True story. I went to a new primary care doctor for a routine physical a few years ago, and after looking at my chart, he promptly asked me why I was so thin. “You’re underweight for your age,” he said. He looked truly concerned. He asked if I was eating three meals a day. I laughed, and told him I’ve been thin all my life because I have a super high metabolism. “I eat all the time,” I said.
And then he asked me something I thought only OB/GYNs would inquire about. “Are you having sex on a regular basis?” I was blown. Did this dude just ask about MY SEX LIFE? I had come for a physical, not a conversation about my sexuality. He then went on to explain his theory that perhaps I was depressed and needed to “make time for love” in my life so I would feel happier, eat more and eventually pick up more weight.
I changed doctors. But really, I shouldn’t have been surprised by his suggestions, since physicians and fitness professionals have long exalted the power of sex on your overall well-being. At the time, I was just completely clueless. Until my mom started writing about the very positive effects that romance can have on your health. According to WebMD, there are at least 10 major health benefits of sex, and of course I quickly zoned in on the ones that seemed especially relevant for stressed-out, workaholic women entrepreneurs like me.
Sex helps you sleep better
I know I’m not alone when I say that most nights, I’m up until the wee hours of the morning working on my business. I stay up late blogging and emailing and brainstorming when I should probably be taking a night off to get it on. When I have been able to do that with my boo in the past, it definitely made a world of difference the next day. Enough said.
Sex boosts your self-esteem
Let’s face it. Starting your own business is scary territory because pretty much everything is new to you. Especially for women, who are not usually encouraged to have an entrepreneurial spirit. But being able to strut your stuff into that big important client meeting or have the confidence to market yourself online makes a huge difference to your business’ bottom line.
Sex relieves stress
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve waited by the mailbox, checking my watch for the mailman to deliver a client check I’d been waiting on for weeks. Not getting paid on time was one of the first stressful situations I had to learn to deal with in my consulting business. I swear, I could just feel my blood pressure rising each day my mailbox sat empty! I believe this is when I developed my current drink of choice: bourbon and coke. Maker’s Mark, baby.
Clearly, I need some more sexual healing in my life to help boost my health as well as my business! And believe me, I’m working on it. What about you? Do you see the value that more sex can have on both your personal and professional life?
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Your primary care physician is supposed to ask you about your sexual health. He was doing his job, it’s unfortunate you found a new doc because of that. And the reasons for asking you about sexual health related questions span far beyond just “it’s good for you to have sex” and into your emotional, physical, and reproductive well being. Not to mention, you’re a young AA woman, who is at different risks for various sexually contracted diseases and infections that could affect a range of systems and cause a variety of symptoms. You should be more concerned about primary doctors who ARE NOT asking you such essential question.
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Wow I had no idea that there were so much positive outcomes of sex. Like you, I was completely clueless. Thanks for sharing. As a busy solopreneur I have been too busy and blinded that sex can be good for you.
Great points! As I get older I see the benefits of sex, and more importantly intimacy, on a totally different level. Finding someone who appreciates that it’s not the act alone makes it that much better.
My OB-GYN has never asked me that but mine is a female doctor, so not sure what role that played in the questions she asks. She makes me really comfortable, is really skilled and we do have in depth conversations.
I don’t feel this way about sex at all. Sex has never boosted my self-esteem, ever (nor has it lowered it though). Sleep after sex was no better than sleep when sex is not in my life, but I am a chronic insomniac since childhood. The best sleep I get is on a plane after a Unisom. Once I slept on a flight for nearly 10 hours. I’d like to reproduce that sleep because it was great. Sex doesn’t relieve stress for me. It simply postpones it. Adequate alone time, thinking time, introspection and problem solving relieves stress for me.
I think people should engage in sex, if they choose to, to be close to someone else, to express love or for sheer pleasure. Sex as a problem solver doesn’t seem like a good long-term plan. Since I don’t desire the former, or believe in the latter it doesn’t have much of a huge role in my life. If this actually works for someone and really makes things better for them otherwise, then I say more power to them.
Glad you shared your perspective. I probably resonated with these ideas because sex does actually give me boosts of good energy and restfulness. Not so much as a problem solver, but something like the high some people feel after exercise. Then again, I also see sex as a form of exercise in addition to a way to express love and receive pleasure, etc. For the most part, it’s always released those feel-good chemicals in my brain!
That makes sense, a form of emotional exercise, if you will. Good points.