, that’s too expensive.
- NO, that’s too dangerous.
- NO, you’re too young.
Of course they did. That’s what parents do.
The problem is, many of us have carried all those limiting beliefs into our adult lives.
Instead of exercising our right to be, well, GROWN, we get into the habit of telling ourselves:
- NO, I can’t afford that. It’s too expensive.
- NO, I can’t try that. It’s too dangerous.
- NO, I can’t do that. I’m too old.
Whenever you find yourself making these statements, simply pause for a moment and really think about what you’re doing.
You’re essentially re-enacting the role of a protective parent…except that now you’re 36 and you don’t have to be in the house before the street lights come on.
It’s time to stop treating yourself like a helpless child.
In those moments of doubt and fear, remember these practical truths:
- I am an adult.
- I am in full control of my life.
- I can do whatever I want!
Remember that you are a powerful woman of faith. A woman who knows that she is not meant to live in fear. A woman who understands that she has already been given everything she needs to reach her goals.
Instead of saying NO to yourself all the time, give yourself the gift of infinite possibility.
Take a chance on that wide-eyed, fearless little girl you were before you learned to be afraid of the world.
And that is when you will finally become free.
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