When I was in Morocco, I gave myself permission to relax and truly enjoy my trip.
Believe it or not, it’s never been easy for me to sit still and just BE.
I’m constantly thinking of new ideas and my mind seems to move a mile a minute.
Even when I’m on a breathtaking tropical island, it usually takes me a day or two to settle in and get into flow.
Do you know why I focus so much on goal-setting and taking action in your life?
Because like so many of you in our Happy Black Woman tribe, I am an overachiever.
Always have been.
Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve wanted to be the best at everything.
School, college, work and now business.
And yet, there was always “something” missing in my life.
That is, until I got curious about WHY.
Why did I have to be so busy all the time?
Why was I such a workaholic?
Why did I have to be A++ in life as if it were one long semester I was being graded on?
Here’s what I realized:
I had it all WRONG.
It’s actually not about the money.
It’s not about the job.
It’s not about the business.
It’s not even about the husband.
Or the house.
Or the car.
Or even jet-setting around the world.
I have at some point in my life, wanted all of the things I mentioned above.
The problem was, I thought I had to HAVE IT ALL before I could be happy.
But what it’s really about – and always HAS been about – is fully engaging in the journey of becoming the woman you were born to be.
It’s not just about getting what you want, although that’s part of it.
Ultimately, it’s about FEELING the way you want to feel.
It’s about knowing who you are and what you were created for.
It’s about being in alignment and walking in your purpose so that you can inspire others to do the same.
The secret is that you can BE all of that and FEEL all of that right now, as you are, with what you have.
You don’t have to delay your happiness until you get the wealth, the dream job, the successful business, the wonderful husband, the 2.5 kids, the big house, the fancy car or whatever else is on your vision board.
You don’t have to wait.
You can choose to be happy right NOW.
Notice I said “choose” – because happiness is a choice. It does not depend on what’s going on in your life or around the world.
Happiness is a state of being that you can access at any moment.
Joy is available to you as a gift you can unwrap any time of the day.
But if you find yourself making your happiness about anything else, such as:
Getting validation from others.
People-pleasing and needing to be liked by everyone.
Having the approval of your family and friends.
Pretending to be “normal” just so you can fit in.
Impressing people and looking good on the outside, neglecting what’s really happening on the inside.
Or anything else that lies beneath the facade that so many of us present to the world…
You’ll never experience the joy of being fully, unapologetically YOU.
And THAT is what life is really all about.