“You achieve much once you stop telling yourself you can’t do things.” — Elizabeth Kadetsky
I was just thinking that it’s been one of those weeks (months?) where I realize that if you truly commit to your big dream, it takes sacrifice. No, not sacrifice…I hate that word. It implies a loss or lack of something. More like intense focus. Giving in to flow.
But it’s not always easy to reconcile that with what everyone else is doing around you. Right now, my mom is on vacation having fun in Florida with my uncle and cousins while I’m having yet another working weekend. Right now, several of my friends from high school are meeting up at our old stomping grounds in Honolulu. (Did I tell you I went to high school in Hawaii? Yeah. My mom married a Navy guy when I was 9. We lived on Pearl Harbor.) So, I’m hatin’. Just a little. Okay, a lot.
What am I doing? I’m building the business that I said I wanted for myself. I’m being careful with my money so I can pay for my first coach training later this month and attend a few professional conferences in October. I’m prepping for a big speaking gig in Denver next week. (There’s supposed to be 200 people there. No pressure!)
I am taking my purpose seriously.
Have you ever read personal stories of successful people? Listened to interviews with people you admire? Usually there were years of intense work before the big reward/payoff. We so often only see people when they’re already accomplished, but we rarely see or know the struggle. How could we? The path to fulfilling your true purpose is so personal, which is why it’s always a gift when people do share those stories with us.
Lately though, I’ve been thinking that maybe the work itself is the reward. You learn so much about yourself, whether you’re building a business or a new life. You grow. You get the opportunity to share your unique, God-given gifts with the world. This, I think, is the bliss we all seek. But it requires a huge commitment. If you are an artist, you drop everything and give in to the inspiration. If you’re a coach, you submit yourself fully to the needs of your client. If you’re a writer, you stay up with the muse until 3am. You feel the words coming through you and you ride it out.
It’s not easy. It’s not even free.
It’s a heavy thing to finally be able to admit to yourself that you know exactly what you were put on earth to do and that you intend to do it. But here’s what happens when you do. When you finally take your purpose seriously and start doing the work that only YOU can do to serve the world, doors begin to open up.
And you begin to have the courage to start walking through them.