I’m learning a lot of lessons so far from embarking on my summer self-care plan. Are you? Thanks to My Fitness Pal, I’m seeing that I rarely get enough calories during the day, I don’t drink nearly enough water and I still eat too much sugar (although I know my intake has gone WAY down from what it was).
What I’m also realizing is that taking care of yourself takes LOTS of time. Cooking, cleaning, grooming, exercising and sleeping take hours to do, even at the most minimal level. I mean, just the basic act of going to the grocery store and buying fresh pears to snack on instead of Oreos requires a certain amount of time. When you add in work, family and a social/love life, the hours dwindle even further. And when you pile on writing, reading, listening to music, travel and attending cultural/literary events (my entertainment activities of choice), you’re pretty much out of time.
What does this mean? It’s tempting to say that because we have only 24 hours given to us each day, it means that there’s simply not enough time to do everything. But if we’re really honest with ourselves, we can see that we actually plenty of time to do what we want to do. There’s just NO time to waste doing the things we don’t want to do.
Specifically, it means that:
You don’t have time for negativity.
If you’re truly striving for happiness and self-improvement, there’s no room for you to engage in gossip, petty arguments or drama. Just run the numbers. There are just not enough hours in the day to worry about what other people are doing if you’re busy doing what makes you happy.
Ultimately, you really only have two choices: either maximize your time by focusing on the positive or waste your time by dwelling on the negative. Every day, you get to decide which one it’s gonna be.
If you want to be happy, you must be very intentional about how you spend your time.
Happiness is a choice that only YOU can control. And the truth is that we are most happy when we are engaging in activities we enjoy and spending time with the people we love, all of which require…time. On top of the fact that most of us have to work in some capacity, which also takes a lot of time – at least eight hours a day if you have a traditional 9 to 5. So if you don’t like your job, strive to spend as little time there as possible. Or, find a way to get paid to do what you love.
No matter what you do career-wise though, it’s important to make room for what really matters and cut out everything that doesn’t. For instance, if family really matters to you, spend more time with them and less time watching mindless reality TV.
How you spend your time is a direct reflection of how much you love yourself.
I can’t even believe I just wrote that, even though I know it to be 100% true in my life. Right this very moment, I’m calling myself out on all the time I spend procrastinating on writing (which is something I say I love), returning emails (for work that I say I would be honored to get to do) and exercising (which I know is good for my mind, body and overall health).
Just like you, however, I am on a constant journey to greater self-love, of learning and relearning that I deserve to be happy, healthy and whole. When I am not confident in that truth, I procrastinate. I block my blessings. I don’t take advantage of the opportunities the universe has put before me. But when I’m able to stay in my power? My productivity shoots through the roof. I use my time in a way that honors my right to be a happy black woman.
How are YOU spending your time?