Last week, I had a great time in Ohio celebrating my Grams’ 71st birthday with my family. As she gets older, a lot of our conversations are basically her sharing stories and insights about her life with me. (By the way, she did give me permission to share this with you!)
One of the things we’ve been talking about lately is how she would’ve liked to have done more of the things she wanted to do when she was younger. Which is why I love that she is starting to try new experiences, like our recent trip to Jamaica!
Grams often reminisces about how she could’ve been an artist, which was one of her passions back in the day. I’ve seen her drawings and she was really good! Which is why she now has a room in her home with a drawing table and all her art supplies.
But she’s not alone in her regret.
I hear this sentiment often from Black women in my tribe who are my grandmother’s age and younger – those in their 60s, 50s and even their 40s.
Women who put their dreams on the back burner due to life circumstances – kids, family, finances, career, and depending how old you are – the fact that many opportunities were not even available to us as Black women back then.
Unfortunately, most women never seem to pick those dreams back up again. We leave them buried in the past, as if they never existed. We don’t dare to speak of our big goals or even write them down, because we’re afraid that achieving them isn’t possible, that it’s probably “too late” now and well, isn’t it silly to have “dreams” at this age?
What I’ve found in my own journey as well as coaching hundreds of women over the years is that doing what you REALLY want to do with your life is harder than it sounds. And the older you get, the “riskier” it seems. Sometimes, it feels easier to just stick with the status quo, same ol’, same ‘ol so you can fit in with everyone around you.
From your relationships, to your family, to your career, this “creating your ideal life” thing is not all sunshine and rainbows. But what I always say and will keep saying – is that yes, it may be difficult, but it’s definitely worth it.
Because what’s the alternative? Getting to the end of your life and wishing you had done things differently? Watching the time fly by with little to show for it? Harboring resentment towards your family and friends because you always catered to everyone else’s needs and never prioritized your own?
If you’re like me, you want to live your life to the fullest! Which means that we must love ourselves enough to live the lives we truly want.
The good news is that you’re never too old and it’s never too late to change your life! You can start small, with the little things.
- decluttering your home and letting go of everything that no longer serves you in this new season of your life
- upgrading your wardrobe to reflect the woman you want to be
- improving your diet and exercise routine so you feel better in your body
- starting a new hobby or creative project, like painting or learning to speak another language
- meeting new friends with similar interests
The cool part of this process is that the little things give you courage and momentum to go after the big things!
Which could lead to:
- taking your dream trip across the world to Hawaii, Europe, Africa, etc.
- starting the business you’ve always wanted
- writing the book that’s been burning inside of you
- attracting a new romantic relationship with an amazing man
- choosing one exciting thing from your “bucket list” to do every year
By the way, we’ll be exploring these themes and so much more in my upcoming Get Back to You program!
Stay tuned, because I’ll also be sharing some of the new FREE content I’ve been creating for you inside of our private Facebook group.
Have a wonderful week and remember –
You can do ANYTHING you want with your life and NO ONE can stop you…but you!