Before I present today’s video post (yes, I said video LOL), I should probably explain WHY I’m in a blazer sitting on a yoga mat in the woods. I was all dressed up yesterday because I attended a conference here in Richmond where I was able to make several new contacts for my business. What I’m learning is that when you move to a new city, you can’t wait for other people to connect you. You have to go out there and connect yourself!
When I got back, all I wanted to do was sit down for a while and unwind from the day. And I started thinking about how my daily practices have been keeping me focused on what really matters to me, even through the stress of relocating, maintaining my business and navigating my personal relationships. I’ve been feeling happier and lighter and this is why.
In the video below, I share two of the daily practices that have been helping me in my journey:
- Meditation
- Releasing attachment
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I currently meditate, pray, and repeat affirmations. I can tell the difference between a day I meditate in the morning and a day I don’t. I like the idea of releasing attachment. There are some issues in my life that I think if I would just accept them for what they are, my happiness would increase infinitely. Thank you for sharing.
I also meditate and journal. But I’m working on developing a philosophy about life’s issues. I recognize that religion, spirituality is an approach to this issue. But I have opened myself up to reading the philosophies from the East because many spins on Western Philosophy are focused first on material things.
One of the things that has helped me is to embrace the philosophy of Zen. (not the religion per se) The belief for me that suffering is a part of life and that it is my role not to add to suffering in the world but to dedicate myself in my endeavors, thoughts and actions in helping others has really helped me to face life’s struggles. And yes the idea of “detachment” falls into that realm.
The other thing that I’ve observed about life over the years is the: there is always “one”. For me that means that every place I’ve worked, in my family and sadly among friends there is always at least one person whose mission in life is to judge me and not support me even though I have done nothing wrong to them.
That is where the idea that suffering is too apart of life.
it is up to me to know and understand that one does not have to be angry to separate. If for example someone treats you unkindly it is best to “release” them. That is a form of forgiveness. Let them go. Be cordial: I’ll greet them. But that is it: they are now on their own for a power higher than myself to help them. I remove myself from the role of being their savior. I’m kind but not possessive of them. I recognize that everyone and everything that appears to be a problem in my life is in fact reflective of a problem that I have not addressed in myself.
For example could my attachment be because I’m afraid of being alone, I’m afraid of public criticism, I have low self esteem. I reflect on these things in my journal and over time watch myself grow.
I hope that some of my insights are helpful to you. We are all connected. Each one teach one is what works best.
Make sure to show gratitude for all life’s lessons.
This came at the right time. I’m currently in a situation where everything is out of my control. There may be a resolution, but most likely, I won’t get what I want. And I’ve been feeling really devastated by that. But, after listening to your video I realized that a) I won’t die if I can’t have this experience and b) I need to let go of the attachment to it because it’s seriously making me miserable.
So thanks for this!
Thanks for reading, Tatiana. Your comment made me think about how we all receive an abundance of great opportunities and experiences over the course of our lifetimes, but somehow get stuck on the few that don’t work out the way we want them to. Wishing you peace as you grow through your situation.