My aunt thinks I’m a damn fool for breaking up with the lawyer. I don’t even know if you can call it a breakup, though. We were only dating for a month. We were just getting to know each other. It was fun, as all new relationships are. Until he started disagreeing with me. About everything. Like he had something to prove, all the time. He was also a chronic complainer. Clocking in at 5’5″ short, he tended to blame all of his hardships on the fact that he wasn’t as tall as the next guy. He kept saying that I was destined to dump him for a taller guy, as all of his previous girlfriends had.
It got old real quick.
I realized that I should not be arguing with someone this much, this soon. I need only positivity in my life right now. I’m in the critical stages of building my consulting business. I’m getting older and wiser and restructuring my life so I can do all the things that make me happy. So, the lawyer had to go. The world is not a courtroom. And I’m a lover, not a fighter.
All that negativity was killing me softly.
I never realized how toxic negative people can be until I changed my own perspective on life. In the past few years, I’ve come to understand this fundamental principle from spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson:
“Love in your mind produces love in your life. Fear in your mind produces fear in your life.”
In other words, what goes in is what comes out. What that means for me is that I try to surround myself with loving people in order to produce more love in my mind, and therefore more love in my life. When I hang around people that constantly live their lives in fear, it literally drags me down into the dumps with them as well. Whether it’s negative food or negative energy, it all affects your body, your soul and your mind. So these days, I’m much more careful about what I’m taking in.
What about you?
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You can absolutely be dragged down by negative people around you/in your life. And for me, in a relationship, I’m happy to give someone a boost of confidence, but if all I’m ever doing is negating the negative things you say about yourself and constantly boosting your confidence? Then it stops being a relationship and I start becoming your mother or your cheerleader, and that gets old so fast. If I have to constantly reassure someone they are worth my time, I start to question if that is indeed true.
Totally agree with you!!! Happy White Woman (love your blog)
I need an option for 2 snaps up. Good move.
I need an option for 2 snaps up. Good move.
I need an option for 2 snaps up. Good move.
Kids are so wise
As my 4 year old says: “when you think about good things, good things happen”
As my 4 year old says: “when you think about good things, good things happen”
Kids are so wise
What a perfect metaphor! I'm so intrigued by the power of positive thinking – it's so simple, it's almost hard for many people believe.
Yes – it's all about the energy for me, too. I'm learning to trust my “gut” more these days, too. If it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
There is a national geographic special about a photographer and positive thinking that says you have to first believe you'll see a miracle to experience it. I'm becoming more comfortable with my keen sense of intuition as I get older and realizing there are people and things not meant for me, no matter what others may think. This has made my life so much more peaceful and fulfilling! I LOVE feeling like the lady in the picture.
I'm glad you have gotten rid of the “dead weight”. Someone like him have some other issues going on inside his head that he may need to take care of before dating. I'm am the same way nce I beging to hear negativity of even fell negative energy its I am avoiding the situation or the person completely
There is a national geographic special about a photographer and positive thinking that says you have to first believe you’ll see a miracle to experience it. I’m becoming more comfortable with my keen sense of intuition as I get older and realizing there are people and things not meant for me, no matter what others may think. This has made my life so much more peaceful and fulfilling! I LOVE feeling like the lady in the picture.
What a perfect metaphor! I’m so intrigued by the power of positive thinking – it’s so simple, it’s almost hard for many people believe.
I’m glad you have gotten rid of the “dead weight”. Someone like him have some other issues going on inside his head that he may need to take care of before dating. I’m am the same way nce I beging to hear negativity of even fell negative energy its I am avoiding the situation or the person completely
Yes – it’s all about the energy for me, too. I’m learning to trust my “gut” more these days, too. If it doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t.
I actually wish I had made that decision sooner – to hold certain people at arms length. Would have made my days much brighter at many times in my life! But like you said, we all have to learn from our mistakes. Me? I'm learning every day…
Really good stuff to read. As I've gotten older my unlimited patience has developed limits. The first thing to go was people that had the potential to bring me down. I held them at arms length. It was instant weight lifted off my shoulders. Good for you. Good for the lawyer as well. I've had to learn from my mistakes and hopefully he will as well. I'm sure someone is blogging about the mistakes I made *GRIN*
Really good stuff to read. As I’ve gotten older my unlimited patience has developed limits. The first thing to go was people that had the potential to bring me down. I held them at arms length. It was instant weight lifted off my shoulders. Good for you. Good for the lawyer as well. I’ve had to learn from my mistakes and hopefully he will as well. I’m sure someone is blogging about the mistakes I made *GRIN*
I actually wish I had made that decision sooner – to hold certain people at arms length. Would have made my days much brighter at many times in my life! But like you said, we all have to learn from our mistakes. Me? I’m learning every day…